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Valerie And Her Coming Out


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Hello to all you lovely ladies and handsome gentlemen.

Whew, what two week trip this turned out to be.

Warning this may get a bit long.

Unfortunately I was in Male mode the whole time. (Yuck)

I arrived in Houston on the morning of the 19th. As I was walking to pick up my luggage from the flight, I seen my mother and my sister talking on a bench, I walked right in front of them and they never realized that i had. After I grabbed my luggage, I stood next to them for a few minutes as they talked. Finally my sister asked what time was I suppose to arrive, at that point I said the plave arrived thirty minutes ago. Both of them just looked at me for a minute before they recognized me. We all hugged then drove to some place for lunch. I chose a place thqt served soup and salads, my mother asked since when did I start eating like that, I told her December. When we got there I had to take my pills and mother asked what was I taking. I told her just one of my Tagament pills and a Multi-vitamin.

After lunch we did some driving around town and went to see what movies were playing and what time. We went to her house and unloaded my stuff, so I could take a shower. Once done we left and drove around for abit.

20 May

I had my sister make an appointment at a nail salon for the three of us. We went to see Robin Hood, then after we went to get our nails done. We each had a manicure and a pedicure done. When the lady started on my feet, my mother seen my four toe rings and that my nails where painted purple. I did not know she had seen them, but later my sister had told me that mother gave her a starnge look and pointed at my feet. After we were done I paid for everything, then we went and ate some very good Cajun food.

When we got home that evening and my mother got finished with what she was doing, I was looking at her, then she said all right what is going on.

So, I asked her if she had ever heard about transgender people and transexuals. Yes, she said. Then I told her now you know one. Then I asked her to look at my document I had pulled up on my laptop. (It was a copy of the 6th revision of the SoC).

I asked her to read to document and to ask any question she wanted to, that I would try my best to give her the answers. About halfway through she asked when did this come about. I told her it all finally started coming together in 2005, after I had retired. That I started researching my feelings and thoughts, then in 2009 started thearapy with a pyshcologist, who put me in contact with my GT. I informed her that after I had talked to my GT, I was directed to my Endocrenologist and after we talked I was given the paper work for my lab test, then I told her that I started my HRT on the 26th of January. After about another 15 minutes, she said she had seen enough for now amd went to her bedroom, after a few minutes my sister went in and checked on how she was doing. In the meatime, I went to the living room and started reading my book, figured that I needed to give her some time away from me.

About an hour later my sister comes out and tells me mother wants to talk to me. So, I go into her bedroom and she asked if I was going to go all the way with this, I told her yes. She asked if this is what I wanted, I said yes, that I have not been happier then I am right now for a lot of years and that I was at peace with myself. She then informed me that she does not understand, right now and told me that she would support this as long as I was happy with my transition.

21 May

Took my sister back to the airport so she could fly back to Florida. Mother and I went to see Shrek that evening. I did not say anything to her about my transition figuring to let her come to terms with this at her pace, I know if she had questions she would ask me.

23 May

I went over to my step-sisters house and talked to her for awhile. When I drove up into the drive way and got out of the car she was walking over and looking at me, then she smiled and asked how have I been, she even said I looked younger then I had before. (5 years ago was the last time we had seen each other) We went into the house and she fixed a plate with some cheese and crackers while I opened a bottle of White wine, then we went outside to the porch and started talking. After, about 15 minutes she asked what I had been doing to make my skin and face look younger and softer. Even said that I looked happier then she had ever seen me. So, I showed her some of the pictures on my phone. After looking at them she said she should have known, but that she would have never guessed what I was doing. Then she had me take off my shoes and socks, then give her my foot, she is a reflexologist now and a massage therapist. She even complemented me on my toe rings and my nails. After her study of my foot, which I thought was strange, she said that internally I was doing very good and she could feel no problems, even with my hormones, not sure how she could tell that.

Any way after an hour or more of talking we went out for dinner. We had a very lovely mexican food dinner, even had a margarita. We talked more about what we have both been upto lately and what was going on in each of our lives. We exchange email addresses and when I got to my mothers house I sent her a bunch of pictures of Valerie.

25 May

Flew out of Texas and arrived in Reno, Neveda to meet some friends. Mother still has not asked me any questions since I came out to her on the 20th. Think I will call her tomorrow and she how she is doing.

Arrived in Reno, then met up with my friends. (They all know about Valerie) We had dinner that evening then went walking around, after awhile I went and done some looking around for some gifts. We went to another friends house and had lunch with her and her husband. Mostly, I did nothing but rest and relax while I was in Reno. Yes, I lost a couple hundred in the casino, but the main thing was that I was relaxing and having fun.

Even realized that my diet had been shot to heck, seems like the wieght I had lost I gained most of it back. :(.

29 May

Back in Hawaii.

Texas was very hot and HUMID.

Reno, I froze my backside off. Tenp not getting above 40 degrees until around noon time.

Really missed my Hawaiian weather.

/HUGS

Love you all

Valerie Anne

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Guest Alex Blitzen

It sounds like things went pretty well :) I'm sure in time your mother will have some questions for you. Looks like you have some good supporters :) Congratulations. *hugs*

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Guest BeckyTG

Valerie,

What a lovely story. It sounds as if it went as well as any of us could hope. I'll be eager to hear more of the story as it unfolds.

Thank you for sharing with us. I wish you all the best in your journey, sweet sister.

Hugs,

Becky

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