So Im Seeing My Gender Specialist

[Guest AshleeB]

And normally i would be excited. But today is different.

Last time i went, we spoke about pretty much nothing. it was VERY little to do with why i was there.

Two times past, she said she would hook me up with a speech specialist and she still hasnt even called them

She said theres an ok chance i can be on hormones by my birthday but unless she hooks me up with the endo

THIS WEEK, theres no way on earth thats gonna happen

Im having a terrible day and i dont need the stress of being messed around by someone who doesnt seem to take her job seiously on top of it all >_<

I also found out today that there isnt anything i can do about starting school with my male name. theres details in the name change application that i cant physically do anything about. like... how am i ment to provide proof that im not trying to avoid paying defaults when i dont HAVE any debt and im under 18??

The school told me that they cant help me either, so im pretty much destined to have everyone im gonna meet in the next year know me as a boy.

great.

Lots of love...

Ash

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Maybe? - use your boy name as a 'pet' girls name.

And sorry you are so down on your therapist? Maybe that could be your next topic with her - how you feel she isn't taking you seriously!

LIZZY

[Sally]

I am sorry about your therapist, Lizzy is right, let her know that you need more from her.

You are the boss in those sessions so take charge and get what you need.

Keep on pushing forward step by step.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Katrina_Carter]

On official papers at your school they will be using your boy name, but maybe you could try talking to your teachers so that they don't. Most teachers are understanding and if you catch them alone after the first class they probably will be fine with it. If they say something before you get a chance to talk to them then play it off... It's not "Dan-yal" it's "Dan-yel" (first being male pronunciation, second being female). Also could follow up with something like "But I go by Ashlee". You don't have to explain why you go by it, just say you would really appreciate it if they just stuck with Ashlee.

I haven't experienced that situation so I can't say I know what you are going through, but I can try to offer help through ideas and suggestions. *hugs* I wish you luck.

[Guest AshleeB]

Ok now i feel awful for saying all that stuff...

That wonderful WONDERFUL woman has given me the contact details of a nearby endo, meaning SHE believes im all good to go with hormones

And she thinks my girl voice is excellent considering i havnt practiced alot.

so WOO!

im never gonna see her again though. apparently today was her last day with the clinic =S

My new specialist is a man this time. Apparently he himself is trans so thats pretty cool ^^

Lots of love

Ash

[Guest casper]

hi hi

I'm glad it all worked out for you.

It is good to see you with out that mad face

Things will always work our if we will only let them.

vanna

[Carolyn Marie]

Ok now i feel awful for saying all that stuff...

That wonderful WONDERFUL woman has given me the contact details of a nearby endo, meaning SHE believes im all good to go with hormones

And she thinks my girl voice is excellent considering i havnt practiced alot.

so WOO!

Ash

Ashlee, there is an old saying; "what a difference a day makes." True?

It's a shame you have to start over with a new therapist, but if he's trans, that should make the "transition"

easier. Pardon the pun.

Good going, girl. Way cool.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest JD_Divine]

Heres a thought. Perhaps the reason the first therapist didn't cover issues as thuroughly as you had hoped was because she knew she was leaving that practice and wanted you to have an easier transition to a new therapist when she left? And also didnt want to get too invested in helping you to the point she'd feel bad about you having to turn to and learn to trust another therapist. So it wasn't done out of lack of skill in her trade or disrespect to you, it was equally as tough for her. Just a perspective at any rate.

~JD