That One Thing...

[Guest Soph]

We all have it. That one thing that bothers us more than anything else. The thing that we feel is the biggest impediment to our happiness or our passing. It varies person to person: some, its the shoulders/upper body. Some feel its their face. Some of the transguys point to their curves. Some of the girls, their lack of boobs.

For me, that one thing would probably be my voice. I'm working on it now, and its going ok, but I still hate it. Its not even that it doesn't help me pass; I just hate it in itself. I also rather resent those people who never really had problems with their voice > (JK, of course).

What is that one thing for everyone else?

[Sally]

I guess if you are talking about physically it would be my height because it is the only thing that worries me at all that I cannot change.

Now emotionally is another matter - that is the complete lack of support from my family.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest JustShelly]

One thing are you crazy

There's not enough room to type for everything that bothers me.

hmmmmmmmmmmmm. I'm trying to narrow it down to one!!

OK!

I'm not out yet so that helps narrow it down a bit.

I have to say my hair or could be face, but I believe if I had good length and proper style hair my face would be OK

This is the main reason I don't venture out much any more I HATE WIGS

[Guest Girl Emily]

For me it is my nose. I didn't even like it in denial.

[Guest mistygirl7]

the one thing i would like to change is my weight. iv been trying as much as i could. so far have loss a good amount in short time. but now going 5 month of hrt is starting to take alot longer to drop. as for other parts im quite ok with.

[Guest Donna Jean]

My chin and nose....

But, I've tolerated them all this time...I guess that I can finish up with them...

Donna Jean

[Guest NatashaJade]

I would say the size of my frame (tall and wide). As Sally says, there is nothing I can do about it.

luv

Gin

[Guest Janis]

That is a tough one for me. probably a tie between Adam's Apple and voice.

Janis

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Voice? working on that - finally, I am beginning to think it is doable (1 1/2 years later - augggggh)

Height? Six -one girls are everywhere (ummm... don't see too many - there are a few)

Feet? Size 12W or 13B/C - common for women right? (UMMMMM - then why don't stores carry that size normally?)

Other than those tiny problems - no problem!

hee hee

Lizzy the squeeky voiced Amazon

[Guest Shiratori]

My hair, or lack thereof. I can't wait to find a job so that I can get on Finasteride before it all goes.

[Guest angie]

I just make due.

I could use some hair implants in my temples,

and a lower eyelid lift and my awful voice which

outs me...But,it sure as heck doesn't stop me

or even really get in my way. I am me and that

is all I am,and love myself just as I am. Anyone

who has a problem with me,can stuff it.

Angie

[Guest Kieri]

Nose for sure I love seeing the rest of me change, but my nose is like this giant "male! male!" homing beacon right in the middle of my face.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Anyone who has a problem with me,can stuff it.

You tell 'em, sister!

For me right now I'd say the facial hair. It's in the plans to be removed but I think that's the one thing holding me back.

Voice I'm not really worried about. I've done the best I can with it.

[Guest Evan_J]

My hands **cries

I want big hands.

<-- even bought a set of grips to excercise them.

But I should be grateful....I have so many parts that I don't have to hate. (says prayer of BIG thanks)

[Milly]

Weight, I'm a bit of a chunky munky. Working on it though. Should probably lose all the weight before HRT but dangit I don't wanna wait anymore. *bawls*

[Guest]

Nose! It's made of tiny bones that have broken too many times. A doc tried to repair it and said there wasn't enough bone structure to do it with. Well I was a female prizefighter, right?

Voice - anybody remeber Tom Waits? That was really me. But this isn't so bad because the doctor says I'll lose my voice entirely one of these years.

Kat

[Guest angie]

Voice - anybody remeber Tom Waits? That was really me. But this isn't so bad because the doctor says I'll lose my voice entirely one of these years.

Kat

I am so very close to having no voice entirely.Should give it a break and write things on a pad.

But,I am a natural talker and keeping quiet is not in my genes.Others may have to strain to hear what I am saying, but hear me they can.

