Where Are You In Your Transition?

[Guest nymphblossom]

I thought it might be nice to get an idea of where everyone is in their transition.

Blossom

[Sally]

OK, it seems looks a good idea, I answered and I hope to come back and as a Moderator use my powers to change it to living full time very soon.

Love ya,

Sally

[Paula ult]

My therapist told me he considered me full time in May since my HR department at work knew, i have been following the SOC guidelines closer than my therapist has and the the parameters for RLE which i consider full time is as follows:

1. to maintain full or part time employment. check

2. to function as a student.

3. to function in community-based volunteer activity

4. to undertake some combination of items 1 - 3; check

5. to acquire a (legal) genger-identity-appropriate first name. check i have both first and middle name.

6. to provide documentation that persons other than the therapist know that the patient functions in the desired gender role. check

November 18 i got my name change finalized and November 23 when those that need to know at work were told i consider this my official date of going full time.

Paula

[Guest Janessa]

November 18 i got my name change finalized and November 23 when those that need to know at work were told i consider this my official date of going full time.

Paula

November 18 is my birthday.

Also I am currently in therapy at the moment - hoping to start HRT as soon as possible. >.<

[Guest Ryles_D]

I can't really live "full time" as neutrois in that sense, so I don't htink I am and I'm not planning on getting any lower surgeries. But I am about to get my letter for top surgery!

[Guest viv]

Hi Blossom,

Been to my Gt and got signed off . waiting to see the Endo next May.

If I look half decent ,,hair/make up early new year I will start to present as

female in public. Once I start ,I will of course ,present Fem as often as I can.

These are the ""I cant wait days"". I keep saying Laura"s and you folk are my

rock till then, you help me so. Luv,viv

[Guest Amanda joan]

Blossom,

Thank you for asking. I voted begining to present as my chosen gender. That felt strange to select. The word begining, it is where I am and that makes me feel better about where I am. I often feel like I should be here or there instead of where I am. I all to often look for happiness in the future and not in the present. I have been making an effort to enjot each day. It works about half the time but, that's better than not at all.

Transition is an amazing journey and this time last year I would have been more than satisfied to be where I am today. I long to be so much different than I am physicaly. I am feeling allot closer to who I want to be mentaly. I self identify as a woman all the time and that makes the fasade harder to hold up at times. I don't think anyone but myself sees or understands that strugle.

Christmas can be hard for us, I would like to propose that we all accept Laura's Playground as the gift that it is. We also have a community here that is world class and full of Peace, Love, Hope and Joy. So we are a Christmas community all year long.

Peace & Love Amanda

[Guest Donna Jean]

Blossom....

Honey, I wanted to answer to two parts, but I can only answer to one...

I clicked "HRT" (10 months..)

But I also wanted to click "Beginning to present in public as your chosen gender"...because I do that, too!

I get "Ma'am'd" in public all the time (Twice today at Wal Mart..4 STAR)...

Early on I was afraid of reaching this point and now I can't wait to go full time!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest CJwar]

Eh this is a hard poll for me. Because I've always presented as male online since I was like 12. And I always dress as male, even if I don't pass. So eh...it's weird.

[Guest i is Sam :-)]

I don't really fit into any of those boxes atm, will have to take a rain check maybe

[Guest julia_d]

The employment part of the SOC is garbage.. it has been challenged in court and thrown out as blatantly discriminatory after challenges by people over retirement age and the disabled. Living full time means just that.. everything you do is done in your chosen gender.. shopping, doctors, home, bar, social.. everything.. work makes no difference.. that's just a hangover lump of 1960's garbage used these days to try and exclude poor and socially disadvantaged transgendered people from attaining what they need to function in a world where they can't be discriminated against. BE AWARE the SOC were written half a century ago and in many cases are completely invalid and reflective of the society they were written in..

[Guest nymphblossom]

I apologize to everyone for the gray areas. It was just so hard to cover all the possibilities. If you have already accomplished one or more of the choices, go with the point you are currently at. I have been presenting as female for about six months but will be starting HRT the first of the year. I guess I could have checked either one, but voted as on HRT.

Blossom

[Guest Pól]

Started HRT about two months ago, been living full time for more than 2 years. I think I checked living full time since it looks like you've put them in an order, and HRT comes before full time.

[Guest anika]

I've lived full time for 10 years now. I might never be able to afford surgery, but I'm working on coming to terms with that possibility.

[Guest Robin Winter]

I've lived full time for 10 years now. I might never be able to afford surgery, but I'm working on coming to terms with that possibility.

Never say never! I may have to move to the other side of the country to get mine, but if that's what it takes, I'm there! Almost half the cost is covered in Vancouver, B.C., or was the last time I looked into it. They seem to flip-flop a lot, in the past it's been partially covered, fully covered, not covered, back to partially covered. I'm hoping at some point it'll be fully covered everywhere in Canada.

