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Guest Donna Jean

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Yeah......

<------Look over there below my angel....

"Joined 20 June 2008"

Two years ago today.

What was I thinking?

Well, I was thinking that I was miserable, lost, in pain and not knowing where to turn.

Donna Jean came to me again like she always had...

And I said... "Get back in there..." like I always did....

Only, this time she said....

"NO!"

"NEVER AGAIN!"

Uh oh....

Now what?

I went looking for help...

So much garbage on the net...

Then I landed on here...

What's this? No crossdresser pics? People just talking about what their lives were and people caring and supporting others that were lost and miserable?

Oh my! This was EXACTLY what I needed...

I learned so much...I'm not a freak or mentally ill or perverted!

Thank God!

So, I read and read and read....

And I posted and joined in...

A PM came one day from Mary Ellen..."Would you consider being a Mod?"

So I learned the process...

Came out to my wife...

Started therapy...

Started electrolysis....

Got my HRT letter and started...

Got my surgery letter...

Live 90% female now...(100%? soon....soon)

And now?

Here I am two years later and God knows where I might of been without this site...

I've met a number of people from this site, went to Memphis with my best two friends/girlfriends...

Is it all wonderful now?

No, not by a long shot...

People think that transitioning will make their life beautiful, but, for many of us....we simply trade one set of problems for a brand new set of problems...

But, at least now one major hurdle is out of the way and being put behind us...

Two years?

Oh my, where did the time go?

Donna Jean

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Dee Jay, your finding Laura's was not only a Godsend to you, it was a Godsend to literally thousands of others whom you touched

with your kindness, your love, and your friendship. I am but one such person who you reached out to in friendship, and my life

has been enriched as a result.

These two years have been filled with changes, drama and happiness for you, and wisdom, laughter, and kindness for us.

I hope you celebrate many, many more anniversaries here. Please don't ever leave. We need you! :wub:

Carolyn Marie

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Guest ~Brenda~

What's this? No crossdresser pics? People just talking about what their lives were and people caring and supporting others that were lost and miserable?

Oh my! This was EXACTLY what I needed...

I learned so much...I'm not a freak or mentally ill or perverted!

Thank God!

...sniff... me too.

Dee Jay,

I am so glad that you found Laura's. I not only found Laura's, but I found you too :wub:

Love

Brenda

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Dee Jay,

I am happy you found this site and thus found a place you belonged. And I'm sure I speak for almost all the members here that we are thankful you are here. You bring caring and comfort to those in need. Plus you sprinkle a dash of wisdom to boot. I am glad that you are here with us.

Love Jenny

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Happy anniversary!!

What a busy two years it's been!

You are so much a part of the heart of Laura's know it's hard to imagine without you.

Finding myslf and Laura's didn't fix the car or pay the bills or stop the taxes coming due but it did fix my heart.

So thank you again for all you contribute and Happy, Happy Anniversary.

Your journey has been as remarkable as you are!

Hugs

JJ

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Guest BeckyTG

Sweet Donna Jean,

I am so glad you did and so are the thousands of lives you have touched by doing so. Your positive influence has helped more people than you know and you do know that I am one of them.

I would not be where I am today without you and Laura's. You have inspired me to move forward and live my dream.

You are truly a special woman.

I love you dearly,

Becky

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Guest Elizabeth K

Dear Donna Jean,

730 days - thats two years of love and advice and understanding and friendship and ... laughter and crying.

You are a remarkable woman! Just an amazing human being...

It hasn't been easy for anyone, it hasn't been easy for you, but without you in this world, without you on this site, there would have been much more struggling for all of us. You ease the pain. you show the way, and you make us happy in our hearts. You are the best there is!!!

I am proud to call you my friend and my confidant.

Your Elizabeth

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My Sweet Donna Jean,

You joined before I did and you were a moderator when I joined, you were also the very first person to reach out to me - you left this prophetic message on my profile, "Hi, Sally. Nice to meet ya! I'm your age, so, maybe we can talk sometime! Best wishes."

Well we have talked some time and time again and I always look forward to each time we do.

You have been my friend, my confidant, my comforter, my guardian angel, my companion, my sister and my savior - I am afraid to think about where I would be if I had never found Laura's and met you.

Everyone who has come to Laura's in those past two years has been touched by that little angel - you have changed so ,many lives and all of us owe you so much.

Thank you for your work here on the forums, for your kind heart and generous nature and fro being my friend.

Love ya,

Sally

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Yeah......

<------Look over there below my angel....

"Joined 20 June 2008"

Two years ago today.

What was I thinking?

Well, I was thinking that I was miserable, lost, in pain and not knowing where to turn.

Donna Jean came to me again like she always had...

And I said... "Get back in there..." like I always did....

Only, this time she said....

"NO!"

"NEVER AGAIN!"

Uh oh....

Now what?

I went looking for help...

So much garbage on the net...

Then I landed on here...

What's this? No crossdresser pics? People just talking about what their lives were and people caring and supporting others that were lost and miserable?

Oh my! This was EXACTLY what I needed...

I learned so much...I'm not a freak or mentally ill or perverted!

Thank God!

So, I read and read and read....

And I posted and joined in...

A PM came one day from Mary Ellen..."Would you consider being a Mod?"

So I learned the process...

Came out to my wife...

Started therapy...

Started electrolysis....

Got my HRT letter and started...

Got my surgery letter...

Live 90% female now...(100%? soon....soon)

And now?

Here I am two years later and God knows where I might of been without this site...

I've met a number of people from this site, went to Memphis with my best two friends/girlfriends...

Is it all wonderful now?

No, not by a long shot...

People think that transitioning will make their life beautiful, but, for many of us....we simply trade one set of problems for a brand new set of problems...

But, at least now one major hurdle is out of the way and being put behind us...

Two years?

Oh my, where did the time go?

Donna Jean

I kept your first PM to me for a long,long time. I sat back and watched you grow from a tiny little seed,into a bud and now a full blooming flower.

Mike

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