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Guest seanjamie

Hi everyone,

Ok so I find people attractive in the general sense but I just seem to have no sex desire when awake.

Is this normal or could this have to do with me feeling like I don't belong as the sex I was born into,

Could it be that it is a side effect of the depression I have suffered from for nearly half of my life,

Maybe I just have no desire in my conscious self -

It just seems that only my subconscious self desires sex.

I have had dreams of a sexual nature but i find I've had more as me being a guy than as the female sex I was born.

I find that when I wake from the ones where I was female that i feel some unease compared to the dreams where I am male . Also I have had other dreams as a guy that weren't sexual that always have the affect of leaving me feeling extremely happy :) at the idea of becoming a guy so easily.

Sorry for this people I just want to understand this stuff,

Thanks for listening from Sean :)

p.s. sorry I wasn't sure where to place this post :( and I hope its appropriate I went to post it before with a different title but decided to change the title as it may have been inappropriate , if it was sorry:(

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Guest Donna Jean

Sean.....

Our dreams are a window to our sub-concious....

There may be things down deeper on the inside than you are not able to experience on the outside..

Feeling happy as your target gender is a big sign, I think!

If you are able, you may want to seek out a good gender therapist to help you get to the grist of your dreams....

Good luck, Hon!

H&GGSA!

DSonna Jean

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I understand what you are feeling, Sean.

To say that I had no sex drive would be no exaggeration as I am 56, was in college during the era of Free Sex (Pre HIV) and was married for almost 6 years and remain a virgin - that just doesn't happen - but it did!

My dreams of me as a female always left me so happy but as a male it was so hard to feel anythingwhen I woke up.

I have been dealing with this for so long now and I am finally putting a stop to it - I am transitioning and I will no longer have to dream fo being female and hiding it from everyone - that is who I am and soon everyone will know.

Find a therapist and figure out where you need to be and begin taking those baby steps to get there.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Oh I donno

Sex in dreams is so complicated - and I have had explicit dreams as a female for years! REALLY sexually explicit! I guess my id was trying to tell my ego something - or is it the other way around?

My most satifying dreams was when I was dressed fully as a woman, was terrified I would be found out, then realized I WAS a woman in body too... whwew... so relaxing.

And sex in the waking times - everyone is different. I liked sex as a male I guess - I mean it was a release. But I knew there is more to life and that as a woman I would have better releases! And its starting to happen already...

Hope this helps

Lizzy

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Sean,

I have felt the same way all of my 58 years, i liked people as friends but not in a sexual way, my mother always wondered why i never got married and gave her grand children, it was only a couple of years ago i stumbled upon a website where there were lots of people that felt the same as i did, what i learned was that i was Asexual, there were lots of people male and female that felt the same as i did, but i also was trans where most of the others were not, but they still had the same issues of being afraid of coming out to family and friends as i did.

Maybe this website can shed some light on why you are the way you are:

http://www.asexuality.org/home/

Paula

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Guest seanjamie

:) Thanks for the replies Donna Jean, Lizzy , Sally and Paula.

It's really nice that you were willing to share ur perspectives and wat you have all been through it really helped to have this .

Talk to you all again soon.

Thanks again for the replies :)

from your friend Sean

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I understand what you are feeling, Sean.

To say that I had no sex drive would be no exaggeration as I am 56, was in college during the era of Free Sex (Pre HIV) and was married for almost 6 years and remain a virgin - that just doesn't happen - but it did!

My dreams of me as a female always left me so happy but as a male it was so hard to feel anythingwhen I woke up.

I have been dealing with this for so long now and I am finally putting a stop to it - I am transitioning and I will no longer have to dream fo being female and hiding it from everyone - that is who I am and soon everyone will know.

Find a therapist and figure out where you need to be and begin taking those baby steps to get there.

Love ya,

Sally

Thankyou so much for this sally :) Hugs!!!

I really feel that wat you wrote is very empowering for me and also so kind and brave of you to tell me something so personal.

thanks

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Guest seanjamie
My most satifying dreams was when I was dressed fully as a woman, was terrified I would be found out, then realized I WAS a woman in body too... whwew... so relaxing.

Lizzy

Thanks Lizzy

yeah dreams like that are awesome - wish forfillment much ;)

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