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[Guest Jake]

Hi there, I'm new about the boards so thought I'd say hi. I'm not sure how often I'll visit; I frequent on a self-injury forum so I find it hard keeping up with two places, but wanted to join here as although I have a couple of transgendered friends in "real life" (though met online), thought it might be of help to talk with more people going through the same thing. I'm eighteen (well in January), "came out" when I turned fifteen and things are getting there, name has been legally changed and everything, and in spring I should start hormone blockers. Happy to have things going down the physical route, as I should be on hormones by the time I'm nineteen, but obviously it's quite a trying process. I have the amazing support of my girlfriend, and I've gone about three months without any self-injury (as I've been doing it for six years quite an achievement), but I'm afraid it may all start to get a little too much. I have two paediatricians, three psychs (soon to have a CPN as well), a counsellor and my GP, so I have all the medical support I need but as I'm sure you know, it doesn't actually always help in your head. I think I'm finding it difficult actually coping for once, and though I should be because everything is going alright, I'm afraid I'll cave in. I recently made the decision not to have any eggs frozen and I don't have long to change my mind, should I want to. I'd be interesting to hear other people's thoughts on this too? (Not on what I should do, just whether it's something anything you guys would consider).

Anyway, I realise this is actually kind of heavy for an introduction...I do apologize. In a nutshell (if you couldn't be asked to read all that) I'm basically and eighteen year old guy who's struggling with the fact that after years of asking for it, things are finally happening!

J.

[Guest Mr. Fox]

I can understand why one would want to freeze their eggs, but I would not want to myself. Be being a mother . . . *shudder*.

[Guest Jake]

I wouldn't view it as being the mother as I myself wouldn't carry the child, but I can see what you mean. I just want to get other people's views on it as I don't want to come to regret it at all.

J.

[Guest brandt]

hey man,

its great to hear things are going well for you and you are going on a route that makes you happy. you are a pretty lucky guy. hope to see you around here more often. laterz.

brandt/kayden

[Guest Huff]

I guess I'm pretty comfortable with the idea of adoption. It seems that there are lots of unwanted children in the world and I think that it would be neat to get to be a dad to a couple of them. although, it is a little sad to think that I won't get to see my future wife pregnant and go through all the excitement of waiting for the baby to come and the delivery and stuff.

Huff

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

I don't want to be a parent and would rather be childless, but I'd prefer adopting if I had to. So many children are homeless and need care.

[Guest Mr. Fox]

I would like to impregnate my wife, but that is impossible. It will be even worse if I marry a man. Not even a hope of artificial insemination there. Whatever, I'll adopt.

[Guest ~}Shadowstorm{~]

I don't know why any FTM would want to freeze their eggs. Then you would need a MAN to fertilize them, and you would always know that the kid came from inside of you. It would be a constant reminder of what you used to be. I would never do it.

[Guest Rika-chama]

I don't know why any FTM would want to freeze their eggs. Then you would need a MAN to fertilize them, and you would always know that the kid came from inside of you. It would be a constant reminder of what you used to be. I would never do it.

I guess it's just one of those "to each his own" I guess. I mean some people just want a child but because of our condition we can't =/ I would never freeze my eggs but then again i would never want kids

Ni-paa~

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

I don't know why any FTM would want to freeze their eggs. Then you would need a MAN to fertilize them, and you would always know that the kid came from inside of you. It would be a constant reminder of what you used to be. I would never do it.

What if your partner was a transwoman and she used her sperm to fertilize it?

That'd be pretty cool.

[Guest Rika-chama]

What if your partner was a transwoman and she used her sperm to fertilize it?

That'd be pretty cool.

For some reason I think that would be the most awesome thing ever

Ni-paa~

[Guest Alexander]

For some reason I think that would be the most awesome thing ever

Ni-paa~

Dude.

That would definitely be an awesome thing.

[Guest Tabe]

I don't know why any FTM would want to freeze their eggs. Then you would need a MAN to fertilize them, and you would always know that the kid came from inside of you. It would be a constant reminder of what you used to be. I would never do it.

Works if you're gay *points to self*

Personally, I would freeze the eggs, to be on the safe side. I used to always say that I'd never have kids, but that was generally just because nobody knew about my trans feelings, and I wanted SOME way to differentiate myself from girls.

When I really think about it, I wouldn't mind kids. And I really don't care about getting pregnant either. I abhor the idea of being called "mom", but that could be changed easily enough. The way I see it, I'm a gay guy who has the extra special ability to have biological kids with whomever I chose to be with. I view it as a gift.

[Guest Michelles_husband]

I have three step-daughters right now, but I fancy the idea of freezing my eggs. I'd love to see my wife pregnant and do all that fun stuff; the waiting, passing out cigars, late night snack runs. She can't actually get pregnant but she could be artificially inseminated and that would be alright with me.

[Guest 2892Bandie]

First Welcome!

I personally would never freeze my eggs. I mean needing another man doesn't appeal to me.

Kayden

[Guest JAB]

Hey there welcome.. First to address the preservation of eggs... If there is any doubt in your mind at all that you may have a desire in the future to produce a I would suggest you err on the side of caution and bank some. Whether you would carry the child yourself or a serogate would makes no difference.. I have found regret to be one of the hardest feelings to deal with..

Sounds like youre doing great on your SI prevention work... keep it up! I've not dealt with SI personally but things that are simuliar I guess you could say I know it must but tough but you can do it..

Keep your hands on the wheel, your eyes on the road and your head in the clouds... Youll make it through all of this and come out the end with a crown of achievment!

Best of luck diving head first into transition. I hope it is better then you ever dreamed it could be..

Take care.