Journey Progress Report

[Guest yvonne]

Hello My Special Sisters,

I'd like to share my progress on my Journey so far with you.

I accepted my true identity around a year ago, came out to my wife maybe a month and a half ago. Wasn't easy and things were very tense for a lot longer than I wanted. She was ready to walk out and she's been supportive of my cross-dressing for decades.

My strategy was simple and based on ideas from you wonderful girls: Be the sweetest person in the world to her, show her that I really love her, I'm now kinder, gentler, more caring and considerate; Far less: inner tension (well, duh) impatience and inclination to not be nice.

I started GT within the last 2 weeks and have session #3 this afternoon.

I bought some very nice clothes recently and have dressed nicely in my clothes the minute I get home each day. I'll be presenting male at work for some time to come and I'm fine with that.

The wife is starting to enjoy me and little "baby steps" (thanks Paula) of acceptance are creeping in with her. She commented the other day about my mannerisms changing and said she can see changes in me.

So, we're heading to her family's in another state for the Holidays and last night we discussed "our strategy" (this is new). I told her I could pull off a full male visit and she said I'd really have to work on mannerisms and gestures. I asked her what she meant and she cited a bunch of examples of my new femininity. Good observations, good progress. She's concerned about protecting me during the Holidays....

So, then she talked about how much nicer I've been. I talked about how HRT is an absolute necessity and certainty. For the first time, she talked about it with no adverse reaction, whereas before, she'd drawn a line there with no uncertain terms.

So SHE starts discussing how I'll eventually come out at work. I about jumped for joy. We actually agreed that the best way was to just let the changes slowly evolve and just avoid talking about it to anyone but us. A shoulder shrug can work wonders when people ask about you "looking different".

She said she really liked my overall calm and loving demeanor now. I asked her if she wanted the old me back, and she said no. She said no. Absolutely amazing progress in a very short time.

Apparently to her, I've been on the "breaking point" behavior-wise for the last 3 years. I told her I was so sorry I'd been taking it out on her. I was still figuring this stuff out during that time.

She can see a big change, she can see it relates to gender issues and she can see this isn't a game, fetish or new fad, but a very real personal issue.

All you wonderful sisters have been such a great help to me, you've made my journey so far much easier and I feel better about myself than ever because of your help and guidance.

You've helped me be proud to be a girl, as opposed to ashamed to be an abomination. I'm not ashamed of anything, I'm proud. I'm proud to be accepted as one of your sisters here at Laura's. I'm a proud girl.

I had to share.

Love all my special sisters here,

Yvonne

[Sally]

Yvonne,

That is absolutely wonderful news.

You can be proud of yourself and your progress and be proud of your very special lady in your own home, your wife - so few are willing to make that journey with us and that is what they do, so you be there to support her like she is supporting you.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Donna Jean]

Yvonne......

Well, Sweetheart...it seems that you and I are kind of running parallel......

My wife has accepted me , too, and at first she was adament...NO HORMONES!...

Sorry, that's not an option....

And she watches me change...becoming the better person, more loving, compassionate, I listen and talk things out....just like you!

And she said that she likes me WAY better than "him"!

Sometimes I wonder if she has a morbid fascination with watching me change before her very eyes...

But, Honey....it's great, isn't it...having love and support right there...a life partner...

And now that therapy, hormones, dressing are no longer an issue...next step surgery!

My wife says NO SURGERY!

lol...we'll see about that!

You are on a wonderful journey, Honey....smell the roses!

Love!

Donna Jean

[Guest viv]

Hello My Special Sisters,

I'd like to share my progress on my Journey so far with you.

I accepted my true identity around a year ago, came out to my wife maybe a month and a half ago. Wasn't easy and things were very tense for a lot longer than I wanted. She was ready to walk out and she's been supportive of my cross-dressing for decades.

My strategy was simple and based on ideas from you wonderful girls: Be the sweetest person in the world to her, show her that I really love her, I'm now kinder, gentler, more caring and considerate; Far less: inner tension (well, duh) impatience and inclination to not be nice.

I started GT within the last 2 weeks and have session #3 this afternoon.

I bought some very nice clothes recently and have dressed nicely in my clothes the minute I get home each day. I'll be presenting male at work for some time to come and I'm fine with that.

The wife is starting to enjoy me and little "baby steps" (thanks Paula) of acceptance are creeping in with her. She commented the other day about my mannerisms changing and said she can see changes in me.

So, we're heading to her family's in another state for the Holidays and last night we discussed "our strategy" (this is new). I told her I could pull off a full male visit and she said I'd really have to work on mannerisms and gestures. I asked her what she meant and she cited a bunch of examples of my new femininity. Good observations, good progress. She's concerned about protecting me during the Holidays....

So, then she talked about how much nicer I've been. I talked about how HRT is an absolute necessity and certainty. For the first time, she talked about it with no adverse reaction, whereas before, she'd drawn a line there with no uncertain terms.

So SHE starts discussing how I'll eventually come out at work. I about jumped for joy. We actually agreed that the best way was to just let the changes slowly evolve and just avoid talking about it to anyone but us. A shoulder shrug can work wonders when people ask about you "looking different".

She said she really liked my overall calm and loving demeanor now. I asked her if she wanted the old me back, and she said no. She said no. Absolutely amazing progress in a very short time.

Apparently to her, I've been on the "breaking point" behavior-wise for the last 3 years. I told her I was so sorry I'd been taking it out on her. I was still figuring this stuff out during that time.

She can see a big change, she can see it relates to gender issues and she can see this isn't a game, fetish or new fad, but a very real personal issue.

All you wonderful sisters have been such a great help to me, you've made my journey so far much easier and I feel better about myself than ever because of your help and guidance.

You've helped me be proud to be a girl, as opposed to ashamed to be an abomination. I'm not ashamed of anything, I'm proud. I'm proud to be accepted as one of your sisters here at Laura's. I'm a proud girl.

I had to share.

Love all my special sisters here,

Yvonne

Oh my Yvonne, you really are opening up like a beautiful rose, I see it in your posts. There is so much woman in you and your transition will

just be nature correcting herself. I am so happy for you re your wive"s acceptance , she will be such a help to you and so much more.

So hun , from here on in things will be so much easier for you , what a blessing. So thrilled, Luv, viv.

[Carolyn Marie]

Yvonne, thanks for sharing your happy news. It is so great to hear another story about a couple staying together and seeing it out,

and finding ways to share the joy and the changes. It makes the idea and reality of transition so much easier to have a partner along

with you, and giving you the love and support that you need.

We need stories like yours and Donna Jeans and the other couples on the site, to counter the all too real gloom and doom about the

statistics of failed marriages. Yes, its very hard, and the odds are crummy, but it can and does work more often than we think.

My wife is really starting to come around too, and the more she accepts, the happier and more confident a woman I become. I can sense

those changes in me every day. I'm home today, and this morning I put out Carolyn's clothes for the day, including a denim skirt, and

my wife saw them and just smiled at me. She smiled! Last night we chatted about ordering clothes from the same catalog. It was like

talking to a girlfriend. It's a wonderful feeling, and I'm glad we can share those stories.

I love your positive attitude Yvonne. Lets hear more.

HUGS

Carolyn

[Paula ult]

Yvonne hon,

I am glad some of what worked for me also worked for you, and that your wife is coming around.

Paula