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Guest Cherri

Does anyone here actually have any androgynous friends? I sure don't. I know were kind of a huge minority, but you would think I would have at least found one person I could relate to by now...

I'm also the type of person that doesn't really care if I look angrogynous or not, I just want to look like I feel; with strong mannerisms and appearances of both male and female. There seems to be even less people out there that feel that way.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for any kind of relationship or anything, I just don't want to feel like I'm the only person out there that feels like I do...

I just want to say in closing, however, that already this place has been very supportive and helpful to me, and it's nice that I haven't been told I don't belong, like I was on a different gender support forum which shall remain nameless. Thank you everyone for being so nice and supportive...

-Cherri

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Guest Donna Jean

Cherri.....

Honey....

I know that you're not trying to pick up anyone...

You are just looking for like minded people....

You just stick around and you'll meet some that you can relate to...

Remember, when you have 5 posts you can use the Private messenger and talk with anyone that you you wish privately!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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I am so glad that you have posted this, Cherri.

There are a lot more androgynous folks than you think and they are wonderful people a couple of my closest friends here were androgynous but they have moved on and I don't hear from them very often - wonderful people with such interesting lives - I am sure you will find a number of very interesting people here.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

NO NO NO

We want you here! You are never alone, honey, we all have those feelings, sometimes, like we are the only ones in the world!

And my androgynous best friend in the whole world? I love her like a sister! MIA

She moved on? Broke my heart... issues with her wife - she never really explained to her SO she was more than a CDer. I know its hard being both/neither/either - I was in transition for a year in that middle world. EVERYONE looked at me - thinking "what is going on with that person?" I wasn't ashamed - just overwhelmed!

I wish the world would let us be - well - WHATEVER!

And I will be your friend? I WILL - pinkie promise! And others here? We don't care what you are - we just want you to enjoy it here! And yes - I NEVER met a transsexual until I started theraphy - I mean in person of course. My therapist set up a meeting for me. It was such a revelation - THERE ARE OTHERS OUT THERE!

WOW

And Dee Jay and Sally and I made a date to meet im Memphis for a week. I think it changd the lives of all three of us forever! And I just met with Carolyn Marie and her familoy - they were in New Orleans on vacation! WOW...

So hang in there - take some doing sometimes.

And you BELONG here!

Lizzy

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Guest ~Brenda~

Cherri hon,

You belong here!!! You are not alone here!!! You are very very welcomed here at Laura's. Never, ever forget that...OK!!!

Now hon, keep posting here. You will see that the more you post, the more you interact here, the more you will see that we all care for one another. This includes you.

I care about you :)

Love

Brenda

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I don't think I know any androgynes, but if I do then they have not told me. I'd say that chances are that you have known at least a few androgynes but have not been able to pick them out because they are forced to present more masculine or feminine.

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Guest Cherri

Thanks everyone.

It's becoming very obvious that this forum is the most supportive environment I have ever had the fortune of being in. I truly appreciate every kind word said, and I take it all to heart. *hugs all around*

-Cherri

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Guest ~Brenda~
Thanks everyone.

It's becoming very obvious that this forum is the most supportive environment I have ever had the fortune of being in. I truly appreciate every kind word said, and I take it all to heart. *hugs all around*

-Cherri

:wub:

Brenda

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Guest Elizabeth K

Double answer sorry - I just looked in the files - members that I know something about - posted since the beginning of this year - list their description as ANDROGYNE in the profiles here at Laura's:

"Dakura"

Annie B

Exeter

John Doe

Nymphblossom

Scooby

Shift

Of course this is a short list, there are others.

You may want to PM one or two - Shift is a great writer, for example. They all are really good people - some natal female, some natal male.

Hope this helps

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean
Thanks everyone.

It's becoming very obvious that this forum is the most supportive environment I have ever had the fortune of being in. I truly appreciate every kind word said, and I take it all to heart. *hugs all around*

-Cherri

By gosh!

I'll have one of those!

{{{{{{{{HUGGGGGGGS}}}}}}}}

Yeah......that's better!

Donna Jean

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Guest Micha
Does anyone here actually have any androgynous friends? I sure don't. I know were kind of a huge minority, but you would think I would have at least found one person I could relate to by now...

Honestly, I don't think there are absolutes, not to I think the spectrum is two dimensional. In other words, everyone's somewhere in between, up or down, etc. I'm still learning and reading and I've not experienced a whole lot that I've seen with an aware androgyne perspective, so maybe I'm just daffy. However I do think a lot of my friends would be able to identify as adnrogyne, or at least bi gender. None of them identified as such, I don't think the concept was even known to most of the people I know (for me I only just became aware of it). Chances are though I knew androgynes and perhaps even transsexuals who didn't even know themselves. Growing up in a conservative community kinda stifles challenging accepted thoughts or proper manners.

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Honestly, I don't think there are absolutes, not to I think the spectrum is two dimensional. In other words, everyone's somewhere in between, up or down, etc. I'm still learning and reading and I've not experienced a whole lot that I've seen with an aware androgyne perspective, so maybe I'm just daffy. However I do think a lot of my friends would be able to identify as adnrogyne, or at least bi gender. None of them identified as such, I don't think the concept was even known to most of the people I know (for me I only just became aware of it). Chances are though I knew androgynes and perhaps even transsexuals who didn't even know themselves. Growing up in a conservative community kinda stifles challenging accepted thoughts or proper manners.

Hey Micha.

Cherri, when I first got here, I had just come out and registered as transgendered. The more that I got to know myself and reevaluate the me that I had been and was now seeing through new eyes, I realized that though I no longer wanted to be all male, neither did I wish to be all female. When I came out to my daughters, my oldest told me that she had always thought of me as being androgynous. After that, I didn't have to look at myself much longer before realizing that she was right. I'm an old car that's been on Life's Highway quite a while now. And sitting in the front seat is a boy and a girl (both of whom I've watched age) who take turns driving. Well, actually the boy has done most of the driving over the years, feeling that it wouldn't be. . .what?, right? safe? good? for the girl to drive,. And on the few occasions when he let her, she had to first dress up like him.

Anyway Cherri, we became friends here at Laura's, and you're the first Andro friend that I've ever had. I am so sorry that I've not been in touch.

Now Micha and I have been communicating and getting along real good. A few days ago, she became my friend.

Now it's up to me to be a friend to those who want me to be.

Thanks for listening

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