Siblings!!!ugh!

[Guest Marco]

i'm having a problem with my younger brother. he insists on outing me to anyone and everyone.

i was talking to this girl we met skating and he runs up to us and yells "matt's really a girl!" and runs away. i've talked to him about it and beat him up about it, and i would ask my dad to do something but he can't because the little jerk is his stepson. i've asked my stepmom to do something about it but she always responds with "boy's will be boy's" and gives me a wierd look. any advice?

the funny thing was that the girl thought he was an immature jerk and couldn't have cared less that i'm trans

[Guest Michelle M]

Find your brother when he's with his friends, and tell his friends he's really a girl! See how he likes it.

[MaryEllen]

Turn-a-bout is fair play.

[Guest Katie-Louise]

I have a problem but with an older brother I ignore him he does cause me problems when I'm shopping he will come round I hope he seems to be resisting accepting me. I love my brother and I know he loves me our relationship can be worked at.

[Guest brandt]

hey marco,

i have the same problem except its worse. haha. i have a younger brother.

he knows but everytime i tell him to do something or i get him angry, he annoys me in the public and he says outloud " hey sister why are you doing that sister?!" or "hey girl" blah blah blah. and i'm like stfu. he does that to annoy me but i get very angry. and i ask my mom to tell him to stop and she yells at him but he never listens and she just leaves him alone. i try to ignore him but whatever.

siblings are just a big handful.

i say ignore him even though i can't even ignore my own brother. but hey i dont always take my own advice lol

i say "bang bang shoot him up" sry lol its from a song. okay =] goodluck.

[Guest Huff]

hey marco,

i have the same problem except its worse. haha. i have a younger brother.

he knows but everytime i tell him to do something or i get him angry, he annoys me in the public and he says outloud " hey sister why are you doing that sister?!" or "hey girl" blah blah blah. and i'm like stfu. he does that to annoy me but i get very angry. and i ask my mom to tell him to stop and she yells at him but he never listens and she just leaves him alone. i try to ignore him but whatever.

siblings are just a big handful.

i say ignore him even though i can't even ignore my own brother. but hey i dont always take my own advice lol

i say "bang bang shoot him up" sry lol its from a song. okay =] goodluck.

Did you ever have a serious conversation with him to see how he feels about your transition? It might be a way of expressing grief, confusion, and anger. If that's the case, then some honest and open conversations might do the trick over time.

Otherwise, try to ask him how it would feel if you made fun of *pick that which he could be most embarrased by* and tell him it's exactly the same. Perhaps the empathy routine will work. Or, you might actually have to "out" his thumbsucking or whatever it is a few times.

Just some thoughts.

MK

[Guest Joanna]

i don't even want to imagine what my brothers would say(shudders).

~Joanna

[Guest Madison_Always]

thats one reason im holding off coming out i have 2 younger siblings and i have no idea how they would react to rly having an older sister

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

My siblings are defensive of me thankfully. They came around to the idea quickly and now see me like any other older brother, 'cept for the fiddly bits that is.

But if your brother is being a jerk there could be a reason. Like previously said he could have feelings about your transition that he doesn't know how to deal with.

[Guest mr_marc]

I'd just do what i do to my younger sister (she's thirteen), head lock! lol.

Or blackmail, not sure if its as easy with brothers as it is with sisters but i'd give it a go any way lol.

Or when he's in front of his friends, get girl clothes and say you found it in his room and wanna know why=P

[Guest Marco]

thanks for all the replies guys[and girls] i've tried the headlock tactic several times to no avail, but i think that i've come to the root of the problem while snooping around his room[he steals my clothes] i found several items of girls clothing in his closet and under his bed. it seems he's a crossdresser. when i confronted him about he confirmed that it's true and he just tries to take attention away from it by telling anyone we run into that i'm trans. i told him that if he does it again i'll out him. i know it sounds mean but i'm desperate. later.

Matt

[Guest Brodey]

so you wanna help me blackmail my brother? lol

-Brodey

[Guest Michelle M]

Wow that was quite a fortunate find. It's not mean. It's completely fair play.

[Guest mr_marc]

Blackmail always works with younger siblings XD

Their so easy to whind up, i just gross the hell out of mine and she stops it lol.

And if that doesnt work, head lock and nuggy! She's a girl so it annoys her

[Guest Marco]

ahh, blackmail, my favorite tool, and completely at my disposal lol

[Guest GoldenKirbichu]

Blackmail is good for temporary stuff - but personally I'd try to get on his good side. You can assure him being a crossdresser is fine if you want. Maybe even give him passing tips? Us transguys may not understand too much about girls, but we do know how to act like we are one.

[Guest Marco]

yeah, i don't use blackmail as a permanent solution, and i have tried getting on his good side several times but it does not work because he's paranoid and immature. as for passing, he can do that fairly well. last winter we went to a party and he went in his mom's cocktail dress with make up and heels and the whole nine yards and nobody even knew, everyone believed that he was my cousin Amanda from out of province. i'm still calling him "he" because he's not out yet and he's really paranoid that i'll slip up.

i can see my strait laced father having a heart attack over the fact that his stepson/daughter is a crossdresser and his other son is FTM .

[Guest mr_marc]

Oh dear XD

I have no clue how to act like a girl...

Im not remotely feminine apart from being a tad camp lol.