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Guest Amanda_Henderson

I have been faced with a hard choice. Change jobs or stay with the one I am with now.

As I may have mention, I am a Truck driver, local in Colorado.

The job that I have now is a good one, I make good money, and the bosses, and coworkers know everything that is going on with my changes. They all work with me with out to much problems, but I have a problem with the fact that on some jobs I have to run my little but off just to make a good paycheck. I am getting tired of this, putting my licence on the line for money. Just in the past 3 months he has changed so much about the company that I just dont want to work for him anymore. One job that he has you have to be on the job about 4:00 in the morning just to get loads, because he pays hourly by the load. You have so much time between the job and the dump and they only to pay that amount. Unlike last year it was all Hourly. There are also little things that I wont get into.

But I have a chance to switch companys, doing the samething that I am doing now, but with better pay. Free insurance, and I dont have to run my but off. They fire people for doing over the speed limit. They are so safty causious that is not funny, with fixing equipment that breaks, or even before it breaks.

The only thing that I dont know is how they are going to except my changes. I have changed my name. I have changed my apperace, and a few other thing about me.

The bad thing is that he dose not know that I am changing jobs and he dose not need to know. He also dose not know that I am taking a day off to do this. But he it the type of person that he does not care. he will have some one in the truck for me tomarrow. Untell I come back the next day.

I have been told how this new company works,

Fill out the app. and turn in a MVR.

you know you got passed the insurance when they call you in for a test drive.

you know you got passed the test drive when they call you in for a U A.

There is no reason that I could not pass any one, My MVR is in good shape. I know how to drive a truck safly. and I will tell them about the MEDs that I am taking so if they do come up they all ready know.

I will not quit my job untell I have this new job in the basket.

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  • Root Admin

Hi Amanda,

Sounds like you have a good sensable plan in place. :) Good luck.

MaryEllen :)

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Guest Amanda_Henderson

It was a no go. For some reason they said that My MVR is not good enough to get pasted the insurance. But I think that may be a lie.

But I cant say anything about it. So I just make up an reason why I took today off from my other job and go back to work tomarrow.

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Guest shimmeringkristal

Hey Amanda,

Sorry to hear that you didn't get the job. I hope that everything goes well for you in the future.

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Guest Amanda_Henderson

I was able to get back to work with out to much arguring with the boss because, I told him that there was a messy deal on my Motor Vehicle Report.

Back in January of this year, I had a accident, I made a left turn form Mississippi Ave. to Northbound I-225 in Aurora Co. just past the turn the trailor was getting in line with the truck, and the Fifth Wheel, (the part that holds the trailor to the tractor) came off the truck and tipped the trailor over on its side. You can view this all on the www.CBS4Denver.com on the Video Libery. back about page 213 or so. but it shows a nice video of the trailor laid over. Thankfully no one got hurt. Not even me. The truck was still on all of its wheels.

But anyway, I was not issued a ticket at the time of the accadent, due to the fact that even the cops were able to see that there was a few things worng with the truck. They were able to pick the trailor back up and they towed both units to the impound were they were both inspected. There I was given 2 tickets, 1. FL to comply w/dot safety rule X 4 2. Dove a defective or unsafe vehicle.

Well the Dove a defective or unsafe vehicle was droped in court, and I keeped the FL to comply w/dot safety rule X 4 and the fines were cut in half. but the dove a defective or unsafe vehicle was put on my record anyway. When I found this out I was mad. because it was dismessed, and it showed it from another county, I had to do some running around to get it cleaned up. before I could go and apply with the company. that gave me my reason for my not showing up for work on last Monday, but the bosses wanted proff of what I was doing, and I was able to give it to him. but pulling the truth a little bit. by saying that what is on my record that should not be they were going to suspend my driving my privliges, but they weren't. Long enough story short I kept my job with out to many qustions.

http://www.cbs4denver.com/video/[email protected]

www.CBS4denver.com click on the the video libray under the the video screen on the right side.

The title of the story video is

Copter: Semi overturns, Dumps Messy Load.

January 10 2008, 529 p.m. MT

I truck dumped a large load onto mississippi near I-225.

