My Daughter, Sarah's Birthday Party

[Guest willow ann]

I'm really sorry if this sounds really but i am about this birthday party for my oldest daughter, Sarah. I was told at first I was allowed to go to the party and there would be no problems. At this time I didn't know if I would be working or not so I told my x that. She said ok. Now today, one day away from the party, I can't go because there are gonna be people there that hate me all because I'm so a boogie girl :banghead: and I gonna eat their little children then they are gonna be just like me. Not really but idk. I don't get why someone could even hate another person for any reason at all. I just don't get it. Why do people have to be that way. If it wasn't for people hating other people this world would be in a lot better shape than it is now. I ask WHY WHY and Why. anyways, I just wanted to be upset for awhile

[Guest Evan_J]

I'm sorry.

The answer is, because people are ignorant and fear what they ignorant about but are not willing to become UN ignorant.

[Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James]

Willow,

You have every right to be at your daughter's party.

If other people don't show up because you are there, well that's their problem and their loss not to mention your daughter's loss.

It's not your fault if they don't show up.

You should still go. She's not going to be young forever and you need to experience as much of her being young as you can before she grows up.

She's going to be 4, you can't miss that.

Granted you see her everyday, but that doesn't mean that you can't go! You have every right to be there. She's your daughter.

You need to go.

It is up to you though in the end

With love,

LeeAsher

[Guest willow ann]

i can't hurt my daughter though and that would hurt her

[Guest Lee-Asher Geo-James]

i can't hurt my daughter though and that would hurt her

Wouldn't it hurt her if you didn't go?

[Guest lvmyftm]

Maybe have a special day with just the two of you to make it up to her. My daughter is 3.5 yrs and I think having a special one on one day would almost be more exciting to her than the party itself.

[Guest Micha]

Oh that is horrid.

I agree with Evan, when people's standards and ideals get challenged they feel threatened and become aggressive. Those ideals and standards are still quite narrow too, so there is a lot of aggression, which is wasted energy and emotion.

[JJ]

How horrible for you Willow!

I don't understand it either. At all I know that those people's lives are narrower and more fearful because of it but that doesn't take away the hurt they cause. I get so angry every time see or hear it. I want to DO something about it and I feel so frustrated . But I have lived long enough to see that it really will come back on them eventually. Some day-some way.l

Your sacrifice in giving up your rightful place to spare your daughter and make her party less stressful shows what a terrific parent you are.

Kids love parties-no matter what size and I bet another party for you and her would be a treat even more special than the other one. Especially if you can go the whole cake and decorations route. After all how many kids get to ave more than one birthday?

Jj