Angie

[Guest N. Jane]

One thing that bothers me?

Nothing.

Everything could have been better but I am ME and have been for a long time. I like ME and wouldn't want to change ME.

[Guest angie]

One thing that bothers me?

Nothing.

Everything could have been better but I am ME and have been for a long time. I like ME and wouldn't want to change ME.

That sounds about like myself...I like me just fine.

And if I can't have anything but SRS,I will still be extremely happy.

End the dysphoria,and all will be good with me just as I am.(SMILE)

Angie

[Guest Cris]

The one thing that irritates me at the moment is the facial hair. Sure at some point I can afford to get rid of it, but between not working and having to pay cobra expenses and meds and copays etc etc.....Its down on the list

2nd to that would be the voice.

Cris

[Guest angie]

The one thing that irritates me at the moment is the facial hair.

Cris

I cannot afford electrolysis...Sooooo I tweeze.

Wont say it's fun,it isn't,but is highly effective at reducing or eliminating

shadow completely. Hard work,continuous growth,day after day,week after

week,month after month,can get to you and be depressing.But eventually I

have gotten down my growth patterns to where,like now,I am shadow free.

It is time consuming,about an hour a day,frustrating,because it never stops,

but then you get the reward of being able to just walk out your door without

foundation,only wearing the nominal makeup. And if I do opt for foundation,

I use the Minerals powder.Fast and easy. Tweezing can't beat laser or electro,

but it surely beats a deep shadow, or having to wear a heavy enough concealer

to cover it,and the constant, painful, always unsatisfying shaving. After a year

and a half of tweezing,I know it works and I get my rewards.

Angelique

[Guest Wingsonair]

Probably my nose and hairline.

[Guest ChloëC]

Fortunately, we have catch-all words that combine things into one.

My face. (see! hair, nose, mouth, chin, the list goes on! And wrinkles and drying skin are just the latest aging additions. My eyes are the only exclusion)

I haven't fuzzed out any of my features in my Gallery pictures. The camera looks at me, and kindly does it for me, cuz it knows.

People have told me I look handsome and some have said I have bedroom eyes. So when I crossdress completely, and I mean the whole ball of wax, I can still see all those masculine features. (is there a faceshaper like there are bodyshapers? That invention would be worth a fortune!!!!)

One small reason (of a lot of big ones) why transitioning is not for me. I'd never do it without complete facial reconstruction, and that aint ever gonna happen.

Chloë

[Guest CrimsonEdge]

What bothers me most as of now are my shoulders. They make me look too feminine. I wear lose men's tshirts and jeans all the time so that flattens my chest and reduces visibility of my curves. But the size of my butt irritates me especially in comparison to my upper body. I know the pelvis can't be made smaller, but my shoulders can grow and neutralize the lower bones so I tend to focus more on that.

[Guest TracieV3]

We all have it. That one thing that bothers us more than anything else. The thing that we feel is the biggest impediment to our happiness or our passing. It varies person to person: some, its the shoulders/upper body. Some feel its their face. Some of the transguys point to their curves. Some of the girls, their lack of boobs.

For me, that one thing would probably be my voice. I'm working on it now, and its going ok, but I still hate it. Its not even that it doesn't help me pass; I just hate it in itself. I also rather resent those people who never really had problems with their voice > (JK, of course).

What is that one thing for everyone else?

Ironically, that one thing for me is non-ts related (I think, maybe it is ts related), and that is chronic pain. If I didn't have to deal with chronic pain, I could get a job immediately (even a low paying job), and start transitioning to life as a female within two or three months from now.

I have the done the math for the costs and I have taking into account of most of what I need to do, I just cannot get there. It's like starting at the goal at the top of a mountain, while having a broken foot.

Chronic pain also messes up my attention span, I have to constantly be thinking about something to take my mind off of the agony.

When I was younger, before the pain got too bad, I could do a 10 hour a day shift in one of the more labor intensive fields of work. So, I know have the discipline for a job, I just don't have the ability right now.