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I didnt see that one coming. So Im a drummer in a band. We happen to be playing a bar Friday night. We dont play alot of bars anymore, we play more private parties, corporate events and festivals. Anyways this particular bar tends to cater to a little wilder crowd. At least a fight or two everytime I have played there before.

I dress female, but more androgynous as my wife is usually at the shows, and for my safety in a bar. I usually am in a tight black shirt and tight jeans when I perform. Ive been on HRT for quite awhile now so there is no hiding or denying something about me is not like the others......

So after the first set I work my way over to the bar to get a coke and as I'm standing there waiting for the bartender to make her way by, this young lady walks up to me and says that I look really nice. Im a bit hard of hearing (too many years playing with bands) and it gets really bad for me in noisy places, so I ask her again what she said. She says "You look really nice, :D But no one here does that" :P So I kinda start laughing, and we talk for a minute. She said I smelled really good too. Well I gotta say she kinda caught me off guard. I totally wasnt ready for that. We only talked for a minute and then she started talking to one of her friends.

I never ran into her again. I wanted to ask her what she meant by not doing that here. What girls dont dress as girls in this bar..... :lol:

Dang... sometimes I wish I was a little quicker on my feet. B)

Cris

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Guest Donna Jean

Chris.....

Well, I think that she meant that girls (like you) usually dress down in that particular bar.....

BTW...I played for years and years, too...same venues as you..guitar....

It's wonderful that you make the effort to look nice while getting all sweaty banging the skins!

Rock on!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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I would have to agree with the comment being about the way you were dressed - so many 'garage bands' go out to play and they are dressed like mechanics who have just finished in the grease pits so when you showed up dressed so nicely it caught her off guard.

I have played in Jazz bands for years but my hearing is fine - I play trumpet and stand in the back doing all of the ear damage to those sitting in front of me.

I am so glad that you are still playing in your band - I am uncertain as to my future with this band of 28 years when I finally have to come out to them (oddly conservative and very right wing for musicians).

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest RachaelAnn

I have been in 2 bands. One when I was 17, and one that I'm in now. This one is extreme heavy metal. My old band was just rock. I have been the lead vocalist for both. I don't have any of our songs on this comp from my current band, but if anyone wants to hear my old band I guess I could upload a song.

Rachael

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Cris,

It's all good hon :)

She was just telling you that you were attractive (woman to woman).

Cool you are still playing out :)

Love

Brenda

@Rach. Hon I would love to hear your tunes :) I use muziboo as a place to hold music. Load an mp3 up to a website and post a link here to it. I would love to hear it :)

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