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My roommates ex-husband has sued her for full custody and the fact that I am transgendered was brought up in court. This is so wrong. Not only did the judge allow this to be discussed but the ex said I had breast augmentation and looked like a freaky guy with boobs. This is so wrong. This was never brought up in the discovery process but was still allowed to be discussed in the court proceeding. I am so mad. The girls dont care about me being transgendered. They even sometimes offer help with my makeup and hair. To them it is no bid deal. Never have they acted or expressed that it affects them negatively. They have volunteered to go with me shopping while dressed. I just don't get it. I am so mad and this is so wrong.

hugz,

Chrissy

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Chrissy, I'm so sorry that you've been dragged into this dispute.

You're absolutely right that it isn't fair, but the judge has total control over those issues

and you'll have to live with it for now.

What is strongly suggest you do, if you haven't already, is meet with your roommates

attorney and explain to them what you've told us here. They need all the facts they

can get to defend your roommate from these erroneous impressions. You may need

to testify on her behalf as well.

I wish you luck, Hon.

Carolyn Marie

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My roommates ex-husband has sued her for full custody and the fact that I am transgendered was brought up in court. This is so wrong. Not only did the judge allow this to be discussed but the ex said I had breast augmentation and looked like a freaky guy with boobs. This is so wrong. This was never brought up in the discovery process but was still allowed to be discussed in the court proceeding. I am so mad. The girls dont care about me being transgendered. They even sometimes offer help with my makeup and hair. To them it is no bid deal. Never have they acted or expressed that it affects them negatively. They have volunteered to go with me shopping while dressed. I just don't get it. I am so mad and this is so wrong.

hugz,

Chrissy

Hi Chrissy,

There can be times when its difficult to respond to a post , I mean who do these people think they are

talking re your personal stuff like that. Look , I aint donkey kissin here but your a very attractive woman, so who

does this trogladite ( cave dweller, cant spell , sorry) think he is . The freakin nerve of some people, oh, sh*t

sorry but i wont make much sense here i am so VERY annoyed. We go through hell to be spoken to/of like that

well it really does boil my blood . i hope this is resolved in your roommates favor . sorry re anger, got to say this/

people like those should read these forums so as to learn a little humanity. darn, darn, darn, luv, viv.

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Guest krisspykriss
Chrissy, I'm so sorry that you've been dragged into this dispute.

You're absolutely right that it isn't fair, but the judge has total control over those issues

and you'll have to live with it for now.

What is strongly suggest you do, if you haven't already, is meet with your roommates

attorney and explain to them what you've told us here. They need all the facts they

can get to defend your roommate from these erroneous impressions. You may need

to testify on her behalf as well.

I wish you luck, Hon.

Carolyn Marie

That is just it. The hearing just happened and nonething about me was brought forth in discovery so her attorney had no idea to have me as a witness. It is too late now to do anything about it since the judge allowed the testimony and the hearing is over. He wil make his desicion in the coming weeks.

I am so mad and frustrated that I think I have to move. So I guess they "win". Columbus Indiana has laws protecting trangendered people from employment, housing and custody discrimination. The law and the courts there are much more friendly to us, so maybe I won't be evicted again or see another friend affected negatively for being friends with a transsexual. This is ridiculous.

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Guest Donna Jean

WOW!

This makes me VERY angry!

Number one ...by the way it sounds Transgenderism is pre-judged as a negative thing and a bad influence/lifestyle!

Rubbish!

Breast augmentation??? That was discussed???????

Well, was anyone else's body parts brought into evidence?? The size of anyone's anything???

Damnn! There is nothing illegal, immoral, unhealthy or wrong with being Transgendered! Why was THAT an issue at all?????

And it was not brought up in the discovery process??? I certainly would contest THAT!

That makes me SO MAD! *STOMPS FOOT*

Donna Jean

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Guest DeniseNM

Chrissy I am so sorry that this happened to you and I hope things turn out okay for you and your roommate because what was allowed in court was totally wrong.

Denise

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