Was It Hard

[Guest tori319]

I want to know how everybody felt when they realized they were Trans. I know that for me being raised in a ultra christian family I did not take it well plus the fact that the only thing I knew about trans people was what I saw on Muary or Jerry Springer so coming to terms was rough.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Opposite here!

It explained everything! I had been in denial.

Lizzy

[Guest My_Genesis]

The hardest part for me was admitting the fact that I may not ever end up with the body I should've been born with. I guess you can say I was in denial about being trans b/c I didn't want to admit that this was a problem, b/c I didn't think I'd be able to handle not having a bio-male's body. Still can't really handle it but at least I have decided to transition. The part of it I do think is hardest is with family as opposed to dealing with it yourself. Getting people who have known you your whole life as someone your not, to figure out who you really are, is the hardest part for me aside from getting over the denial about the bio-male body thing. I still tell myself one day medical technology will catch up and be able to truly give us the bodies we should've had all along.

[Guest tori319]

Yea that was hard too,the thought of never being able to get pregnant or have a period.Also, not being seen the way I feel by my family.

[Guest JKarician]

After feeling like I was a guy inside for years yet trying to fit in everywhere without success, I thought I was absolutely insane before a name was actually put to what I felt inside. When I found that name and discovered I wasn’t alone, that I wasn’t psychotic or schizophrenic it was like the clouds opened up. Definitely hallelujah chorus : ) I was relieved and felt freed. I’m sorry to hear that it was not the same for you though Tori, but I can understand how coming from such a background it must be a difficult thing to confront. There are so many strong stereotypes associated with trans. Best of luck to you. You've found an excellent place to find the support everyone needs in this tough spot.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Well, for me it was the "AH HA!" moment ...

I'm older (READ: 60) and all of the years feeling the way I did and thinking that I was perverted or maybe mentally ill..

Until that day I found out that I was born this way and my feelings were perfectly normal for a Trans person...

It's wonderful to realize who I am and just what I need to do.....

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest Evan_J]

Being trans was significantly easier to deal with than back when I thought I was just under the "lesbian" umbrella". That was the one I had fights with God about lol. When I realized I was actually trans (cuz there was some serious crossdressed/male presentation happening -yep, down to the facial hair and the packer) then I was like "ooooooooh, so thats whats goin on". Still, it took me another 17 years to actually medically transition.

[Sally]

It hit me in two stages.

First came the realization that the tendencies, needs, urges - whatever you want to call them were never going away - I now knew that there were others with similar feelings but they were the ones mentioned before from Jerry Springer and the like so I did not want to be one of them - but I knew I was female while the world saw me as male.

I was in the 4th year of a pretty much loveless marriage that was supposed to have 'cured' me - it was my last attempt to spare me from being one of "Those weirdos" when I just could not stand it any more - I started searching the Internet for information and I began to discover that there were a lot of people like me around and a great majority of them would be considered completely normal if society could get past the trans issues.

Then the second stage hot me - relief!

I now knew that it was OK to be trans and nothing really wrong with me other than a physical birth condition and I have set on the path to correct it.

Society may be lagging behind in acceptance but I have discovered a hidden world of wonderful people rejected by a society that does not try to understand and accept - beautiful, fragile flowers being ignored by so many.

Now I have a group of intensely loyal and devoted friends, sensitive to each others moods and needs like no one I had ever known before, most here at Laura's but a couple from just Internet connections through other sites.

I have accepted myself as transsexual and have embraced so many others - the feeling when I am with my friends is almost Euphoric!

I LOVE YOU ALL!

Sally

[Guest tori319]

Yea, I wish I had known earlier because I used to be trans and homophobic and now I realize that I was the very thing I discriminated against. Fortunately I have come to terms with it but I'm still trying to figure out how to tell my family which consists of an mom 5 uncles, 4 aunts and a bunch of cousins.I guess I should just be happy my dad isn't around ,hes from Nigeria and I hear they kill people for less over there.

[Guest Wry]

Fortunately I have come to terms with it but I'm still trying to figure out how to tell my family which consists of an mom 5 uncles, 4 aunts and a bunch of cousins.I guess I should just be happy my dad isn't around ,hes from Nigeria and I hear they kill people for less over there.

Just wait until a couple of them are in a room with you, watching TV or something, then say in a relaxed, matter-of-fact tone of voice, "Hey, you guys know I'm a transsexual, right?" That's what I did, and it worked out very well. A lot of people come-out in a grandiose way, you know, with a long letter or by telling them "there's something serious I need to talk to you about;" the only thing that will do though is freak them out or send them into shock. So, be calm when you do it, and don't put on serious face.

[Guest tori319]

Just wait until a couple of them are in a room with you, watching TV or something, then say in a relaxed, matter-of-fact tone of voice, "Hey, you guys know I'm a transsexual, right?" That's what I did, and it worked out very well. A lot of people come-out in a grandiose way, you know, with a long letter or by telling them "there's something serious I need to talk to you about;" the only thing that will do though is freak them out or send them into shock. So, be calm when you do it, and don't put on serious face.

Lmfao that's hilarious I don't think I'd have the nerve.

[Guest Girl Emily]

For me like Sally it was a two stage event. First I admitted to myself the feelings and desires were not going away. I then embraced the crossdressing and searched for makeup tips online which led me to transgender websites. After reading the stories of other MtF's I recognized my own story. I knew without a doubt I was like them and was relieved of all the guilt and shame that I had carried most of my life. But like Tori I came from an evangelical Christian background and needed to research and decide my theological position on the subject. After that I am happier than I've been in years most days.

Huggs,