Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Any Ladies Here Ever Date A T-boy?


Guest krisspykriss

Recommended Posts

Guest krisspykriss

I was at the bar a couple weeks ago and while my boyfriend (who wont commit to just me) was working the room I was chatting with a really cute t-boy. I am not sure if he was just being sociable and a little flirty, or if he was interested in me. He is there pretty often. I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him.

Anyway, anyone here ever date a t-boy? I have dated other t-girls, but never the other side of trans. It seems most of the butch lesbians I know are not interested in t-girls, of course their not a t-boy either.

I am also curious if any of the FTM guys on here have or would date a MTF girl.

Link to comment

Well, I have barely dated as a male and as a MTF who is just now really accepting herself and not out to anyone I have not dated anyone but I have had what one might call a number of 'cyber dates' with a T-man in the past, it was wonderful because we understood each other so well there was never a need to discuss or explain any trans issues because we shared that experience and our dates were centered on how we felt about life and each other.

The importance of who you date is not who or what they are but how you feel about each other - that is where love comes in and when you are in love it doesn't matter how the other identifies themselves as how we identify ourselves doesn't matter to them.

I haven't heard from him in several months now, I don't know if he has found someone in his real life or someone else on line but what we had was very special to me and a memory that I will always cherish.

Love ya,

Sally

Link to comment

Yes I have,his name is Leigh.

And the coolest,is we are still friends even though not dating anymore.

You could not ask for a nicer more affectionate and patient guy.We started

a seven week relationship three days after name change and on my birthday.

I cherish this man and will always have a special place in my heart for him.

Smile,

Angie

Link to comment

me and anthony just celebrated out 3rd year anniversary he is the first trans any thing i have dated and had never really considered dating a trans man before i love him to death but we are complete polar opposites sometimes even our therapist wonders how we make a working relation ship lol

Sakura

Link to comment
Guest krisspykriss
Well, I have barely dated as a male and as a MTF who is just now really accepting herself and not out to anyone I have not dated anyone but I have had what one might call a number of 'cyber dates' with a T-man in the past, it was wonderful because we understood each other so well there was never a need to discuss or explain any trans issues because we shared that experience and our dates were centered on how we felt about life and each other.

The importance of who you date is not who or what they are but how you feel about each other - that is where love comes in and when you are in love it doesn't matter how the other identifies themselves as how we identify ourselves doesn't matter to them.

I haven't heard from him in several months now, I don't know if he has found someone in his real life or someone else on line but what we had was very special to me and a memory that I will always cherish.

Love ya,

Sally

Why don't you put yourself out there more? The various form of intimacy that comes from a relationship can really add fulfillment to your life. I am not talking about sex either, though it is part of it. The right partner can make life so much more pleasant and easier to deal with. I dont understand why so many trans people are so OK with being single.

Anyway, as someone who does put herself out there everyday, your preaching to the choir about what is important. HOWEVER, who you are attracted to physically is not all that voluntary. I can't have sex with someone I dont find physically attractive and I won't date someone I cant (eventually) have sex with. If you think about it, that's how it usually works.

I guess more specifically what I am really wondering is how willing they generay are to utilize the equipment they do have and willingness to interact with mine as well. I have dated t-girs who wont utilize what they have, and that was kinda the beginning of the end. It is frustrating.

Anyway, I have been thinking about perusing a couple of t-boys, but was just wondering if I am just more than likely wasting my time. Sure everyone is different, but I is there a tendency not not be attracted to t-girls?

Hugz,

Chrissy

Link to comment
I was at the bar a couple weeks ago and while my boyfriend (who wont commit to just me) was working the room I was chatting with a really cute t-boy. I am not sure if he was just being sociable and a little flirty, or if he was interested in me. He is there pretty often. I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him.

Anyway, anyone here ever date a t-boy? I have dated other t-girls, but never the other side of trans. It seems most of the butch lesbians I know are not interested in t-girls, of course their not a t-boy either.

I am also curious if any of the FTM guys on here have or would date a MTF girl.

Hi Krisspykriss.

I have only ever been intimate with women but I have read and have been told my sexuality may "flip flop" after hrt takes a grip and

to a degree rewires my head (some task that hahaha) . I know this is slightly off thread but you know what ??? to hell with hang ups, I have no idea

what its like but if I start to look at guys "that way"then so be it !!!!!Yes Im gonna go for it . Luv, Viv.

