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My therapist gives me copies of documents all the time. Information packets, articles, letters, etc. I've considered typing them up and making them available to members here, but I'd like to know first if anyone would be at all interested before I commit the time to it. I'm a pretty fast typist, but it's still a lot of paper. If it would be useful for anyone though, I'm happy to do it. So....any takers?

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Guest Amanda joan

Shilo,

That is really sweet. I am seeing a therapist also but, she does not often give me things to read. So I would love to see what you have.

Thank you so much for the offer.

Peace & Love Amanda

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Guest sarah f

Shilo, I would also be greatly interested to read what your therapist has given you to read. Don't feel like you have to but if you do than Thank You.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest Robin Winter

Some of it was intended for my own benefit, and some of it was intended to help me with the coming out process, so it's all pretty useful, and applicable to everyone who fits under the Transgender term, not just MTF. So I'll start with the package he gave me Thursday. That one was compiled by someone else who sees him, who has just come out at work. This was the packet she made up for her employer to help educate them regarding her situation. I'll also add the letter she typed up for her co-workers to explain to them what's going on. I don't know for sure that she wrote it herself, or if she found it somewhere else, he didn't say, but it's very well written and might be something anyone can use, with little or no changes.

Might take a few days though, my work days can be long, and it's quite a few pages.

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Guest Robin Winter
I'm definitely interested! I don't have a therapist (yet), so I'd like to have as much info as possible. :D

I got something you might be particularly interested in then. It's a fairly lengthy document that lists all the known effects and risks of HRT, approximate pricing (I believe it's in canadian dollars, but I can't remember for sure, but still a good guide), and lots of other information about the transition process. I'll type that one up second. That was a big one though, so don't expect it tomorrow :P

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Thanks, Shilo. That's really nice of you. :)

We'll take a look at the stuff and if its really useful and we don't already have something like it on the site, we'll consider putting it or a link

to it on the Resource Pages.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Robin Winter
Thanks, Shilo. That's really nice of you. :)

We'll take a look at the stuff and if its really useful and we don't already have something like it on the site, we'll consider putting it or a link

to it on the Resource Pages.

Carolyn Marie

I suspect most of it is there, the only real benefit to what I have is it's all compiled into neat packages. Not sure though, I might have something new, I have to go through it all again.

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Guest Nikki A

what exactly do you have? i have only been given some fun rules and guidelines for adults planning on recieving hormone therapy, and a similar sheet for SRS.

hugs, Nikki

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Guest drop_the_world

hello there shilo. As a mtf pre-op highschool student without a gt, I would love to have some information. I'm sorry if I sound kind of forward, but I don't really know another way to put it though, I'm sorry for that

-melissa

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Guest Robin Winter
Hi Shilo,

Can you scan the documents anywhere? It sounds better than doing all of that typing.

Thanks, Kat

No, the only person I know with a scanner is my boss....and that would just not be good right now lol. Wish I could though. Closest I could come to that would be photographing with the digital camera, and I'm not sure that would really turn out very good. If my fingers get sore I might give it a shot :P

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Guest AshleeB
Some of it was intended for my own benefit, and some of it was intended to help me with the coming out process, so it's all pretty useful, and applicable to everyone who fits under the Transgender term, not just MTF. So I'll start with the package he gave me Thursday. That one was compiled by someone else who sees him, who has just come out at work. This was the packet she made up for her employer to help educate them regarding her situation. I'll also add the letter she typed up for her co-workers to explain to them what's going on. I don't know for sure that she wrote it herself, or if she found it somewhere else, he didn't say, but it's very well written and might be something anyone can use, with little or no changes.

Might take a few days though, my work days can be long, and it's quite a few pages.

Oh this is a good one :D i have a therapist but i have yet to get any info off her. shes more about telling me about things but not actually giving me material so i can look it over again later. so everything shes already told me is gone from my mind.

This is really sweet of you Shilo =)

Love Ash

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Oh this is a good one :D i have a therapist but i have yet to get any info off her. shes more about telling me about things but not actually giving me material so i can look it over again later. so everything shes already told me is gone from my mind.

