Meet Girls???

[Guest konartiz]

I was just wondering do any of you have problems approaching girls?

Girls always think I'm a guy and sometimes try to talk to me.

But I don't exactly know what to do or say when I'm in a situation.

And also I don't want girls to find out I'm a girl because they might freak out or think I'm weird.

Thats the main thing stopping me from approaching or trying to pursue it.

But I really really want to.

[Guest Jake]

I've luckily never been in this situation because both partners I've ever had have known from the start. But when girls have flirted etc, if I've been interested I do just flirt back. My way of looking at it is this: If you get along, flirt etc, there's no harm in it. Then, if you go out a few times, build up an emotional relationship before a physical one. It's different for everyone but I view that I'd never sleep with someone I'm not emotionally close with. It's within that kind of a stage you'd mention that you're TG, so it's not exactly a shock when she drops your trousers! If you're not talking about an intimate relationship though, and it's on more of a day to day basis, then you have nothing to worry about, as they think you're a guy they won't "find out" because they won't expect to. Be yourself and ultimately anyone that rejects you for it is the one losing out, because they're either too narrow minded or would only be with someone on a physical basis.

J.

[Guest CharlieRose]

Maybe you could practice... Y'know, in front of a mirror, or with a tape recorder for your voice, so you can use a deeper voice without worrying about sounding stupid, just get more confident about passing.

Unless that's not it.

If you're worried about them finding out more like, after they meet you, well... You don't have to tell them right away, or wear a button that says "Hi, I was born a girl!" If you wait until they get to know you better, they probably wouldn't be as weirded out as much. And, uh, yeah, what Jake said.

[Flint]

Hmm.......Well....*without sounding big headed here* alot of girls seem to flirt with me......Some i flirt back with........ I'm suprised actually at the reaction of many girls...... like this friend of mine, knew about me....But i didn't know they knew. They found out from reading some of my very old posts on a support site for people with my disability. She has apparntley known for a quite a while but didn't wanna bring it up. She's straight....But last night she was telling me of a dream she had about me...... i wont go into it on here though.......but some....although i will point out that i said some not all again just make sure i have got my point across that not al girls are that accepting, some may freak out and starting going "OMG I'm like a lesbian" but some girls seem fine with it....although that is only from m ypersonal experience......But just thought i'd say to maybe give you some glimpse of hope here...Cause i often wonder how a girl will ever like me how i want them to like me as in see me as a real man. But becareful.

I'm rabbiting on...sorry......

MB.

[Guest Victor]

i don't tell girls my gender and when they finally founds out in any way they often dosen't care they be like okay whatever you look like a guy that's good enough for me , so if i where you i woulden't think about it so much we all expect the worst to happend all the time, but 99% of the time it goes kinda well

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

I've had bad luck in this regard, with both guys and girls. They're usually either taken, or my physical body weirds them out too much.

[Guest brandt]

eh for me its fine i guess. girls come up and just say hi and i say hi. then sometimes i get some eye contact but not really say anything and just pass by like we never even saw each other. but pretty hard to meet some girls cuz i look like more of a 12 year old boy than a 15 year old one. but all is good. im with victor i dont tell them my gender and when they do find out its not a problem at all.

[Guest Sergei]

It's really odd, because before I started presenting fulltime as male I had never had any girls interested in me. Then in the last four months since I started living fulltime I have had so much attention from women, even though I'm gay and don't want it! I always tell people I transgender straight away. I've generally found that women seem to find this intriguing, and are even more interested in me after I tell them that. Maybe I have just met some odd women. But you shouldn't hide who you are. Being transgender is part of who we are whether we like it or not. If a person really likes you then they have to except everything about you, if they can't except that then they're not worth having. I'm sure we'll all meet great people one day who will love us for who we are.

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

But you shouldn't hide who you are. Being transgender is part of who we are whether we like it or not. If a person really likes you then they have to except everything about you, if they can't except that then they're not worth having. I'm sure we'll all meet great people one day who will love us for who we are.

