What Am I? :/

[Guest janeylewis]

Well, this seems like a good place to put all this: I`m Riley, i never used to be Riley, I used to be Janey, as you might`ve guessed from my username (i`m terrible at being original, i have other profiles on different networking sites with the same username, i should probably try and come up with something new, lol :/), i`ve also been Dylan, that was when i was 15/16 though.... i "came out" for lack of a better word, to my parents and family when i was about 16, they took it fairly well-ish and i lived really quite happily as a guy for about a year and then told my parents i "changed my mind" for lack of a better word... i`m not sure why, i think i was confused about things and wanted things to slow down a bit but i said "stop" by accident instead of "slow down" and ended up living as a girl again, which i hated even more by then but i didn`t know how to explain things to anyone... I also got really confused because if i wanted to slow down then doesn`t that mean i wasn`t really sure of myself in the first place?

Now i feel more male than female but i still feel a bit confused as well, its more like i don`t really feel either male or female most of the time. Some days though, i wake up and feel female, other days i wake up feeling male, so what does that make me? Genderqueer? And how can i figure out who i really am if i have all these conflicting feelings floating around in my head? :/

Sorry if all that`s a bit confusing or it`s in the wrong place or anything, i`m still a bit new to the site

[MaryEllen]

Hello Riley,

It's not unusual to be confused about which gender you are. I think we've all been there at one time or another. You don't have to be totally male, nor do you have to be totally female. You can identify as androgenous, leaning toward either male or female. Whatever you are more comfortable with. If you've never had counseling with a gender therapist, you might want to consider that.. He/she could help you sort out this confusion you're having.

MaryEllen

[Guest Elizabeth K]

You are what you are. What you discover you may be is just fine! Always remember that - and - stock advice??? A gender trained therapist is the answer. It's not what you think! You will find a best friend, most likely, with your therapist!

So good luck on a journey of self-discovery!

Elizabeth