What Is The Best Thing You Like About Crossdressing And Why?

[Guest Patricia]

This is a pretty broadly based topic. I like being liberated from my male aspect and being able to express my female aspect. I am forced into my male aspect for most of the time and the desire to express my female aspect simply increases to the point where expressing it becomes imperative.

There are a lot of things I like about CD, such as they comfort of the female clothing and the way I look en femme, but if really pressed for an answer I would have to say the feeling of liberation after having been forced to spend most of my time in drab, unable to express by female aspect.

Patricia

[gennee]

I just love to wear women's clothing. I feel liberated and completed. I don't hate my male side but I love the feminine side of me. The more I dress the better I feel. If I had a choice I would be 24/7.

Gennee

[Guest Steveanna]

Greetings,

I am new here and have all ready found a lot of good info from others that have replied to topics. I also am new with CDing. I probably will be one of the older men of the bunch. I am 57 and have never CDed since I was 10 when my brother and I were just playing in our mothers closet. I have forgotten about this 47 year old event in my life until last friday when I opened the door to CDing due to dealing with depression for the past 10 years. With a feeling of no hope in sight for improvement from chronic depression, after reading an article from a depression treatment center on the web it was advised us older men should try to target our feminine side of our personality. The feminine side of us men is where Gentle, caring, loving, kindness, happiness, etc. resides in our unconscious part of the mind. I started by purchasing a pair of panties, lip stick, perfume, and put on one of my wife's prettiest skirts last friday afternoon.... Kaboom! I have fathered two daughters and have had a lot of great sex with my wife over the years and never would have believed what happened to me..??? I am really enjoying this new me and my depression is getting better!!! I have spent a few thousand dollars on antidepressants over the past 10 years and it seems like being a new CDer is giving me better health than what the stupid antidepressants has ever done. I hope these positive results continue for me. I hope I will get to become a fellow friend with others on this forum. Thank You for your time. "The Oldest Rookie"

Steveanna

[Petra Jane]

Greetings Steveanna,

I too hope the positive results continue for you too! A word of warning, do make sure your lovely wife is not going to find out, at least soon! She may not be understanding about it! But, yes, being able to dress en-femme, if only for a while is very uplifting and certainly for me, gives me a real boost and brightens my day for usre!

[Guest Vince Gothfairy]

i feel i want to be a cross dresser to fullfill the needs of my bigenderism so I would crossdress alot of the time. but i can't now. I've done it once before very poorly. My family don't know what i am so I can do nothing to make the world percieve me the way I want which is really miserable making.

I want to cross dress so people will percieve me the way i want. It would make me feel better but alas I'll have to wait till university to be able to be liberated in that way. There is really only one person I like to dress female for. so being around any other person atm is making me really angry.

I think the best part of crossdressing would be letting my male persona be expressed to its fullest rather than hiding it which is impossibly hard.

[Guest Joanne Pooler]

I think,for me,the act of becoming a woman-the dressing up aspect,pulling on nylons,clasping your bra,applying makeup-is the most exciting and satisfying part of crossdressing.

I also get a charge out of shopping for clothes.I definately get a thrill browsing thru a display rack of slips,nighties or leafing thru a display of nylons.

This is such a wonderful site.I feel as though I've never had anyone to express my feelings on such a personal issue.It's a liberating feeling to be able to talk to you,truly a moving experience...Thank you all!!

[gennee]

Greetings,

I am new here and have all ready found a lot of good info from others that have replied to topics. I also am new with CDing. I probably will be one of the older men of the bunch. I am 57 and have never CDed since I was 10 when my brother and I were just playing in our mothers closet. I have forgotten about this 47 year old event in my life until last friday when I opened the door to CDing due to dealing with depression for the past 10 years. With a feeling of no hope in sight for improvement from chronic depression, after reading an article from a depression treatment center on the web it was advised us older men should try to target our feminine side of our personality. The feminine side of us men is where Gentle, caring, loving, kindness, happiness, etc. resides in our unconscious part of the mind. I started by purchasing a pair of panties, lip stick, perfume, and put on one of my wife's prettiest skirts last friday afternoon.... Kaboom! I have fathered two daughters and have had a lot of great sex with my wife over the years and never would have believed what happened to me..??? I am really enjoying this new me and my depression is getting better!!! I have spent a few thousand dollars on antidepressants over the past 10 years and it seems like being a new CDer is giving me better health than what the stupid antidepressants has ever done. I hope these positive results continue for me. I hope I will get to become a fellow friend with others on this forum. Thank You for your time. "The Oldest Rookie"

Steveanna

Hi Steveanna. Wecome to the site. I am 59 years young and I started crossdressing only three years ago. I never had the desire when I was young but I began feeling that I was different when I was in my thirties. I tried a skirt on in 2005 and that set the wheels in motion to my life now as a crossdresser and transgender. I am liberated and completed. I never felt any shame or guilt about wearing women's clothing. My wife is accepting of me though she doesn't undrstand why at times. She realizes that this is a part of who I am. I have worn a skirt and she doesn't mind that I do.

I am very happy and content. I wish that I could go 24/7 but I'm happy the way life is now.

