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Guest Jonie

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I am sorry with what I had said about not being on here much.that day my head was not very clear.I was very stressed out.I did not mean that I was not coming back. I was just meaning that I might just have to step back for a little while.till I get some thing going again.I am still hoping that I can catch my bill up so that they won`t turn my Internet off. I am going to try my best to keep it. I have ben on them sights that was sen`t to me threw here to help me find a job.I am trying very hard.I have started my a profile on one of them sights, but I have to get help on it they would not except it be cause I guess you would say be cause of my grammar and spelling.what they don``t know I thought that I had done pretty good considering. I only have a fifth grade education.I tried to go back to school and get my GED. I come to the conclusion that some people just can not get one .I am one of them.I just need that break again with some one to give me a chance at working for them. so they can see that I am worth keeping around.

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Jonie, I have a suggestion. If you'd like, you could post your profile here and we could help you out with spelling and grammar.

MaryEllen :)

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Guest ~Brenda~

Joni,

It is all OK. I understand. I know you feel comfortable here and need to stay. Well stay and post as long as you can :) If you loose your internet service, do not despair, you will get your internet service again. As has been said before, there are places like the library where you have free access to the internet. So you see hon, you will never be without us :)

You are worth keeping. You have life experience that you can contribute with. Not all jobs require degrees. I am sure that you can find one.

Cheer up hon, everything is going to be OK :)

Love

Brenda

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Guest SusanKG

Joni,

If a person is not an grammar teacher (in the US, an English teacher) quality grammar and spelling may not be easy. I am lucky. While not a high school graduate, I have always read, so that helps. Also, when you make a post, just crank it out, get your ideas and meanings down. It usually is not productive to spend a lot of time with each sentence or word, just get the ideas down. Then, go back over what you have written, as an editor; does anything look wrong to you? Being techno challenged, I couldn't get a spell check program put on the page, but I keep a paperback dictionary handy for looking up suspicious words. Which can be a challenge, I know, if the spelling is an issue in the first place. But that is me - I have CSED - Compulsive Self Editor Disorder. I want way too much to be perfect.

The main thing is, do not worry about! You are among friends here. We do not care about your technique; we are not here to grade papers! What we are all here for is to help each other deal with GID and life related problems and challenges. And maybe, Joni, the girl in you will be a much better learner, then the boy. Life, afterall, is a continuous learning experience. When you quit learning, you have stopped living.

SusanKG

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Joni,

If a person is not an grammar teacher (in the US, an English teacher) quality grammar and spelling may not be easy. I am lucky. While not a high school graduate, I have always read, so that helps. Also, when you make a post, just crank it out, get your ideas and meanings down. It usually is not productive to spend a lot of time with each sentence or word, just get the ideas down. Then, go back over what you have written, as an editor; does anything look wrong to you? Being techno challenged, I couldn't get a spell check program put on the page, but I keep a paperback dictionary handy for looking up suspicious words. Which can be a challenge, I know, if the spelling is an issue in the first place. But that is me - I have CSED - Compulsive Self Editor Disorder. I want way too much to be perfect.

The main thing is, do not worry about! You are among friends here. We do not care about your technique; we are not here to grade papers! What we are all here for is to help each other deal with GID and life related problems and challenges. And maybe, Joni, the girl in you will be a much better learner, then the boy. Life, afterall, is a continuous learning experience. When you quit learning, you have stopped living.

SusanKG

Susan, you are hilarious. I suffer similar disorders with writing.

Jonie, I can tell you that this is how you learn to write and spell so you're proud of what you do. The more you write, the more you observe spelling and grammar, the more words you look up in the dictionary, the better you get at writing.

I've had to write in my work for many years. In the beginning, it was very difficult and my old works didn't look a lot different than yours do now.

Practice is what it takes and, while can't make perfect, it can sure make a big improvement.

Do post your resume here and we WILL help you. We do need you here as you bring an element to the group that we're lacking. Don't be ashamed in any way, we're your friends and we're here to support you, just as your ideas help support us.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You're one of our sisters and we care about you.

Just reach out and take our hands and we'll do what we can to help.

Susan, don't point out my mistakes, I'm short of time now.... :rolleyes:

Jonie, I love you and care about you like you're a sister, because you are, truly, my sister--here's a big hug for you.

HUGGGG,

Yvonne

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Guest Donna Jean

Joni, Sweetheart....

Honey...you might do whatI do...

I keep Google running in the background and if I am not sure about a word's spelling, I just put into Google and if it's not right it will say "Did you mean?" and then give you the word...

But, Joni....I want to tell you that we want you here very much...you've come to mean a lot to us here...

There are other ways to be on the internet!

We all want to help.....OK?

LOVE & HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Hi Jonie,

I used to run a Sports Hall for the organisation I work for.That meant doing some courses , communication/ conflict resolution etc. So

done all that and then realised my work was "swallowing up" my days. Not good. So I moved to another dept. same money ,much shorter

hours but pretty dirty, in a word ," manual "labour , If you can hack it , it pays the rent as they say. Hate to see you go hun, Luv, viv.

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Guest Charlene_Leona

You could always go to apples web site and download their Safari web browser it has built in spell checking. Plus I feel it's a better web browser than the others out there.

Charlene Leona

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Guest qRachelp
Jonie, I have a suggestion. If you'd like, you could post your profile here and we could help you out with spelling and grammar.

MaryEllen :)

EXCELLENT suggestion, Mary Ellen. We ALL have to get by in this world somehow, and "a little help from our friends" is what keeps most of us going. :)

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi Jonie

Just wanted to give you this site http://dictionary.reference.com/ for an online dictionary and thesaurus.

And this one for an online encyclopedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Encyclopedia.

Also have you tried going down to your local unemployment/job service, they will help you to make a resume.

Otherwise here's a free online resume service http://www.pongoresume.com/.

Hope this helps.

LUV

Jean

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Jonie----I am so glad you are gonna stick around with your sisters here. You are just a sweetheart and I would sure miss you if you were gone. And best of luck getting a job.

All of us are challenged in one way or another. I know sometimes it's easy to lose sight of what each of us also have going for us, and even sometimes that we do have something to offer.

Are there any transgender support groups in Winston-Salem? Sometimes these are good places to network with other TG folks about finding a job. Here in Oregon the GLBT organization that I am active with has a program to connect TG folks with accepting employers.

ricka

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Jonie--one more thought. I am so glad you are reaching out to your sisters here. Are there people in your life who are understanding, accepting and supporting? Sometimes it only takes one to give us that boost we need. I have one guy-friend in the town where I live who has been so supportive to me as a woman. I can talk to him about anything. He has done a lot to boost my self-confidence.

ricka

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Jonie,

Please take us up on MaryEllen's offer, I would be glad to help you with your profile - you are definitely worth keeping.

To me there is no such thing as a disposable person even though so many view us that way.

Do get back in touch with us as soon as you can so we can help get you a job.

Love ya,

Sally

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