What Do I Need To Do To Achieve

[Guest newbeginning_1989]

Okay, I'm completly new at everything and I have no clue where to start. I have chosen my name, and I recently started shaving but that's about it. I'm stuck and I don't know where to keep going. Everything is a lot harder when you can't start "T" without your letter and seeing a therapist. And of course money situations. But thats the least of my worries I just want to accomplish and achieve who I was suppose to be in the first place, a man. If anyone can help give advice. I would gladly appreciate it.

[Guest Pammy]

Well, you've made a good start...you've asked for help. I'd suggest you begin by doing those things that you CAN do without "permission". Then get yourself to a competent Gender Therapist. They can help you map out the next step to take and help you make sure that is what you really want.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Welcome to the forum! Perhaps one of the moderators can move this post to the introductions forum where you'll get more notice.

Thanks for that Kathleen....I moved it....

Welcome to the Playground, newbeginning_1989....

Hey, Hon...you say that you have picked a name...if you tell us what it ...that's what we'll call you by.....OK?

Now...I have the food cart today and it's still morning here so it's coco and a pastry for you...or coffee if you want!

We're a moderated forum and that means that we read each and every post before it goes up and that keeps it safe in here for everyone!

And if you would take a minute to read the forum rules.a link is at the top of most pages..

There is a lot to read and lots of wonderful people here and I'm sure that you'll get answers to many of your questions!

It's so nice to have you here!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Sally]

Welcome to the forum Sir,

I am glad to meet you.

All you need to do in life to achieve

Is just leave your fears and believe

We hold ourselves back with fear all around

The journey is long but all on solid ground

So look to your brothers here who are all with you

And embrace each step toward the life that is new

Sorry, I am sort of a frustrated poet, but I mean that - fear is all that can hold any of us back.

Welcome to the family

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest AmyB]

Hi Mr Newbeginning!

Welcome to Laura's. There's lots of stuff you can start doing now, I'm sure. How about some body language work, if you haven't already got that sussed? Zero cost and significant pay off. Watch how other blokes hold their arms and spread themselves out and such and adjust your movements/posture to be more similar. I'm going the other way to you, so I'm practicing keeping my elbows tucked in and hands out of pockets and that sort of thing, but you could do the opposite and adjust your posture/movements etc to take up more space. :-)

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi NewB

Welcome to Laura's!! It sounds to me like you are ready for your next step. You should ask yourself at this time what next step is right for you. I am not talking about your destination of transitioning. I am talking about the next step towards transitioning. What new thing can you do that take you one step closer to your self-realization. Here's some food for thought... do you have and use a binder? Have you been working on your upper body strength? How's your walking? Do you walk withyour shoulders. How about clothing. Can you add more masculine clothes to your wardrobe? How about scent. How manly to you smell? Are you letting the hair on your legs grow? Have you taken the COGIATI test to get a sense of where you are on the gender spectrum?

The list can go on and on. The point I am trying to make here is that if you think about it, there is always something new that you can do to help express outwardly how you see yourself inside.

As far as GT goes, their prices range greatly. I have found that the online GT cost the least and the ones with large established practices cost the most. I would suggest that you investigate some GT to get an idea of their cost to you and if you have the means to see one now. If a GT is out of your reach right now, then just look at seeing a GT as a future goal.

Take your time, and relax. I bet you anything there is one more thing you can do right now

Love

Brenda

[Carolyn Marie]

Hi, NewB and welcome to Laura's. I see that you've met some of my wonderful sisters, but you're probably wondering where all the

other FtM's are? Well, they will be along pretty soon so be patient.

You've gotten some great advice already, and if you scroll through the FtM Forum you get much more info, and find some folks to

talk to. Once you have 5 posts, your Private Message (PM) system will be enable and you can send PMs to other members.

We Moderators watch all the posts to be sure the forum rules are followed and bad folks (i.e. predators) are kept away from the site.

Please do post your questions, opinions and even fun stuff on any Forum, and have fun.

We're all glad you found us.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Shane_82]

Welcome

~ Shane

[Guest van-na]

Hi newbegginning_1989,

<<hug>>

Welcome to Laura's Playground.

Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.

The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.

Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.

One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules.

We have FTM meetings -Mon & Fri 8pm est with Stu as the moderator and you are welcome to attend.

We all look forward to seeing you.

vanna