'contrasting' 'sexual' Desire?

[Guest Emily H]

Its odd...

I really want to live like, a female life, or be a girl, a real girl, in every aspect of life. At least, temporary, like cross dressing, maybe more some day, but anyway,

I also, a good amount of times, really like the idea of being a sissy, like a sissy maid, wearing extremely frilly dresses and undies, being 'forced' to dance around in them/do house work, etc, having a male body. That is extremely sexually appealing.

It just makes me wonder, or think, how different this seems from wanting to be a real girl, and its just so strange how I have both desires.

But, a few more things, as a sissy, I wouldn't want to be insulted or punished,d but treated like a girl. but with the male body...

I wonder, would this same, fantasy, arise sexually if I was a female? Does this just seem completely odd that I have this fantasy, and the wanting to be a real girl?

~Andrea

[TassieTiff]

You want the truth ? It sounds dead set Kinky....If you intend to one day progress beyond your current level of transition..... DON'T spend big Bucks on the outfit..... I kinda reckon you will look back on this Fantasy you have in years to come and laugh....... Like an Aweful lot of Fantasies.... It probably won't live up to the hype.

[Guest ChloëC]

Hi Andrea,

My own feeling on this is that having fantasies and an active imagination is a good thing. Sometimes it can act as a release when one can't actually respond to certain desires. But one also has to learn and understand that they are just fantasies and too often the reality is no where near as good nor will it meet any expectations. And trying to act them out makes it often worse then just having the imaginative thoughts.

To be whoever we want or hope or believe ourselves to be takes a lot more then imagination. In our fantasies we don't always have to eat or sleep (or even pay bills). Real life tells us that all these (and a lot more) have to be considered.

A good example would be some of the women here on Laura's that are a little further along on the road in transition. The ones that are now getting out, going shopping, meeting with friends, slowly taking on more opportunities to live the life they've dreamed about. (like Angie as an excellent example).

Now imagine doing what they've been doing. Going to the mall, meeting friends for lunch, going other places, shopping, coming home, even picking up, doing other odd chores. As you transition, if that's what you decide, as you realize you're doing what you've fantasized about, you will probably have feelings you never knew were there. And you might realize they are so much stronger and satisfying then any others.

Have your own personal private fantasies for when you need them and understand they are best kept private. Have fantasies that you can actually make true to think about where you want to be someday. They're both fine to have, just learn to understand the differences.

Hope this helps!

Hugs

Chloë

p.s. The Statler Brothers said it best - The Class of '57 had its dreams, But living life day to day is never like it seemed.