Any Ladies Here Ever Date A T-boy?

[Guest krisspykriss]

I was at the bar a couple weeks ago and while my boyfriend (who wont commit to just me) was working the room I was chatting with a really cute t-boy. I am not sure if he was just being sociable and a little flirty, or if he was interested in me. He is there pretty often. I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him.

Anyway, anyone here ever date a t-boy? I have dated other t-girls, but never the other side of trans. It seems most of the butch lesbians I know are not interested in t-girls, of course their not a t-boy either.

I am also curious if any of the FTM guys on here have or would date a MTF girl.

[Sally]

Well, I have barely dated as a male and as a MTF who is just now really accepting herself and not out to anyone I have not dated anyone but I have had what one might call a number of 'cyber dates' with a T-man in the past, it was wonderful because we understood each other so well there was never a need to discuss or explain any trans issues because we shared that experience and our dates were centered on how we felt about life and each other.

The importance of who you date is not who or what they are but how you feel about each other - that is where love comes in and when you are in love it doesn't matter how the other identifies themselves as how we identify ourselves doesn't matter to them.

I haven't heard from him in several months now, I don't know if he has found someone in his real life or someone else on line but what we had was very special to me and a memory that I will always cherish.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest angie]

Yes I have,his name is Leigh.

And the coolest,is we are still friends even though not dating anymore.

You could not ask for a nicer more affectionate and patient guy.We started

a seven week relationship three days after name change and on my birthday.

I cherish this man and will always have a special place in my heart for him.

Smile,

Angie

[Sakura]

me and anthony just celebrated out 3rd year anniversary he is the first trans any thing i have dated and had never really considered dating a trans man before i love him to death but we are complete polar opposites sometimes even our therapist wonders how we make a working relation ship lol

Sakura

[Guest krisspykriss]

Well, I have barely dated as a male and as a MTF who is just now really accepting herself and not out to anyone I have not dated anyone but I have had what one might call a number of 'cyber dates' with a T-man in the past, it was wonderful because we understood each other so well there was never a need to discuss or explain any trans issues because we shared that experience and our dates were centered on how we felt about life and each other.

The importance of who you date is not who or what they are but how you feel about each other - that is where love comes in and when you are in love it doesn't matter how the other identifies themselves as how we identify ourselves doesn't matter to them.

I haven't heard from him in several months now, I don't know if he has found someone in his real life or someone else on line but what we had was very special to me and a memory that I will always cherish.

Love ya,

Sally

Why don't you put yourself out there more? The various form of intimacy that comes from a relationship can really add fulfillment to your life. I am not talking about sex either, though it is part of it. The right partner can make life so much more pleasant and easier to deal with. I dont understand why so many trans people are so OK with being single.

Anyway, as someone who does put herself out there everyday, your preaching to the choir about what is important. HOWEVER, who you are attracted to physically is not all that voluntary. I can't have sex with someone I dont find physically attractive and I won't date someone I cant (eventually) have sex with. If you think about it, that's how it usually works.

I guess more specifically what I am really wondering is how willing they generay are to utilize the equipment they do have and willingness to interact with mine as well. I have dated t-girs who wont utilize what they have, and that was kinda the beginning of the end. It is frustrating.

Anyway, I have been thinking about perusing a couple of t-boys, but was just wondering if I am just more than likely wasting my time. Sure everyone is different, but I is there a tendency not not be attracted to t-girls?

Hugz,

Chrissy

[Guest Pól]

I would date a trans girl. I mean, it would depend on if I liked her or not, her being trans is kind of irrelevant to me.

[Guest viv]

I was at the bar a couple weeks ago and while my boyfriend (who wont commit to just me) was working the room I was chatting with a really cute t-boy. I am not sure if he was just being sociable and a little flirty, or if he was interested in me. He is there pretty often. I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him.

Anyway, anyone here ever date a t-boy? I have dated other t-girls, but never the other side of trans. It seems most of the butch lesbians I know are not interested in t-girls, of course their not a t-boy either.

I am also curious if any of the FTM guys on here have or would date a MTF girl.

Hi Krisspykriss.

I have only ever been intimate with women but I have read and have been told my sexuality may "flip flop" after hrt takes a grip and

to a degree rewires my head (some task that hahaha) . I know this is slightly off thread but you know what ??? to hell with hang ups, I have no idea

what its like but if I start to look at guys "that way"then so be it !!!!!Yes Im gonna go for it . Luv, Viv.

[Guest krisspykriss]

Hi Krisspykriss.

I have only ever been intimate with women but I have read and have been told my sexuality may "flip flop" after hrt takes a grip and

to a degree rewires my head (some task that hahaha) . I know this is slightly off thread but you know what ??? to hell with hang ups, I have no idea

what its like but if I start to look at guys "that way"then so be it !!!!!Yes Im gonna go for it . Luv, Viv.

I have always been bi, so I cannot really make a statement about flip-flopping on sexual preference. I can attest though, that since I began transition, I have only dated men with one exception. That has more to do with expectations on their part though. I think a lesbian would be a better fit for me than a straight or bi girl, but at this time I haven't dated one yet. As for men, I go for "bi-light". Guys who date GGs and TGs.

hugz,

Chrissy

[Guest angie]

I guess more specifically what I am really wondering is how willing they generay are to utilize the equipment they do have and willingness to interact with mine as well. I have dated t-girs who wont utilize what they have, and that was kinda the beginning of the end. It is frustrating.