Link to comment
Guest krisspykriss
Hi Krisspykriss.

I have only ever been intimate with women but I have read and have been told my sexuality may "flip flop" after hrt takes a grip and

to a degree rewires my head (some task that hahaha) . I know this is slightly off thread but you know what ??? to hell with hang ups, I have no idea

what its like but if I start to look at guys "that way"then so be it !!!!!Yes Im gonna go for it . Luv, Viv.

I have always been bi, so I cannot really make a statement about flip-flopping on sexual preference. I can attest though, that since I began transition, I have only dated men with one exception. That has more to do with expectations on their part though. I think a lesbian would be a better fit for me than a straight or bi girl, but at this time I haven't dated one yet. As for men, I go for "bi-light". Guys who date GGs and TGs.

hugz,

Chrissy

Link to comment
I guess more specifically what I am really wondering is how willing they generay are to utilize the equipment they do have and willingness to interact with mine as well. I have dated t-girs who wont utilize what they have, and that was kinda the beginning of the end. It is frustrating.

Hugz,

Chrissy

About the equipment thing...

Is you have to respect each others feelings toward how comfortable they feel with what is between their legs and yours.I know with my guy,it was taboo past a certain point and the same went for me.We had a satisfying relationship,and the total female surrender was devine.He made me feel

so womanly,I loved making him feel like the man he is.Being held in a strong,warm,long embrace

was everything I had hoped it would be.

Angie

Link to comment
I have always been bi, so I cannot really make a statement about flip-flopping on sexual preference. I can attest though, that since I began transition, I have only dated men with one exception. That has more to do with expectations on their part though. I think a lesbian would be a better fit for me than a straight or bi girl, but at this time I haven't dated one yet. As for men, I go for "bi-light". Guys who date GGs and TGs.

hugz,

Chrissy

Thanks Chrissy,

Its when I read posts like yours I know its gonna be ok , I suppose as long as it "feels right" it most likely is , got to say again

though, my hang ups are a thing of the past , Ive suffered to much . Hope that does"nt sound too wacky.....at this stage Im projecting . Time will tell.

Luv,Viv.

Link to comment
Guest krisspykriss
About the equipment thing...

Is you have to respect each others feelings toward how comfortable they feel with what is between their legs and yours.I know with my guy,it was taboo past a certain point and the same went for me.We had a satisfying relationship,and the total female surrender was devine.He made me feel

so womanly,I loved making him feel like the man he is.Being held in a strong,warm,long embrace

was everything I had hoped it would be.

Angie

That's cool but being I love all equipment... a lot, it is like dangling my favorite food in front of me and saying I can't eat it... no pun intended.

Anyway, there was a t-girl I really liked a lot and had feelings for. I would say I loved her. However, because of her issues with her "goodies" we never had sex together in the several months we dated. That is just something I cannot deal with. I did give a good try though.

Hugz,

Chrissy

Link to comment
Guest kyattei

I've always dreamed of getting to date a t-boy or androgyone-leaning-towards-guy. I'd love to have a partner I could talk about transitioning with so easily and get advice and support eachother and protect one another and keep one another's secrets... It just sounds like the perfect dream partnership to me.

I always sort of wondered how intimate times would work out though where both of us would have a lot of insecurities about certain parts of our bodies... but Angie's makes her old relationship sound so wonderful! It's nice to hear that it can actually work out maturely.

I could go for any gender, but a t-boy would be my dream guy.. ^~^ ...too bad they all seem to avoid me like the plague. xD;;;

"I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him."

"However, because of her issues with her "goodies" we never had sex together in the several months we dated. That is just something I cannot deal with."

I think you should give him a shot, Kriss! Go and talk him up and see if you can have some dates (if your boyfriend is into experimenting and open relationships anyhow, it sounds like he is from not liking commitment), from there you could see if you have the... erm... chemistry down there to work out. :3 Everyone's different after all, some people are much more comfortable with working with what they have, so to speak. You'd only find out what he's okay with after getting to know him for a bit. If he doesn't want to go farther, at least it'd have been a new experience and you may make a good new friend.

