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When Will People Learn To Love?


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Guest Donna Jean
It's things like this that make me lose faith in the human race...

http://www.edgeboston.com/index.php?ch=new...=&id=105085

Alex.....

Don't lose faith, Hon.....

That was one out of thousands ....the attacker was alone...the person that was attacked said that they had been safe there for a long time...

We can't give up on the human race because of one moron!

People like the attacker are in the minority, not the other way around....

I may be a hopeless optimist sometimes, but I believe in the overall good in people...

But, this case really gets my juices flowing for justice...

I hope thay catch the jerk....

Huggs

Donna Jean

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It always strikes me wrong to think that there have to be laws to protect individual groups. Like racial protections, women's protections, and on down the list. What is wrong with "Treat everyone equally. NO EXCEPTIONS!".

I don't know whether there are more sick people, or whether the news travels further, or what - I have a difficult time reading the news about all of the inhumanity we humans perpetrate. And we call ourselves civilized!

You're so right - we're way faster to anger than to smile, faster to hate than to love. It takes a long time to learn to love - we need to start sooner.

Love to all of you! Kat

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This incident is very close to home for me, literally. That makes it all the more scary.

So. Calif. is supposed to be one of the most tolerant places in the country, and for the

most part, it is.

Which makes the old saying, "If it can happen here, it can happen anywhere" that much more

relevant.

Be aware of your surroundings, be vigilant, and be prepared to defend yourself. Never take your

safety for granted, because it could be the last thing you do. The very last thing.

Carolyn Marie

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In my opinion it takes people to learn hate. That's just me though. I don't hate anyone until I get to know them but I automatically love a person. If that makes sense. Like, if I meet someone, I love them (as a friend) but if I find out that they are a horrible person I don't like them anymore. Did I make any sense at all?

This is just my opinion but it rings true for me: We're tribal creatures, and as such instinctively mistrust those who aren't our tribe. It's that instinct that causes us to discriminate, to dislike that which is "not us". So, we're essentially born with the tools to dislike and hate. But love comes from learned behavior - from seeing how precious each being is, from realizing that our tribe is all of humanity, not just the ones who look or think like us.

I try to love everyone - unconditionally. Sometimes people will be untrustworthy or distasteful, and my love for them becomes sadness at their inability to see the same love - I may hate a behavior but not the person.

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Enough of that however - You still need to be prepared for the unloving side of the world - As Carolyn says, "It can happen anywhere". That's the truth in 2010 - Gah!

Love, Kat

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I have always felt those that attack, sometimes murder, are after victims (1) physically smaller (2) on the edges of society.

This is a generalization, of course - serial killers who target pretty young girls are maybe guilty of number (1) above - not so much (2) - and maybe add (3) sexually dysphoric motivated.

So attacks on transsexuals is similar to attacks on prostitutes - maybe a hedging of bets - "sure I murder people, but only those who are undeserving to live in a 'normal' world."

Just a thought. To murder is of course a grevious sin, regardless. To be a premeditated murderer is the worst crime of all.

Lizzy

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Guest Alex Blitzen
This is just my opinion but it rings true for me: We're tribal creatures, and as such instinctively mistrust those who aren't our tribe. It's that instinct that causes us to discriminate, to dislike that which is "not us". So, we're essentially born with the tools to dislike and hate. But love comes from learned behavior - from seeing how precious each being is, from realizing that our tribe is all of humanity, not just the ones who look or think like us.

I try to love everyone - unconditionally. Sometimes people will be untrustworthy or distasteful, and my love for them becomes sadness at their inability to see the same love - I may hate a behavior but not the person.

-------------------------------------------------------

Enough of that however - You still need to be prepared for the unloving side of the world - As Carolyn says, "It can happen anywhere". That's the truth in 2010 - Gah!

Love, Kat

I agree, it is basic tribe behavior. And it hasn't changed. And people say we are evolved. Yes we evolved, we just found bigger and better ways to destroy each other and ourselves.

I have always felt those that attack, sometimes murder, are after victims (1) physically smaller (2) on the edges of society.

This is a generalization, of course - serial killers who target pretty young girls are maybe guilty of number (1) above - not so much (2) - and maybe add (3) sexually dysphoric motivated.

So attacks on transsexuals is similar to attacks on prostitutes - maybe a hedging of bets - "sure I murder people, but only those who are undeserving to live in a 'normal' world."

Just a thought. To murder is of course a grevious sin, regardless. To be a premeditated murderer is the worst crime of all.

Lizzy

Attacking the physically smaller and those on the edge of society is basic predator behavior. Even the human predators seem to follow that model. Attack the "weak and sick" that aren't up with the rest of the group. I'm not saying that we are weak and sick, just substitute in "different" We don't follow the "social norms."

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I agree, it is basic tribe behavior. And it hasn't changed. And people say we are evolved. Yes we evolved, we just found bigger and better ways to destroy each other and ourselves.

Attacking the physically smaller and those on the edge of society is basic predator behavior. Even the human predators seem to follow that model. Attack the "weak and sick" that aren't up with the rest of the group. I'm not saying that we are weak and sick, just substitute in "different" We don't follow the "social norms."

You are right, " we don't follow the so-called normal society". I'm a firm believer of hate what the person does not the person. As I said to someone else once,"kill them with kindness. But even I have my limits- What do you do about a couple{man and wife} that insist on making it a daily thing to run the same person down for over 2 years just because they are changing or are different? They live in my building, have been trouble since they moved in 5 years ago and no matter what you do individually you can't get them kicked out. They're behind in rent and have offended over have of the biulding residents at one time or another. Here I go ranting again. Sorry.

Regina Renea

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