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How To Make Friends?


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Guest Charlene_Leona

Jeanett

It really helps to be supportive and friendly on your end as well, if you know an answer to someone's question answer it. It really is not hard to make friends here. If you give of yourself you will return from others the same here. It's really simple.

Love

Charlene Leona

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Hello Jeanett,

I would like to offer you some cookies and cocoa along with some motherly advice, you must like yourself before others can like you.

OK, what does that mean to you, well we have spent so much time hiding who we are from everyone that it is difficult to relate to others - how do we do it, from which of us do we offer friendship and that continues after you begin to transition until you become so pleased with who you really are that you just know hoe to approach them.

The other obvious thing is that to have a friend you must first be a friend - offer your friendship and see what happens - it doesn't cost anything and almost no effort but the rewards can be great.

Relax, be yourself and you will make friends.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest van-na

Hi Jeanett,

<<hug>>

Being friends is about sharing our lives with others.

There are some aspects of our lives that require that we spend a lot of time together or a lot of writing to help convey our feelings.

Other times sharing only a few words are more than adequate.

It is not always the long conversation that conveys the deepest feelings.

Sometimes, longer modes of expression may seem redundant and lacking in profundity.

Putting just the right combination of words on paper in a succinct style may just hit the spot.

Give of yourself, and others will give to you.

I'd be happy to be your friend

:wub: vanna

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, Honey!

Bottom line here to make friends is........

To join in!

Participate.....

Post.......

PM.........

And share cookies!

Love

Donna Jean

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DANG!

I thought this was a how to thread and I wanted to find out how to make friends - because nobody here likes me! :lol:

Are you getting the idea Jeanett?

It is easy to make friends here and you know what - once you are armed with self esteem, self confidence and an whole lot of friends here it is easy to make them out in the 3D world as well.

You are doing just fine and things will only get better.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest van-na
DANG!

I thought this was a how to thread and I wanted to find out how to make friends - because nobody here likes me! :lol:

Love ya,

Sally

I won't say I like you sally :P

But I will say that I do love you :lol:

:wub: vanna

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Guest van-na
And share cookies!

Love

Donna Jean

Hey Donna Jean :excl:

<<hug>>

I think your taking this friendship thing a little too farrrrrrrrrr :unsure:

Now you want my "cookies" :rolleyes:

Your in luck though, cause I'm on a diet :D

So to you, I give my cookies for the next two weeks :lol:

:blink: errrrrrr :blush: well maybe just the next week :P

I do love you ,

:wub: vanna

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Guest Chandra

Hello Jeanett,

Friendship is kind of a hard thing to plan for, it kind of just happens if the ingredients are there. I have only been at Laura's a very short time and have noticed that, we all try to help, care,are very polite, respect and try to support each other. Is this not friendship. We indeed are a very sensitive lot here, and share much in common, so I think you have already found friendship.

Just be yourself, get involved and it will happen.

I would be honored to be your friend.

Best Wishes, Dear Jeanett Love Chandra

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