Link to comment
Guest Syamantaka

:D Yes I have, First time was a lesson on the total sensitivity of one's body,

second time was with a T-girl, was very up front which I replied, I know, and a very

good time. 20yrs later with fond memories. when dating starts again I will again,

conversation is very important, but when there is magic in the air ..... Enjoy

Link to comment

I consider my one time doing so a very valuable experience.

I learned a great deal about myself and how to approach like relationships.

I'm currently doin' some gay dating and the experience has served me well.

Though we didn't see eye to eye on many things, I consider her a very special part of my life and there's very little I'd trade the experience for, that's for sure.

It's pleasant to have someone in the same position to talk to. This provided a special comfort of which I've never felt with anyone else and I'm grateful.

She will always hold a special place in my heart no matter where life takes me.

Link to comment

If I was single and she was my type I would date her(a mtf). Although dating is not number one on my list; I guess she would have to be ok with me working a lot and playing video games often.

Link to comment

I have Dated and Bedded a Close friend who presents as soft Butch Les... BUT after many tearful Heart to hearts over coffer and a Chat It turns out she was a Male in a decidedly Female body....we became close as you tend to do when you have something in common with them And it developed into an Intimate relationship... By that time... She/He Knew all there was to know about me... And I felt I knew her well enough to be intimate.... It was More like the two ships Passing in the night thing Rather than a Deep and Meaningful...we Both Needed a Cuddle .... And it worked out great....

O' and BTW.... the Sex Didn't ruin our friendship ... we are still mates but no longer intimate.

Link to comment
Guest Synyster

To me as an FTM when it comes to looking for a girlfriend I dont care what their gender etc is as to me its the personality of a person that counts. Am single and way things are I dunno how to go out and find a girlfriend.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   5 Members, 0 Anonymous, 76 Guests (See full list)

    • Ladypcnj
    • Petra Jane
    • EasyE
    • Lydia_R
    • Nicola_Atherton
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      770.3k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,104
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Nicola_Atherton
    Newest Member
    Nicola_Atherton
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Bobbijean
      Bobbijean
    2. Bryan
      Bryan
      (61 years old)
    3. jlw5ju
      jlw5ju
      (27 years old)
    4. ladykirabellum
      ladykirabellum
      (47 years old)
    5. Lizzie17
      Lizzie17
  • Posts