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Guest SharonKJ

Amanda,

Wow! I remember that accident! We were heading North on I225 sometime after it happened. I remember seeing all the flashing lights up ahead and was wondering what was going on... it seemed strange that the freeway traffic wasn't backing up, then when we got to where we could see what it was were were shocked to see a semi tipped over at the on-ramp! I remember saying to my wife and kids: "I hope no-one was hurt!'... which is what I always say when I see an accident... I hate the thought of people getting hurt in accidents.

So did anyone get hurt from the incident?

BTW, this topic started a few months ago, how are things going for you now?

Hugs!

Sharon

I was able to get back to work with out to much arguring with the boss because, I told him that there was a messy deal on my Motor Vehicle Report.

Back in January of this year, I had a accident, I made a left turn form Mississippi Ave. to Northbound I-225 in Aurora Co. just past the turn the trailor was getting in line with the truck, and the Fifth Wheel, (the part that holds the trailor to the tractor) came off the truck and tipped the trailor over on its side. You can view this all on the www.CBS4Denver.com on the Video Libery. back about page 213 or so. but it shows a nice video of the trailor laid over. Thankfully no one got hurt. Not even me. The truck was still on all of its wheels.

But anyway, I was not issued a ticket at the time of the accadent, due to the fact that even the cops were able to see that there was a few things worng with the truck. They were able to pick the trailor back up and they towed both units to the impound were they were both inspected. There I was given 2 tickets, 1. FL to comply w/dot safety rule X 4 2. Dove a defective or unsafe vehicle.

Well the Dove a defective or unsafe vehicle was droped in court, and I keeped the FL to comply w/dot safety rule X 4 and the fines were cut in half. but the dove a defective or unsafe vehicle was put on my record anyway. When I found this out I was mad. because it was dismessed, and it showed it from another county, I had to do some running around to get it cleaned up. before I could go and apply with the company. that gave me my reason for my not showing up for work on last Monday, but the bosses wanted proff of what I was doing, and I was able to give it to him. but pulling the truth a little bit. by saying that what is on my record that should not be they were going to suspend my driving my privliges, but they weren't. Long enough story short I kept my job with out to many qustions.

http://www.cbs4denver.com/video/[email protected]

www.CBS4denver.com click on the the video libray under the the video screen on the right side.

The title of the story video is

Copter: Semi overturns, Dumps Messy Load.

January 10 2008, 529 p.m. MT

I truck dumped a large load onto mississippi near I-225.

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Guest Amanda_Henderson

Thankfully, no one was hurt, There is one of those turn lanes that people can start there turn and a small Island for Peds., Thankfully there was no cars or Peds., The only thing that got hurt was my pride. I have been Driving for 8 years and never had a truck roll over untell that day, I may be able to say that I still have not had any roll over on me because it was caused by a defalt in the equipment, The Fifth wheel came off the Slider plate, and flipped the trailor, the truck was still standing. There was really nothing that I could do to stop it from happing. I am thankfull that it happend where it did. Instead going down the road about 55 to 65 MPH and it coming off.

I got 2 tickets for it about 1 week after that when the DOT officer inspected the truck, the ticket for the accadent was droped in court. So it was a non preventable accadent.

I have quit that job because of the boss, and am working for a good company, running regonal the mid western states. They are Trans Friendly company. Only the bosses know what is going on, I dont want the other drivers to know what is going on but if they find out then I will answer the questions that they have the best I can. I do not hide it but I will not go out and say "HEY THIS IS WHAT I AM DOING."

I do joke around with most of the drivers that have something that looks like humor.

Sorry it took so long But I can not alwas get on the net, Most of the places I go I cant get a signal on my laptop. I leave out Monday morning and I dont get back home untell Saturday Nite.

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Guest Amanda_Henderson

If you look close enough on the mid left side just to the right on the screen of the video, you can see me walking on the side walk around the trailor + Dabre, but yea that was me. I am not proud of it but it is something that I keep watching over and over and over, just because sometimes I still cant belive that it happend but I know that it did.

When I was making the turn I was watching my mirror to see where the trailor was going, then I looked ahead to make sure that I was going in the lane I was exposed to be in, I was about to look in my mirror again, when I just heard this loud BOOOM. At first I thought that I just blow out a tire, I looked in my drivers mirror could not see anything, Looked in my Passenger mirror, and there it was, The Trailor was on its side. I was driving a day cap with a window in the back, and after seeing that in my passenger mirror I turned really quick to looked out the back window and could not belive my eyes.

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