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Male Mode Vs Female Mode


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Guest perlitarose

Hi, all,

I see in a lot of post the "in my male mode" or "female mode." I am, regretfully, a XY but I have always tought of my self as a female, and that is why when people call me a "he" I want to scream I am not a "he" I am a "she." I have never felt a "male mode." In any case I just wanted to know if there other in the community that feel like me?

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Guest Girl Emily

Pearlitarose,

As time passes and I move farther away from my 30 years of off and on denial. Iam becoming uncomfortable with the terms. I will probably continue to use them for the sake of clarity. Male drag which is more accurate doesn't sing the same as male mode.

Huggs,

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Guest Jewel
I am, regretfully, a XY but I have always tought of my self as a female, and that is why when people call me a "he" I want to scream I am not a "he" I am a "she."

This is how most trans women feel.

Generally the terms "male mode", "female mode", "boymode", etc. refer to gender presentation only. If a woman talks about going to work in "boymode", it doesn't mean that she thinks of herself as male during work. It means that she dresses in male clothing (or mostly male clothing :) ) and attempts to "pass as male". For some, this is a necessity in order to keep their current employment, particularly if they are still fairly early in their transitions.

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Guest perlitarose
This is how most trans women feel.

Generally the terms "male mode", "female mode", "boymode", etc. refer to gender presentation only. If a woman talks about going to work in "boymode", it doesn't mean that she thinks of herself as male during work. It means that she dresses in male clothing (or mostly male clothing :) ) and attempts to "pass as male". For some, this is a necessity in order to keep their current employment, particularly if they are still fairly early in their transitions.

Thaks for th education and elightment, appreciate!!!!

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Guest Donna Jean
This is how most trans women feel.

Generally the terms "male mode", "female mode", "boymode", etc. refer to gender presentation only. If a woman talks about going to work in "boymode", it doesn't mean that she thinks of herself as male during work. It means that she dresses in male clothing (or mostly male clothing :) ) and attempts to "pass as male". For some, this is a necessity in order to keep their current employment, particularly if they are still fairly early in their transitions.

That would be me!

I have to work in "male mode" at the time...

I feel like I am masquerading as someone else as I know that I am a woman...

Pulling the wool over people's eyes for the sake of the all mighty dollar!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Evan_J

Me. I'm like you. (but reversed of course :rolleyes: ) There is no other "mode" . I'm male all the time. If I suddenly put pink ribbons in my hair and danced a jig I would be the crazy dude being wierd with pink ribbons in his hair. And I always feel like that.

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Guest ricka

Like Donna Jean I have to work in "male mode" albeit I present as an effeminate male. It is not my first choice but it is my best choice and it's not without it's difficulties. Monday mornings are increasingly a hassle having to cross-dress for work after spending my weekends being myself en femme. But believe me the first thing I do when I come home from work in the evening is to shed my guy clothes. What does help a lot for me to be able to stay grounded as a woman in male mode is to focus on my breasts---I am very aware that underneith my shirt I have female breasts which validate my womanhood. I can feel them bounce when I walk and rub under my shirt so that I am always very aware of them. I am also aware they are too large to hide and I do not make any attempt to hide them. I certainly would live in female mode 24/7 if that was practical but it is not so I sacrifice the 40+ hours a week out of my life.

Hugs, Ricka

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