Cloudy Day, With A Silver Lining.

[Guest Robin Winter]

So, I was scheduled for 2 appointments today, one with my GT, and one immediately after with my psychiatrist. At least that's what my appointment card said. When I got there, I wasn't listed for the day at all, my GT (who gave me the times for both appointments) forgot to put it in the book after he cleared them with me, and I wasn't expected I waited there for an hour and a half because nobody could get him on the phone, he was in meetings. So he finally comes out to meet with his 11:00 appointment (mine was for 10, but I always go early and so was there from 9:30), and anyway, he felt bad and offered to see me at 12:15, so I got some breakfast and went back. All this on top of the fact I've already been on the verge of tears for like a week now. I didn't get my psychiatrist appointment, though, so he rescheduled that one for feb. 2nd. That's fine.

Anyway, the silver lining. He set up my next 2 appointments with him as well, and made sure he entered them in the schedule while I was there to see him do it , and as usual we set them up for my days off work. As it turns out, one of my days off falls on the day that the Transwomen support group meets there, and I've never been able to go before. So my appointment is for the half hour just prior to the group, so I can attend both Looks like I'll finally be meeting other trans girls around here. Also, one of my GT's other patients has just come out at work, and took it upon herself to make a nice little info packet for her employer, and he gave me a copy of it, and a copy of the letter she wrote to give to her co-workers (with the personal details blacked out of course). It's incredibly well written. Anyway, he's going to give her my email addy in hopes she'll contact me and we can connect, as she's pretty much surmounted all the obstacles I'm currently facing, and recently. He speaks really highly of her, so I'm looking forward to that as well.

I'm a bundle of nerves though, all that aside. Jim (my GT) gave me homework, and I'm not sure I'm up to it. I'm supposed to come out to my stepson, and he's the one I've been dreading most, as I have to see him every day, whether he takes it well or not. And of course because I care for him and don't want him to hate me. So yeah, about to sick up. Blah. Any advice would be appreciated.

Anyway, that's my update

*Hugs*

Shi

[Guest Donna Jean]

Oh my goodness, Shi...........

Dark cloud, silver lining....

Well, as long as they come in pairs we can make it....right?

The Transwomen meeting sounds great along with the info packet for coming out at work.....

Oh, and your "homework" ...well, I guess that settles that problem...time to talk about that skirt, now.....

We're right here with you, Honey...you know that...Let us know what is going on....OK?

We care...

Love

Donna Jean

[Guest sarah f]

What a long day you had. Started out bad but ended up good. I am sorry you had to wait soo long.

It is good news that you might find a friend who is going through the same things as you.

As far as your son, now you will know what he was really thinking when he saw you in the skirt. I want to know myself. That was a funny post when you told him he should try it sometime.

Let us know how it went with your son.

Love,

Sarah F

[Carolyn Marie]

Talk about an up and down day, Shilo. You have a lot of patience and I can see that you're a very

understanding person. Everyone makes mistakes, and not getting sore at your G.T. for his is

really nice of you.

That's great news about the support group. It feels really good to talk with other transwomen. I attended

one session of my G.T.'s small group, and it helped me sort through my feelings, as I compared where

I wanted to go to the group members, who were kind of stuck in limbo. That's one place I knew I ddin't

want to be.

I understand about your fears of coming out to your stepson. I have a teenage son and telling him is also

my greatest fear, even more so than coming out to my wife. You didn't say how old he was. That will make

a big difference. I'm going to wait as long as possible; hopefully I can hold off until he is near 18.

I wish you luck, Shilo. Please PM me if you want to talk mor about it. Like Donna Jean said, we are all

here for you, and we love you.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Robin Winter]

Talk about an up and down day, Shilo. You have a lot of patience and I can see that you're a very

understanding person. Everyone makes mistakes, and not getting sore at your G.T. for his is

really nice of you.

That's great news about the support group. It feels really good to talk with other transwomen. I attended

one session of my G.T.'s small group, and it helped me sort through my feelings, as I compared where

I wanted to go to the group members, who were kind of stuck in limbo. That's one place I knew I ddin't

want to be.

I understand about your fears of coming out to your stepson. I have a teenage son and telling him is also

my greatest fear, even more so than coming out to my wife. You didn't say how old he was. That will make

a big difference. I'm going to wait as long as possible; hopefully I can hold off until he is near 18.

I wish you luck, Shilo. Please PM me if you want to talk mor about it. Like Donna Jean said, we are all

here for you, and we love you.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

Getting upset with him would only serve to make him feel worse, and I'd rather stay on the nicer side of my biggest ally right now. Besides, it's not like I don't make mistakes like that all the time. He's a great guy, and it would take a lot for me to change that opinion.

My stepson is 18, as of November.

[Carolyn Marie]

Getting upset with him would only serve to make him feel worse, and I'd rather stay on the nicer side of my biggest ally right now. Besides, it's not like I don't make mistakes like that all the time. He's a great guy, and it would take a lot for me to change that opinion.

My stepson is 18, as of November.

That's good. If he is mature then it should be easier than telling someone younger, as teenagers tend

to think more about how their peers might react, and can be self-centered and unconcerned with others.

Being 18 doesn't guarantee anything, but hopefully he will be more understanding.

I wish you all the best.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Robin Winter]

Thanks

*Hugs*