Hugz,

Chrissy

About the equipment thing...

Is you have to respect each others feelings toward how comfortable they feel with what is between their legs and yours.I know with my guy,it was taboo past a certain point and the same went for me.We had a satisfying relationship,and the total female surrender was devine.He made me feel

so womanly,I loved making him feel like the man he is.Being held in a strong,warm,long embrace

was everything I had hoped it would be.

Angie

[Guest viv]

I have always been bi, so I cannot really make a statement about flip-flopping on sexual preference. I can attest though, that since I began transition, I have only dated men with one exception. That has more to do with expectations on their part though. I think a lesbian would be a better fit for me than a straight or bi girl, but at this time I haven't dated one yet. As for men, I go for "bi-light". Guys who date GGs and TGs.

hugz,

Chrissy

Thanks Chrissy,

Its when I read posts like yours I know its gonna be ok , I suppose as long as it "feels right" it most likely is , got to say again

though, my hang ups are a thing of the past , Ive suffered to much . Hope that does"nt sound too wacky.....at this stage Im projecting . Time will tell.

Luv,Viv.

[Guest krisspykriss]

About the equipment thing...

Is you have to respect each others feelings toward how comfortable they feel with what is between their legs and yours.I know with my guy,it was taboo past a certain point and the same went for me.We had a satisfying relationship,and the total female surrender was devine.He made me feel

so womanly,I loved making him feel like the man he is.Being held in a strong,warm,long embrace

was everything I had hoped it would be.

Angie

That's cool but being I love all equipment... a lot, it is like dangling my favorite food in front of me and saying I can't eat it... no pun intended.

Anyway, there was a t-girl I really liked a lot and had feelings for. I would say I loved her. However, because of her issues with her "goodies" we never had sex together in the several months we dated. That is just something I cannot deal with. I did give a good try though.

Hugz,

Chrissy

[Guest kyattei]

I've always dreamed of getting to date a t-boy or androgyone-leaning-towards-guy. I'd love to have a partner I could talk about transitioning with so easily and get advice and support eachother and protect one another and keep one another's secrets... It just sounds like the perfect dream partnership to me.

I always sort of wondered how intimate times would work out though where both of us would have a lot of insecurities about certain parts of our bodies... but Angie's makes her old relationship sound so wonderful! It's nice to hear that it can actually work out maturely.

I could go for any gender, but a t-boy would be my dream guy.. ^~^ ...too bad they all seem to avoid me like the plague. xD;;;

"I have thought about trying to get to know him a little better next time I see him."

"However, because of her issues with her "goodies" we never had sex together in the several months we dated. That is just something I cannot deal with."

I think you should give him a shot, Kriss! Go and talk him up and see if you can have some dates (if your boyfriend is into experimenting and open relationships anyhow, it sounds like he is from not liking commitment), from there you could see if you have the... erm... chemistry down there to work out. :3 Everyone's different after all, some people are much more comfortable with working with what they have, so to speak. You'd only find out what he's okay with after getting to know him for a bit. If he doesn't want to go farther, at least it'd have been a new experience and you may make a good new friend.

[Guest AshleyRF]

Have never, but ABSOFREAKINGLUTELY would! I love me some T guys.

[Guest Syamantaka]

Yes I have, First time was a lesson on the total sensitivity of one's body,

second time was with a T-girl, was very up front which I replied, I know, and a very

good time. 20yrs later with fond memories. when dating starts again I will again,

conversation is very important, but when there is magic in the air ..... Enjoy

[Guest amie]

I consider my one time doing so a very valuable experience.

I learned a great deal about myself and how to approach like relationships.

I'm currently doin' some gay dating and the experience has served me well.

Though we didn't see eye to eye on many things, I consider her a very special part of my life and there's very little I'd trade the experience for, that's for sure.

It's pleasant to have someone in the same position to talk to. This provided a special comfort of which I've never felt with anyone else and I'm grateful.

She will always hold a special place in my heart no matter where life takes me.

[Guest amie]

Disclaimer: Mine was a T-Girl, by the way.

I should've made point to specify, I guess? lol

[Guest Zabrak]

If I was single and she was my type I would date her(a mtf). Although dating is not number one on my list; I guess she would have to be ok with me working a lot and playing video games often.

[TassieTiff]

I have Dated and Bedded a Close friend who presents as soft Butch Les... BUT after many tearful Heart to hearts over coffer and a Chat It turns out she was a Male in a decidedly Female body....we became close as you tend to do when you have something in common with them And it developed into an Intimate relationship... By that time... She/He Knew all there was to know about me... And I felt I knew her well enough to be intimate.... It was More like the two ships Passing in the night thing Rather than a Deep and Meaningful...we Both Needed a Cuddle .... And it worked out great....

O' and BTW.... the Sex Didn't ruin our friendship ... we are still mates but no longer intimate.

[Guest Synyster]

To me as an FTM when it comes to looking for a girlfriend I dont care what their gender etc is as to me its the personality of a person that counts. Am single and way things are I dunno how to go out and find a girlfriend.