A Bad Night

[Guest krisspykriss]

My boyfriend and I split-up, but that was something I was expecting and I told him we were over when we got into it again about his unwillingness to be exclusive. He thought I should be exclusive to him while I shared him with a GG. So I was ready to call it quit anyway. That isn't what was upsetting.

What was upsetting is a a friend of mine outed me on a boxing forum as being trans. I said that it wasn't his place to do that, and he went on to place post after post saying I will never pass, making fun of my looks, telling people I am nasty in very vulgar ways etc. I have this thing where if someone asks me whether online or in person about my tg status, I answer honestly. So I didnt deny it. It turned into drama drama drama. No looking back, I should have ignored him. I did ignore him for awhile, but the postings just got worse and worse.

Last night I really let it get to me. This morning I realize it was all done to make me upset and doubt my decision. The messed up thing is he says he is trans but wont ever do anything about it. He says "its is too expensive and cost $200,000" and "I can't do that to my family." I have known him for a year, and he likes to down people who are having a harder time passing or with their voice. Of course it is easy for him to do since he isn't trying himself. So now I realize why he acted that way, he has his own issues and insecurities and is taking them a out on me. There is probably a little jealousy thrown in there too.

So I guess the point I am making is don't let people get you down. The people who act the meanest towards us often have their own issues that are weighing on them everyday. I suspect the biggest haters out there are closet homosexuals in denial and trans people in denial. I might be wrong, but that's how I feel about it today.

[Sally]

Of course it is easy for him to do since he isn't trying himself. So now I realize why he acted that way, he has his own issues and insecurities and is taking them a out on me. There is probably a little jealousy thrown in there too.

So I guess the point I am making is don't let people get you down. The people who act the meanest towards us often have their own issues that are weighing on them everyday. I suspect the biggest haters out there are closet homosexuals in denial and trans people in denial. I might be wrong, but that's how I feel about it today.

There is a great deal of wisdom in your statement and historical facts to support it.

How many TV evangelists that talk about the evil of adultery have been caught in motels with prostitutes or their secretaries and the ones against homosexuality are outed by their jilted gay lovers?

People fear most what they do not understand about themselves and they try to destroy anyone or anything that makes them face it.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Charlene_Leona]

Sorry that you and your boyfriend broke it off but it's impossible to let someone have it on the side when they expect you to be committed to only them.

This other guy that outed you should have the same done to him, but your right he's jealous of you because you are a very good looking lady from the available photo's I've seen. I think he's worried about being cut off from his family but one day that bell will ring on his issues and he will have to like us transition or die. I hope his outing you does not put you in any physical jeopardy.

You are so right about the closeted one's out there, they are the worst. I figured out a long time ago that the biggest homophobes out there are truly the biggest closet queens on the planet. Just think about it this way they hate themselves so much that they feel the need to spread that self hate onto the world but all it does is make them look really petty.

Charlene Leona

[Guest Nelly]

Hello krisspykriss,

sounds to bad your night.

My boyfriend and I split-up, but that was something I was expecting and I told him we were over when we got into it again about his unwillingness to be exclusive. He thought I should be exclusive to him while I shared him with a GG. So I was ready to call it quit anyway. That isn't what was upsetting.

Same rights for everybody. I have nothing against an open relationship but if one person do not want this, than it is closed. Also nobody owns somebody else. The big problem with this type of situation are diseases. He can bring something really bad back home. So it was good to quit.

What was upsetting is a a friend of mine outed me on a boxing forum as being trans. I said that it wasn't his place to do that, and he went on to place post after post saying I will never pass, making fun of my looks, telling people I am nasty in very vulgar ways etc.

He put information about you to public without your okay. That is not okay and enough to report an offence to the police. This is not funny to out you. If this information got into the wrong hands, somebody can come over and kill you. So my suggestion is to go to the police. I would also do it even if he has his own problems to deal with. He can not risk your life. I hope you made a copy of his and your entries on the boxing forum.

Greetings

Nelly

[Carolyn Marie]

Kriss, Honey, you are a wise and thoughtful girl, and I'm very proud of how you've handled these

tough situations. You are absolutely right in both cases, and your attitude is fantastic.

You will soon get over both problems and move on. A lovely girl like you won't have any trouble at

all finding someone better, someone who understands what it means to be faithful and a true friend. Your

ex, on the other hand, will never find love as long as he holds his current attitudes towards others.

You can be proud of yourself, Kriss. You know what is right and you can hold your head high.

Go get 'em, girl!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest viv]

My boyfriend and I split-up, but that was something I was expecting and I told him we were over when we got into it again about his unwillingness to be exclusive. He thought I should be exclusive to him while I shared him with a GG. So I was ready to call it quit anyway. That isn't what was upsetting.

What was upsetting is a a friend of mine outed me on a boxing forum as being trans. I said that it wasn't his place to do that, and he went on to place post after post saying I will never pass, making fun of my looks, telling people I am nasty in very vulgar ways etc. I have this thing where if someone asks me whether online or in person about my tg status, I answer honestly. So I didnt deny it. It turned into drama drama drama. No looking back, I should have ignored him. I did ignore him for awhile, but the postings just got worse and worse.

Last night I really let it get to me. This morning I realize it was all done to make me upset and doubt my decision. The messed up thing is he says he is trans but wont ever do anything about it. He says "its is too expensive and cost $200,000" and "I can't do that to my family." I have known him for a year, and he likes to down people who are having a harder time passing or with their voice. Of course it is easy for him to do since he isn't trying himself. So now I realize why he acted that way, he has his own issues and insecurities and is taking them a out on me. There is probably a little jealousy thrown in there too.

So I guess the point I am making is don't let people get you down. The people who act the meanest towards us often have their own issues that are weighing on them everyday. I suspect the biggest haters out there are closet homosexuals in denial and trans people in denial. I might be wrong, but that's how I feel about it today.

Hi Krisspykriss,

I wont relate directly to your post as I dont want to cause offense. So , you know what girl?? this is that"real life " test /stuff the docs make us experience

before final surgery . Your gonna meet losers and creeps and you know it Kriss, that"s the drill, that"s life.Take a look in the mirror , you are looking at a very attractive

woman, lotsa fish in the sea hun. Oh darn it Kriss, Im so angry I take back what I said re causing offense !!!!that freak show who outed you has annoyed me so much

I can hardly contain my anger -who the hell does this excuse for a "man??" think" he " is . You know what hun?? what goes around comes around and you will have your

day . I have not read answers from the other women Kriss ....if mine is too off the wall "extreme" , Im sorry, its that I feel so angry towards those fools who hurt you.

If my reply makes little sense its cos Im so incensed so angry, ( not being funny Kriss but my anger is most likely different than yours,no hrt yet) I am boiling.

You will get over this , you know you will. You did not come this far to let these fxxxs derail you , they obviously do not merit the quality of what you have to give .

All here are supporting you hun, Luv, Viv.

[Guest krisspykriss]

Be warned, he or she (the person cannot decide) is a member of this forum. So as to not cause drama here, I wont post the name.