Ugh, mine doesn't even do that, he asks questions, and then in the last five minutes of the session *might* say something, but it's usually just confirming what I've figured out myself anyway. He's confirmed that he thinks I have a gender problem, which was good, but has told me absolutely nothing else and given me no materials or anything. I didn't even know it was the 'done thing' until I read your post, Shilo. So yes, if you would be able to copy that information in some way, it really would be enormously appreciated. :wub:

xox Remus

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Guest Robin Winter

Not a problem :)

I'll try and get a start tonight, but I'm still working (officially anyway) right now.

It's kind of upsetting that some of you have therapists that are so ... vague. I must be really lucky, Jim just spits everything right out. Three or four sessions in, he just came right out and said it "Well, you certainly meet all the criteria, so I guess you'll need to make a plan so you can get started on hormones". I was stunned lol. He's not like any other therapist I've ever seen. Which I suppose is why I stopped seeing the others after one or two visits, having told them nothing.

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Guest Robin Winter

Okie, first one done. It was a bit longer than I thought it was.

Firstly, I want to say that I copied this as exactly as I could manage, including formatting. I did make a few punctuation changes, but that's it. I did not add or remove any content, nor do I take credit for any of it. The material, I believe, is mostly gleaned from the sources listed in the document, but I'm not sure what was from there and what was original to the person who compiled the information. I also don't know the identity of this person, at least not yet, though I believe it's my GT's intention to put me in touch with her when he sees her next. At that time, and with her permission, I'll credit her for this document.

This one is basically general trans information as an introduction for people you're coming out to, particularly employers in the case of the person who provided it. It's pretty thorough for just being a basic introduction.

I hope it's useful for someone, my back hurts from all the typing :rolleyes:

Anyway, here it is

shilo.comlu.com/Transgender.doc

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Guest AshleeB
Not a problem :)

I'll try and get a start tonight, but I'm still working (officially anyway) right now.

It's kind of upsetting that some of you have therapists that are so ... vague. I must be really lucky, Jim just spits everything right out. Three or four sessions in, he just came right out and said it "Well, you certainly meet all the criteria, so I guess you'll need to make a plan so you can get started on hormones". I was stunned lol. He's not like any other therapist I've ever seen. Which I suppose is why I stopped seeing the others after one or two visits, having told them nothing.

This is perfect ^_^ My dad has accepted me but he is sort of in the dark about it all and wants to learn more but didnt know how to go about it (he is computer illiterate)

So im gonna read it myself, print it off and send it his way. hopefully it will enlighten him a little bit ^_^

Thanks very much! :D

Love

Ashlee

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Guest Donna Jean

Woah!

Shi, Hon..............

This is some REALLY good stuff. And thank you so very much for going to the effort of making it available to all of us!

I hope that your back and fingers get to feeling better.....

Thanks again, Honey!

Donna Jean

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Guest Robin Winter
Woah!

Shi, Hon..............

This is some REALLY good stuff. And thank you so very much for going to the effort of making it available to all of us!

I hope that your back and fingers get to feeling better.....

Thanks again, Honey!

Donna Jean

Hehe, I'm find DeeJay, I'll get the next one started as soon as I can, but it's quite a bit longer, so it'll probably be a few days. I managed to get that one done in a relatively short period of time yesterday, but it was my day off. I don't have another one until next Tuesday now, so it'll be slow going :P

It's good stuff though, and I'm really looking forward to getting that one done, I think it'll be good for a lot of people.

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Guest Victoriaf

Thank You very much Shilo,

This is really nice to have. Thank you for doing the work of typing this up for everyone to have.

Your a sweetie

Victoria

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This is an outstanding resource, Shilo. Not too technical, not too wordy, its a great summary. I'm printing it and will give

it to my wife to read. I didn't see anything I would disagree with.

Thank you for taking the time to make this available. Much appreciated!

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Robin Winter

Awww, you're welcome, and I'll be sure and pass along everyones thanks if I ever manage to get into contact with the person who gave it to my GT :)

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