It's A Long Time Comin..and A Long Way Ahead.

[Guest Connie99]

Hello out there. Come, sit down and talk a while.

This has been a very difficult week for me. Came out to the family (I was looking very sharp). I have four dauthers all 20 something and a wife (for 26 years). I just couldn't hold it back any more. We had some wonderful conversations. The wife called it mind sex. However there is no way that this can be happening to us... After revealing all to my Phyciatrist it was decided that I really need to toalk with someone who understands GID. No one at the entire va hospital had any idea what to do. Finally the had be talk to the womens health care director. She was so kind and directed me to the University of MN. After spend anther day talking with people who know nothing, I was told that I must be having delousions. I am a women. What's the big deal. I have accepted it. I thought theat was the whole point. No. Others must make sense of this behavior. I had a complete break down crying for four hours. I was not going back into a medicated box that controlled all of my emothions because I am depressed. It looked like I would not be able to go forward with the opposition to my transition. I know I can't stay where I am. Decided to check in to the va just to make sure I wasn't going to do any thing stupid. Talk to a wonder full young Doctor. She wasn't afraid of me. She understood and commited to get me into the U's program. This morning I again had hope. The the phone rang and I was informed that my father died ten minitues earier. Spending the day making arragements. Life is full of difficulties. If you are MTF there will be many more I'm sure.

Love you all. Stay in touch. I would love to give you all a big hug if that was possible.

Connies

[Guest Donna Jean]

Hello, Connie....

I'm Donna Jean ...welcome to the playground, Honey....

My goodness...you certainly have a full plate right now....

Well, if it's understanding and love you seek...you're in the right place!

Let me get you some hot coco and some of Sally's cookies and you can sit in a nice big chair.

That makes things better right off...

What a week it's been for you....

And the VA hospital? I'm also a vet and I've been to a VA hospital before, to...so I do understand that!

And I'm so sorry to hear about your father....that is just awful...

You, at least, have found a sympathic ear with the young doctor and maybe she can get you on the right path from here on out...

And, we're here to help...with and ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on and a hand to hold....

Please post some more....OK?

LOVE & HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Sally]

Connie,

I am so sorry to hear about your father.

All other problems can be resolved and you have found a good plce for understanding, make that a great place.

We are all willing to sit and listen, we also have cocoa and cookies anytime that you need them and besides that hugs and hands to hold.

Welcome to your new extended family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Shane_82]

Welcome

~ Shane

[Guest scooby]

welcome Connie!

scooby x

[Guest Ariana]

Hi Connie! I hope things will get better for you soon, which I am sure they will! I'm so sorry about your father, though... I know it must be devastating. But at least you have that doctor, and us as well, now! Even though it's a long way ahead... we'll keep you company here every step of the way! Ahaha

[Guest ricka]

Welcome Connie! I'm so happy you have found us (and we have found you!) Well you sound perfectly sane for all you have endured. You will find acceptance and understanding here. Diagnoses and anti-depressants are cerainly no substitutes for friends. Best of luck to you!

Ricka

[Guest AlexiThink]

Hi Connie,

Wow, it sounds like you've been through so much in such a short time. I'm so sorry for your loss, but its good that you're seeking help, and coming into your true self.

We're all walking with you on that long road to self-discovery so don't forget you're not alone.

I hope to see you around the forums. Good luck and Gob Bless!

Alex

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Connie

First - my goodness, sorry about your father! I know - I lost mine in 1992. Two days ago I lost a great frend - death isn't something you expect and yet it happens all around us. oh my

Secondly - you have been talking to the wrong people. We gender dysphoric are so rare no one knows what to do with us. Be patient, you will eventually find an understanding professional person who will help you.

Thirdly - we understand you 100%. You have just come home.

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

Lizzy

62 years old - married with three grown children - diagnosed last year - in transition - found a gender specialist therapist.

[TassieTiff]

G'Day Connie,

Welcome to LP.... you will find several people here who tell a similar story to yours.... ME INCLUDED. YOu can feel free to be yourself here..... Say whatever is on your mind and find many like minded individuals who you can relate to..... AND the advice and coffee are free

regards, Tiff. XOXOX

[Guest Connie99]

Thank you all for such a warm welcome.

Yesterday was full of tears. Very difficult to take your mother to see the man see was married to for 64 years.

There is still one big empty hole in the middle of my heart. We all must morn (in different ways) and then move on . Thank you all for the kind words. I will miss him dearly.

I'm doing so much better today. Must have been the brownies my daughter made.

OK we are in this together.

connieS

[Guest viv]

Hello out there. Come, sit down and talk a while.

This has been a very difficult week for me. Came out to the family (I was looking very sharp). I have four dauthers all 20 something and a wife (for 26 years). I just couldn't hold it back any more. We had some wonderful conversations. The wife called it mind sex. However there is no way that this can be happening to us... After revealing all to my Phyciatrist it was decided that I really need to toalk with someone who understands GID. No one at the entire va hospital had any idea what to do. Finally the had be talk to the womens health care director. She was so kind and directed me to the University of MN. After spend anther day talking with people who know nothing, I was told that I must be having delousions. I am a women. What's the big deal. I have accepted it. I thought theat was the whole point. No. Others must make sense of this behavior. I had a complete break down crying for four hours. I was not going back into a medicated box that controlled all of my emothions because I am depressed. It looked like I would not be able to go forward with the opposition to my transition. I know I can't stay where I am. Decided to check in to the va just to make sure I wasn't going to do any thing stupid. Talk to a wonder full young Doctor. She wasn't afraid of me. She understood and commited to get me into the U's program. This morning I again had hope. The the phone rang and I was informed that my father died ten minitues earier. Spending the day making arragements. Life is full of difficulties. If you are MTF there will be many more I'm sure.

Love you all. Stay in touch. I would love to give you all a big hug if that was possible.

Connies

Hi Connie,

Oh dear honey, we dont know one another but as trans sisters we are united in so many ways and for this reason I feel

I can tell you all of us here at Laura"s share in your sorrow at this awful time . May your Father Rest in Peace. I have not been

a member here for long but I was made to feel a part of the family and you will too . Let time heal you of your

bereavement and be with us as you begin your transition to happiness. It is good you have an understanding doctor as she will

prove to be so valuable. Please keep in touch with us Connie as we will offer you as much support as we can . Luv, Viv.

[Guest Angel21]

welcome

Angel