    • EasyE
      just found a cute pair of denim shorts with flowers embroidered in two places on the front ... daring myself to wear them around family today ... the flowers match the deep rose of the t-shirt I just bought... 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Not to justify it, but this is what happens when folks rely on accepting money from the government.  It just isn't secure!  When the times change and different winds blow, you find yourself coming up short on funds.  Don't trust the feds, don't trust the state.    I don't believe in separation of church and state.  I believe the USA is a Christian nation, but that Congress doesn't make an establishment of which kind of church that refers to.  Reading the writings left by the Founders (who were mostly Christian or Deist), I think it is pretty clear that they wanted to avoid the bloody Protestant vs. Catholic conflicts that had been going on in Europe for the previous 250 years.    I think one huge problem is that we've had a separation of culture and state already.  There's been an abandonment of traditional American culture, or at least a significant change in it.  People often act servile, not independent.  People seek government help rather than taking care of themselves and those around them.  Its like everybody is waiting for an answer, like baby birds in the nest chirping to have something delivered to them from up above.    To me, the federal government has two purposes - to keep foreign forces and influence out of our territory, and to tax foreign trade to protect domestic economy.  They've pretty much failed at both. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Actually, yes!  Its how I met my two trans friends.  My husband helped to arrange jobs and housing for both of them.  And in the process, they also fell in love, and so far their relationship is going well.  I'm glad to have been part of helping out.
    • KathyLauren
      I am not sure what "it" you are asking about.  The surgery, or the increased urgency of peeing?   I haven't felt any increased urgency.  I can hold it for as long as I used to, I think.  One thing that is different is that, once I start, it is almost impossible to stop the flow.  My pelvic floor physio said I had really good control of my pelvic floor muscles, but it didn't help with that.   My goal for surgery was just to have a female body.  I think I was foreseeing the persecution that is rising now.  Part of my reasoning, though I didn't plan it out clearly in those terms, was that I would be able to pass a strip-search gender check.  I was thinking more about passing in locker rooms, but passing in police lineups may be more necessary if certain political elements get their way.  
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Wow.  That's crazy that somebody just comes onto your private place and starts demanding stuff.  You're absolutely right to press charges.  It seems like there's very little respect for private property these days. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Actually, my husband has two different job titles at his company.  He's transportation manager, and also one of the project managers.  Its funny because he's got an office in the main building, and a smaller one in the transportation building, and he's rarely in either one.  He's got three site foremen who report to him, and also the shop supervisor and drivers' supervisor.  So he usually spends his days at installation sites, meeting clients, or handling all the paperwork that keeps the transportation side of the business compliant with FMCSA rules.    But he's definitely a truck driver by personality, and he taught me how to drive and helped me get my CDL.  Kind of a backup option for a job if I ever needed one.  I think this week is going to be one of those "all hands on deck" kind of occasions, so we'll probably take a load or two.  I'm looking forward to it.  Its really funny when I'm driving and we get into a truck stop.  I get out of the cab, and I get a lot of stares because of my size and looking like I'm a teenager.  And we get more stares when we share a shower.  
    • Lydia_R
      Yep, this thing is a red flag that people should be super aware of on this site.  I've been working from home exclusively for 12 years.  I'm a house cat like that, so this isn't much of a deterrent for me.  I've been venturing out into the women's restrooms a little bit lately, but as is typical of people like me, I'm just in there to do my business and get out.  I avoid that as much as I can and use those single bathrooms whenever I can.  I went over a year without going to a public restroom.  I just don't go out much.   I haven't stood to pee in 7 years now.  The idea of surgery is very, very scary for me (I wrote a book about it).  I'm likely going to do it though.  I would like some evidence from other transwomen of what it is really like.  I'm not one to take plane flights, but taking a flight for that is well justified.  Before my testosterone was blocked, there was a much larger sexual side to M->F transition.  Now sexuality plays a back seat to the idea of wanting to pee like a woman.  It's always been in my mind, but the desire for that has grown.   Respectfully, Lydia_R
    • April Marie
      Just a black skort and a yellow t-shirt with sneakers today.
    • Birdie
      Wearing my new top for my Zoom meeting today. ☺️
    • Lydia_R
      I've gotten to the point lately where I'm thinking of the extension of the separation of church and state to separation of culture and state.  Government's purpose to ensure a construct of civility.  Food, clothing, shelter and justice for the individual.  That includes the roads as far as they pertain to the distribution of food, clothing and shelter.  And "ensure" is different than "provide".   I think that there is no way to truly express yourself or have a good foundation without having a personal culture.  I like telling stories and teaching lessons through my culture, but I always hope that people don't think I'm promoting my culture beyond it just being visible as an option.
    • KatieSC
      I would imagine the GOPers are holding that by bull in their hand and paying attention to the Trump version with the nine commandments highlighted.
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Having to call the police on a woman that was being a Karen.Was in my shop fixing my car and wanted me to fix hers.Told her it was my personal shop and told her no.Would not take no for an answer and called the police.I did decide to press trespassing charges on her.I knew she was one of those entitled people
    • Ivy
      It is scary, (and as you say, thrilling) at first.  But the more you do it the easier it gets.  I dress fem 24/7 (almost always skirts and dresses) and I live in a conservative county of a "red state".   Sure, there are places I avoid, but I have little desire to be there anyway.  It gets to just be part of who you are.   My experience is that most people don't care, some are curious, and surprisingly many (usually other women) friendly.   The first steps are the hardest.  It's similar with bathrooms.
    • Ivy
      Don't know how this posted itself.  To continue…   There was a time when I tried to make excuses for them.  But I am coming to the realization that in their eyes, I, and those like me, are 2nd class citizens at best.
    • Ivy
      There is a rather large part of the GOP that is determined to strip the rights of trans citizens, despite us being a small minority, some with families, who work, pay taxes, and who do - and have served in our armed forces, are medics, nurses, etc.   They insist that the US is a "christian country" - referring to their particular brand of christianity.  And this is despite the constitution, that they claim near worship of, expressly prohibiting this very thing.    
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...