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What Is The Exact Reason Why Transition Or Want To?


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Guest praisedbeherhooves

Well, personally I am transitioning because I really dislike my body and because I felt like a liar everytime I said my female name. I do not particularly care for masculinity anymore than femininity. I mean, I like girly colors and tight clothing when the tight clothing doesn't make my figure look feminine. I am not bothered being read as I know I am a guy and I am aware I am not genetically male so why should I care if someone figures it out? I live in a liberal area and the chances of me being transbashed are fairly slim. I do have to say I hate being read because of my voice or physical figure since those bother me but if they figure me out by my face I have no problem.

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, Hon......

I'm glad that you are comfortable at the level that you are.

But, with me, I need to take it all one step further...in my direction...

Everything girly...Name, clothes, treatment, stuffed animals...you name it...I need that affirmation...

I have to make up for more than 6 decades of being in a prison ....

I'm now free and I have so little time to make it all up...the life that I was supposed to of had and never did until now...

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I'm transitioning because I feel like the only way I can truly be happy and be fulfilled is to live the rest of my life

in the gender that I always felt I was in my mind, but with a body that didn't match. I need my mind and my body

to be in synch. Transition will make that a reality. Then I will be who I was meant to be 56 years ago.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Sarah

well, with me it was that i just couldn't stand that face in the mirror anymore. I was able to ingore it for 19 years, but then I couldn't help but accept anymore that wasn't me in the mirror. I never really saw myself in it, but ignored that fact. Now finally on hormones i can see myself in the mirror, little by little I start to actually be happy with the image i see in the mirror. Finally I can enjoy looking at myself ^_^

though i still have lot's of body image issues, they're getting better :--)

grts & hugs,

Sarah xxx

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Guest Elizabeth K

I have a weird attitude about transitioning. I am doing it because it is my birthright to have a female body. Transitioning all the way is as close as I can ever get in this lifetime.

Lizzy

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Guest KellyKat
Well, Hon......

I'm glad that you are comfortable at the level that you are.

But, with me, I need to take it all one step further...in my direction...

Everything girly...Name, clothes, treatment, stuffed animals...you name it...I need that affirmation...

I have to make up for more than 6 decades of being in a prison ....

I'm now free and I have so little time to make it all up...the life that I was supposed to of had and never did until now...

Ditto on that Dee Jay!!

My prison has only been 4 decades... but still....

I've felt like a zombie going thru the motions of living someone else's life.

Now on this path... I am finally feeling wholly me.

Luv KK :)

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If I lived in a more liberal area and did not fear trans-bashing I would not care if I was read or not - but as for a bit of feeling secure I would prefer if they did not know.

Transitioning to pass is not the reason - this much work, time and expense should be spent because of how it will make you feel - wherever you are comfortable is where you should stop - I am probably going to have to go all the way because Dee Jay pointed out the stuffed animals as a way of feeling more girly - but I have always collected Stuffed Animals.

I just want to be able to take a bubble bath and just see a woman nothing else.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest KellyKat
I just want to be able to take a bubble bath and just see a woman nothing else.

Love ya,

Sally

Sally you need to get better bath beads hon!! And quit bursting your own bubbles!! ;)

Luv Kat :)

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I got this woman screaming inside my head since I was a kid,,,,

"" where did THAT come from , get freakin Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

iiiiiiiiiiid of it NOW !!!!!!!!! :blush:

So I am,,,,,,,,,,,,getting rid of **it**...Oh ,,,,and I want to be able to look another woman square in the face ,,,nod my

head ,,,roll my eyes and say ,,,," dont look at me hun,,I cant work em (men) out either " LOL,,now thats a laugh I cant

wait for ,,,,,Thousands more reasons but ya know hun ???? Im just an Irish broad born with an **it**thats being evicted

ASAP,,,,,,luv,viv :)

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Guest N. Jane

Way back in the Dark Ages (the 1960's) I came to realize that I just "didn't fit", couldn't fit as a supposed guy. I didn't speak the language, couldn't grasp the customs, and just couldn't relate to ANYONE well because I didn't even know who and what I was - though I knew who I WASN'T. Most people assumed I was a girl or were at least puzzled as heck why this obviously-girl was pretending to be/trying to pass as a guy.

I really had no idea what life would be like after transition/SRS but I was in a burning high-rise and I was going to die if I didn't jump so I jumped.

I couldn't believe how easy and natural life was as a girl - it was me and I was it. It didn't have as much to do with anatomy as it did with finding myself and being able to grow and develop as a real person, ME!

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Guest Maelee

I have always felt that I was in the wrong body. Most things about it just feel wrong to me. Some of those I will never be able to change but everything that I can I will till I reach the point where my body matches as close as possible what my mind says I am.

All my life to about 2 years ago I thought I could never transition, that I would never be able to pass as a woman. But I finally got sick of living a lie and could no longer live that lie. Even if I can never pass and get read every where I ever go, at least I am going to live my life true to myself.

Love and *hugs*

Mae

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Guest supervixenxxx

That's a great question...

I can sure relate to a great deal of what I've read and can totally understand the feelings that come through.

I had just posted on a different thread that for me the male gender portrayal had become and incredible burden. It was exhausting and led to depression as well as physical sickness. I was a wreck and I'm lucky to have made it out... The female presentation has truly been easy in comparison. And I always feel like I am who I am, no matter what and before, I didn't have that feeling except in rare flashes.

'Exact reason: It feels good and the other way felt bad. The challenging part I believe is coming to understand that and deciding to feel good.

Jen

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Guest Cayden

I have decided to transition over because I am tired of living a lie. My whole life I knew somehow my sex was wrong. I am still scared and I am not out to anyone but my immediate family and yet I will go through the transition because I want to be me and not someone acting like they are someone else. I hope this helps.

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