Gennee

[Guest Vieja]

Hi, I have been a CD to some extent for about 70 years and it still feels great. I can truthfully say that ehile I get older cross dressing never does. In fact I think I enjoy it more the older I get.

Question for Gennee, How do you get the emoticons to work?

Vieja B)

[Guest Steveanna]

Hi Steveanna. Wecome to the site. I am 59 years young and I started crossdressing only three years ago. I never had the desire when I was young but I began feeling that I was different when I was in my thirties. I tried a skirt on in 2005 and that set the wheels in motion to my life now as a crossdresser and transgender. I am liberated and completed. I never felt any shame or guilt about wearing women's clothing. My wife is accepting of me though she doesn't undrstand why at times. She realizes that this is a part of who I am. I have worn a skirt and she doesn't mind that I do.

I am very happy and content. I wish that I could go 24/7 but I'm happy the way life is now.

Gennee

Hi Gennee,

Thank you for your reply and welcome. My wife has been a little suspicious lately about my changing and improving mood. She has been nosing around my clothing and has found some of my femme items I didn't have put away under lock and key. She asked friday night if I was CD? I told her the truth and also tried to get her to understand how much happier and better off I am by doing CD. She had to admit I am better than she has seen me in 5 years.

Keep me in mind that I can navigate the rough waters ahead. If anyone has some good sound advice for me I will appreciate it.

I hope I can get through this new storm in life without too many problems from my wife and daughters.

They know I have been ill with chronic depression for 5 years, and have been on antidepressants the last 10 years.

I'm thinking right now about getting an appointment with a professional therapist. My family doctor just doesn't have enough experience with all of the things I have going on with in my confusing life's situation.

Steveanna

[Guest Sarah-hime]

...best aspect... being in the closet.

The reason? Well, who would want to come out of the closet when there's SO MUCH GREAT STUFF in here!

[Guest Kim Smith]

Steveanna,

It was great to read your story. I can relate to your experience of the mood change, which is the best thing for me about dressing. It is easiest to compare my two selves:

En Femme - When I dress, I am neat and organized - not sloppy. I am peaceful and feel a great sense of joy. At the same time my metabolism is amped up. I am very aware of my surroundings. Food is not a priority or issue. And my greatest joy is just doing ordinary things like getting gas in the car, getting the mail or doing the dishes. It really makes me feel young again.

In drab - my outfits don't always match, I wear the same things over and over. I am not overly stressed, but I have worries about finances and such. It is rare that I am really at peace. Even though I have stress, my energy level is low, and I tend to focus inward and be introverted. I tend to eat a lot of junk food (chocolate and french fries are two of the major food groups, aren't they?) I tend to let ordinary chores go too long before doing them. And it may be psychological, but I will be 50 in a few months, and I'm feeling a little old...

So I can completely understand why it makes your mood improve!

I wish you and your family the best, and will remember you in my prayers.

I have had a conversation with my wife and she cannot accept that I dress. It really freaked her out, and she can't get by the stereotypes and worries that I am gay. What really helped us not break apart was that I showed her that she is the most important thing in my entire life. I make sure to buy her flowers on special occasions (and sometimes for no special reason.) I make time for her when there are other things I could/should be doing. We still take the day off at times and just sopend it together - going for a walk or seeing a movie. Keep the romace alive! We now have a sort of don't ask don't tell policy and I hide my activities from her. I don't get to dress as much as I would like, but all of life is a balance...

I assume you still love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her. As long as you make sure she never forgets that, things should go easier.

Sorry to ramble on so much about myself, but I hope the experiences of another 50 yo will help.

Good luck girl - we're all rooting for you!

Kim

[Guest whoami?]

well ive been crossdressing aout very night. sometimes i put some music on for sentual sentation, and sometimes i ffeel like and dream of me looking at an image inside of me as of i were a beutiful woman laying in a hot tub just laying there in the water with bubbles. it's so dreamy i just like to be beautiful

[Guest Fran]

I enjoy the feeling of wearing high heels a breast forms. I even like to go to extremes sometimes for my enjoyment. I have heels as high 6.5" and breast forms to size J. They weight 4.5 lbs each and are a blast. As I write this reply I am wearing my 6.5" heels and my DDD breast forms. These forms are more suitable for outside wear. I also have size C breast forms if I want to be very subdued.

[Guest AnneMarie]

For me it's just the clothes and nothing more now.

When I first started out I used to get a big sexual buzz out of it and I used to wear make up, bras filled up with tissues (lol was all I had at the time..) and act a LOT more feminine than I do when I dress up now.

I went through a phase where I was quite confused sexually and as a person, that's passed now and I know who I am, but I still love wearing womens clothes because I find them SO comfortable compared to guys clothes, I really would rather wear a skirt and tights than a heavy pair of jeans when going out and a skirt instead of trousers in the office.

I don't wear make up or wigs because I don't actually want to be or look exactly like a woman.

Hope that makes sense lol

[Guest rachael1]

Hi All

I crossdressed as a child and often fantasized that i was really a girl. I suppressed these feelings for many years until a few months ago due to trying to fit into what society expected of me and my physical gender.

