Sea Of Estrogen

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I am in 'a sea of estrogen' now, definately. When with women I feel so secure! And men - they seem to never quite understand! I have to be a decision maker at my job - why are my decisions different? I don't notice. BUT I do see the women nod when I speak, and the guys just open their mouths without a reply?

Non- confrontational. I settle arguements, I resolve disputes. People ask me to attend the meetings beacause I can do this.

BUT

I ALWAYS was that way? I know I was!

Why do people feel like they are in a sea of estrogen just because women are around? Several of the Super Bowl commercials suggested because men are 'hen-pected", they deserve a new testosterone based designer car - or to get away into a better place 'without all the estrogen!'

WOMEN WATCHED THESE COMMERCIAL TOO - and the game - football belongs to everyone!

I HATE THAT PREJUDICE!

Still me - still just me. Am I missing something? Does being a gentle soul mean I am emasculating people?

DANG

"ESTROGEN" It does a body good!

My opinion

Elizabeth

[Sally]

I have always been called a diplomat because I avoided confrontation as a way to settle an argument but I don't know that it is all about estrogen any more than testosterone has anything to do with being stupid - we all as a group assign negative qualities to those outside of our group.

Men think women are shallow and incapable of making decisions

Women think men are stupid and totally sex driven

Cisgendered think that we are freaks and perverts

We think that cisgendered are bigots and idiots

Everyone has prejudices, it is haw you handle them that makes thinks work or not.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Donna Jean]

Lizzy.....

As you know ...I'm in a male dominated field, too...(kinda like yours)

I see that, too....sea of estrogen...I was always the peace maker...."Break it up, boys!"

And now it seems especially weird when I'm giving instructions, because like you, I'm in a position of authority...Is it a problem that they are reading my "non male" estrogen fueled approach to things? I do sense that.....

Donna Jean

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Dee Jay

That's what I mean. I feel 'outed' somehow because I don't act like men expect. Like I said - the women nod their head ('shes' right) and the men open their mouths in astonishement (wha.... that's what a woman would say!)

I am still male presenting (as much as I can be) but it's getting 'iffy.'

I have to watch my voice to keep it in a lower range than I now use everywhere else. The female inflections are too natural to control sometimes - that upwrd lilt sneaks in.

Estrogen has reworked me. Auggggggh

Lizzy

[Carolyn Marie]

It seems like many (most?) of us were a bit on the nurturing, diplomatic, easy going side of things as men. I include myself

in that. I think our feminine nature was at play all the while, and we just weren't aware of it until we admitted to ourselves

that we were, in fact, women.

For years, I was the one person that the staff felt they could confide in. Work problems, personal problems, they came to

me for advice, solace, and protection. The female employees especially. For some reason (wink!) they found me to be

non-threatening and sympathetic. It got so that I joked about getting a couch installed in my cubicle and charging a fee

for "therapy."

I now know why they felt safe with me. I was one of them, but I was in a position that allowed me to sometimes help them

with problems. I enjoy that role immensly. Maybe that's why I was drawn to providing the same services to the members

here.

Estrogen - I think it just makes that nurturing tendency stronger, but it was there all along.

Thanks for this thread, Lizzy. BTW, I love your new avatar pic. Girl, you are doing fine!

Carolyn Marie