I voted "in therapy", though I'm also beginning to present in public, just a wee bit. Most of the clothing I wear out is from the ladies department, even if it isn't always obvious. I don't shop in the mens section anymore. In fact, got some more goodies for my xmas presents today! 5 more days! woohoo!!!!

[Guest andreahilton]

I clicked "Beginning to present in public as your chosen gender" and it's about right. I'm not on HRT but is in therapy in a way even though I'm not seeing them or anything until March next year.

[Guest julia_d]

I have lived full time now since 1983/4 and legal name change was (to this one) 9 years ago. I had a strange legal female name before that from 1989 which was a menace in the UK as people always had to query the spelling so it drew too much attention (don't change your name abroad to something which is fine there... because it may not be ordinary at home). .. so full time 21 years on 23rd January.. woot!! .. I'm 21 in January XD

Fully transitioned and just wanting surgery sometime. That can wait now until I'm resettled. Enough of waiting on the NHS.. they have wasted too many of my years already, and I'm not doing 3-5 more to end up with an unsatisfactory result... I have survived 40 years in the wrong body, a couple more aren't going to kill me, but waiting on the UK health service and jumping through all their hoops a second time just might..

[Guest rachael1]

Hi Blossom,

I ticked "Beginning to present in public as your chosen gender"

I'm not presenting as a woman 100% but am working up to it in small steps such as wearing nail polish and lip gloss.

My new years resolution is to present as Rachael in her full glory before the end of 2010.

Rachael

[Guest nymphblossom]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to post and complete the survey. I'm wondering if the moderators might feel this threadmis worthy of making a sticky so we can get an idea of where the members of the forum are in their transition?

Blossom

[Guest yvonne]

This is funny, because it just isn't a linear path. I've been presenting as a girl online, duh, for a while. I'm presenting as a male everywhere but at home.

I'm virtually wrapped up and done with therapy and just started HRT.

I have NOT been public as my real self, so I'm out of sequence. I'll be fixing that and venturing out next month. I'm both excited and scared at the same time. I sure look a lot like a guy... Ick.

I do have to say, however, that my mannerisms have changed a lot, according to my wife. She's a little uptight about visiting her family over the Holidays. I told her I can act like a real guy for a few days.

This makes me feel like I'm making progress!! I have to work at acting like a guy. Funny....

Yvonne

[Guest Donna Jean]

I have NOT been public as my real self, so I'm out of sequence. I'll be fixing that and venturing out next month. I'm both excited and scared at the same time. I sure look a lot like a guy... Ick.

I have to work at acting like a guy. Funny....

Yvonne

Sweetheart....

We have to work extra hard, since we are "Mature"...lol

We've acted at being men our whole life and now to do a 180....it's not easy..

But you saying "I sure look a lot like a guy"...well, most of us did...

I think it would be interesting to put up a thread with pictures of about 10 of us girls "as we were" and let everyone try to figure out who each one is...

Problem there, is that no one wants anyone to see their old self......LOL

Maybe an old pic of me in my flight suit standing on the wing of an airplane or astride a Harley...that's pretty dang "male"!!!!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest nymphblossom]

Yvonne wrote:

This is funny, because it just isn't a linear path.

Hum, I'm thinking what you have described actually follows the linear progression of the poll fairly closely? I put "presenting in public" before "HRT" because some people are fortunate to be able to pass well, and others have health concerns or difficulting affording medication so they may have begun to present as their chosen gender before they begin any HRT.

Blossom

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

1. to maintain full or part time employment. full time in the same position that I had before I started transition

2. to function as a student. N/A

3. to function in community-based volunteer activity N/A

4. to undertake some combination of items 1 - 3; yep

5. to acquire a (legal) genger-identity-appropriate first name. waiting on this till i move back to Canada, don't need to pay for it twice

6. to provide documentation that persons other than the therapist know that the patient functions in the desired gender role. yep, got my carry letter

6 months in RLE, and 4 months on hormones I live and work in my chosen gender, and have a gender appropriate (though not yet legalized) first and middle name. I have no idea just how much more full time I could be. I am planning SRS but that will be done under the provincial health plan in British Columbia; I will be eligible for assessment almost as soon as I get there but there are some steps which have to be done first.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Sweetheart....

We have to work extra hard, since we are "Mature"...lol

We've acted at being men our whole life and now to do a 180....it's not easy..

But you saying "I sure look a lot like a guy"...well, most of us did...

I think it would be interesting to put up a thread with pictures of about 10 of us girls "as we were" and let everyone try to figure out who each one is...

Problem there, is that no one wants anyone to see their old self......LOL

Maybe an old pic of me in my flight suit standing on the wing of an airplane or astride a Harley...that's pretty dang "male"!!!!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

I have a pic of me that might throw some people... I know many on this board have seen it though, i might go into the archives and pull one from even earlier

[Guest Kieri]

I'm currently in therapy. I am to get blood work done before my next appointment, so perhaps HRT is in the not-so-distant future. Crossin' muh fingers