What's frustrating is that for me every time I get a decent relationship, then come out, it ruins the relationship. It's happened so often that I'm at the point where I just want to give up, or become a trans-specific dater, and date other transpeople who will understand.

Gay transmen are usually interested in male anatomy, though... which I, sadly, don't own. And straight transwomen... well, I don't know. But it's really very frustrating.

[Guest Nicholas Aiden]

Gay transmen are usually interested in male anatomy, though... which I, sadly, don't own. And straight transwomen... well, I don't know. But it's really very frustrating.

Have you ever thought about "straight" or bi transmen. You would be surprised in the accepting nature of the trans-community. Obviously its important for them to be attracted to you, your appearance, and your parts... but many people who consider themselves gay or straight aren't set in stone. No matter what don't automatically eliminate anyone in your search, you never know where love will come from!

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

Have you ever thought about "straight" or bi transmen. You would be surprised in the accepting nature of the trans-community. Obviously its important for them to be attracted to you, your appearance, and your parts... but many people who consider themselves gay or straight aren't set in stone. No matter what don't automatically eliminate anyone in your search, you never know where love will come from!

A straight transman wouldn't be interested in me - I'm a guy.

Well, I guess you're right about that. But the physical aspect is a really deciding part, especially in a sexual relationship. And I'm a guy, I do put some emphasis on it, especially since the emotional part I have no problems with usually. And a lot of my relationships just happened to die at the physical part.

[Guest Seth]

My girlfriend started liking me when she first met me, but she met me as a "girl" (ugh) and now she knows me as a boy.

She's pansexual. I'd be scared of dating a straight chick.

[Guest brandt]

My girlfriend started liking me when she first met me, but she met me as a "girl" (ugh) and now she knows me as a boy.

She's pansexual. I'd be scared of dating a straight chick.

i dated a straight girl but she knew me as a guy and when she found out it i guess hurt her in some way. she got over it but it bothered her again. now we arent together so yeah. but now i got some crush on some chick but she is bi so i dont know if she is more straight than gay or more gay than straight but i really tend to go for straight girls. i'm not so afraid because they should like you for who you are, not what you are. so keep that in mind.

[Guest Seth]

To me, straight girls are hotter, but bi girls are easier to get to like you.

That's how I see it.

[Guest brandt]

To me, straight girls are hotter, but bi girls are easier to get to like you.

That's how I see it.

yeah. i have to agree. straight girls are hotter lol.

[Guest Orpheus]

My first gf was bi and it wa st the point when I was most,let`say,gender-fustrated.She met me as a girl and I gradually came out to her.It was tough for me and her,she had to adpat to my needs.Now she`s come out as gay so that`s weird.She still loves me though although hasn`t seen me for ages.

I have been with a lot of gay and bi girls and some of thos egay girls I`m just friend with `cause they`re afraid that their liking em would mean that they`re not entirely gay,hence they1d lose their community.So I`ve switche dto straight girls and I`ve mad eout with a few but then disctanced msyelf from them,guys tooa ctually.I will only tell if I really liked them and if there`s a possibility for a relationship.Other than that I want to experience the whole dating things as a normal guy,as normally as possible at least.

I see that you pass well,mate,so if you want to go all the way with a girl,you`ve to tell her.

[Guest J-Walker]

I've gotta agree with Sergei. It's a lot easier if you're just honest from the start. I'm interested in men like him too though, so...

If you're honest right away then you're much more likely to find the type of person you're looking for. I don't mean this for when you're just out on a park bench and a girl sits next to you out of the blue - brief flirting should be fun and without those concerns. But for girls you might be interested in entering a relationship with, I would tell them straight out. Most girls are pretty open and even intrigued.

If you're going stealth then completely disregard this message and just puff out that manly chest, flex those arms, and have some fun.