The urge has come back big time and i can no longer deny who i am and need to express the female aspect of my personality

I have come out to my wife who was upset at first but has accepted this part of my personality and has commented that she likes the new me. Relaxed and more in touch with my emotions.

I don't often get the opportunity to fully dress in femme mode but take every opportunity to express my female aspect in various ways such as polish on my toes, wearing nighties to bed, and practicing various aspects of applying makeup.

I have got a bit daring and have been epilating my body hair for the last two months and find it very liberating and sexy. I love the smooth look and feel.

Dressing for me, allows me the opportunity to express my female side in a physical way and i love it!!!!!!

LOL Rachael

[Guest Shobob]

I always thought it was unfair that woman got nicer looking clothes then men.

I like crossdressing because Womens clothes look a lot better then guys clothes.

[Guest CharlieRose]

*creeps in* I hope you don't mind me hijacking the thread, but I've actually been writing something with crossdressing and transsexual characters in it, and I want to make sure I portray the crossdressers accurately, I figured this topic was relevant enough.

So... dressing for you guys is like... being a girl, temporarily? You're fine to go back to your regular life as a man, but it's still important (? Special? Necessary? Somewhere in between?) to dress because it's (fun? sexy? fulfilling?)

Or am I on a completely different planet?

[Guest Haily]

I love it because I feel Femme and it's comfortable.

[Guest MANNYgirl]

i like to feel the clothes and reveal my femenine side sometimes i get too femenine that i start having fantasies about having sex but me being the women

[Guest anna123]

I find that the clothes are more expressive and less constricting.

[Guest jemanda]

The best of both worlds, a wider range of possible clothing to wear, interesting shoes.... LOTs of interesting shoes. And as for why... because I can???

Seriously though, I am really tired of boring males clothing, the last imaginative thing that somebody designed was the... er... um.... Besides, you dont quite get the same effect, IMHO its much cooler wearing a flowing dress, there is something about having the wind blow up around your bare legs and your skirt, the fabrics are so much nicer too.. softer, more flowing, better colours. Plus there are all those interesting accessories too. But, the one major failing in skirts and dresses is a shortage of pockets!

[Guest Amanda L Richards]

Hi all,

I know there is a sexual component, and I haven't figured out all the intricacies of why I have such an affinity for it yet, but I do know that the clothing styles and textures appeals to my sexuality and gender, which obviously is more on the female scale, but I have found for mmyself the most notable thing about being dressed like a woman, is that I actually feel more condifent and free, I am myself.

Don't get me wrong, but I am very fussy with the types of clothing. Not that I like expensive, but that I am very particular about wearing clothing that has to just say distinctly feminine.

I am partial to skirts and certain types of dresses, there are also some type of pants and slacks that I will wear that are definitely feminine.

Maybe the short answer is "Everything female" to sum it up.

Amanda L

[Guest rachael1]

*creeps in* I hope you don't mind me hijacking the thread, but I've actually been writing something with crossdressing and transsexual characters in it, and I want to make sure I portray the crossdressers accurately, I figured this topic was relevant enough.

So... dressing for you guys is like... being a girl, temporarily? You're fine to go back to your regular life as a man, but it's still important (? Special? Necessary? Somewhere in between?) to dress because it's (fun? sexy? fulfilling?)

Or am I on a completely different planet?

I have only just revisited this thread so hope my reply to your question isn't too late.

Crossdressing allows me to express my feminine side that I am unable to do dressed in drab.

I am happy as a male most of the time but would be equaly happy if i had been born a female.

I have to accept my lot in life such as commitments to my family and friends, but if a fairy godmother were to offer me a magic pill that would transform me into a woman I think i would probably jump at the chance.

To further answer your question dressing for me is both special and necessary and nothing could prevent me from living my life this way.

[Sally]

Crossdressing is only the beginning for me, I am slowly transitioning and will some day be female. But as to why I started crossdressing, it was to allow me to express my feminine side and feel like I was my true self. A lot has been mentioned about the feel of the softer fabrics and the flowing dresses and I agree, but I think that one of the major problems with men's clothing starts with the underwear. Cotton briefs for men are made of a very coarse, heavy knit fabric and if that wasn't enough - let's take elastic that's at least 1/2" wide and put around the legs and hey how about making a 'Y' shape where it can cross right across the male genitalia? What a great idea! Women's briefs are made of a much softer, thinner, smoother knit and utelize a very narrow elastic at the legs and waist - no 'Y' fronts - if only every man could allow themselves to wear women's underware, we might not have so much hostility. If your genitals are constantly being pinched, you're in a bad mood!

Sally

[Guest mia 1]

My love of cross dressing is episodic. Most of you are probably the same way. When the feeling hits me iti s so strong and wonderful I wouldn't trade it dor the world, and wonder why other men aren't experiencing this unique opportunity to find the other part of thier lives. When the feeling leaves I don't even give it a thought. Now, I am very happy to wear underwear, nylons and makeup. I am going to my first c.d. forum on the 7th of ZDec. Can't wait. I am very happy at this time and relieved to be a C.D. and share these experiences withyou..................... Love, Mia1