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Guest JohnV

yeah I know its not great. But sometimes when my mind gets to riled and insane from everything thats going on inside it, I get frustrated and need a drink. I don't get drunk, rarely get buzzed. Just help myself to rum and coke or some other concoction every now and then. I figure if this continues it could be a problem :/ Advice?

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Guest ramoneskid

bonjour John!

I've occasionally been told I am a bad influence (usually by those who hardly know me though), so my advice should be taken with a grain of sand, rice, or a small delicious treat.

In my opinion it is rather common for underage kids to be drinking and/or using/experimenting with drugs. I believe the purpose for ingesting said drugs is what should determine whether the individual has a problem or not. I perfectly understand your frustration leading you to take a drink - to relax and relieve stress, yes yes? But problems will arise if you find yourself growing physically (or mentally) dependent on anything (including television, eating in excess, etc). When taking any drugs you absolutely must know your limits, keep your cool and handle yourself responsibly, be in a safe environment and know to use in moderation and not excess. If your drinking isn't very frequent (and stays this way), you're not drinking large amounts that make you feel totally out of control or sick, I would tell you not to think badly of yourself for it. Since you are the one in control and know yourself better than any of us, I'd say you will know if and when you have a predicament.

ps. I'm a minor myself, and through all the drug-taking I've done I can happily state I've never been physically dependent on any drug. I've done drugs to cope with the anger and stress that comes with your gender and physical sex mismatching. It helps, but only for a period of time (unless you embark on a mental journey in which you find a higher ground and peace with yourself). When you come down, make it a goal to find a more permanent way to assist in making yourself more at ease with your predicament (or your self). So if you're upset sometime and you want to drink but feel some apprehension, I suggest going for a walk/jog, cranking up some music on your stereo speakers, drawing or whatever you like to do that relaxes you. If all else fails - take up an instrument or something you've never tried before. Sorry for the length and all man, I'm buzzing off three cups of rather strong coffee and I wanted to be thorough. Peace friend!

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Hey, and also, once I have the ability to PM other users, feel free to contact me about anything if you like - I'm stuck in a rut in PA til mid July and I'm bored off my rocker over here! Hence why it is 3:19 in the morning and I'm drinking caffeine.

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Hey, and also, once I have the ability to PM other users, feel free to contact me about anything if you like - I'm stuck in a rut in PA til mid July and I'm bored off my rocker over here! Hence why it is 3:19 in the morning and I'm drinking caffeine.

lmao thanks for all the advice. You can never bore me man, so don't hesitate to talk to me :]

Thankfully I can gladly say Ive never delved into drugs, been tempted xD but no. And my drinking is very limited, usually only one drink and not often. Not because I cant handle more but I choose not too. It does not please me, just something to calm the nerves. I love all of your other suggestions. I used to play the Alto Sax last year, guess it wouldnt hurt to bust it out again and play a little tune. I also need to write more if I'm ever going to get all the books i have planned in my head published lol. Yeah....I'm always up into the wee hours of the morning. I sadly dont need the caffiene either hence why it is 5 a.m right now...

Maybe Im a vampire...O____O

Oh SNAP!

Lol

-John

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John,

I am so glad that you do not dabble in drugs, alcohol can be addictive too so drinking when depressed is a bad idea.

Break out that sax, learn a few blues tunes and wail!

I do that on my trumpet sometimes, I also write some very depressing poetry.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest JohnV

John,

I am so glad that you do not dabble in drugs, alcohol can be addictive too so drinking when depressed is a bad idea.

Break out that sax, learn a few blues tunes and wail!

I do that on my trumpet sometimes, I also write some very depressing poetry.

Love ya,

Sally

Yeah sally, writing is my strongest talent I have.

I write very depressing poetry. Although my best work (in any kind of writing) is cranked out when I'm sad.

The words flow together and become an amazing piece of art I never knew I was capable of.

So my best pieces are from when I was writing during some off moment or another.

Thanks for the concern Sally <3

Love,

John

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John,

I guess we are sort of alike, poetry flows when I am depressed or really happy - just feeling OK - no poetry, muse seem to like strong

emotions and depression can be very strong.

Feel free to post some of your poetry here - sharing is also very good.

I have a lot of my poems here, the depressed ones are mostly older but i have some happy ones too.

Love ya,

Sally

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John,

I guess we are sort of alike, poetry flows when I am depressed or really happy - just feeling OK - no poetry, muse seem to like strong

emotions and depression can be very strong.

Feel free to post some of your poetry here - sharing is also very good.

I have a lot of my poems here, the depressed ones are mostly older but i have some happy ones too.

Love ya,

Sally

o.o I might be interested in posting! A lot of my stuff is preeetty dark though ^.^;;

Im not sure where I would post it though D:

Anyways...It's 6 in da mornin and im gonna try and go ta sleep now Dx

thanks for all the support as always. I love it here so much! <3

-John

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Get some sleep John,

The forums will be here when you get up.

There is a poetry forum and we have blogs as well.

I have posted some so dark that I got instant PMs and even a few phone calls over them - so we do read them and even appreciate where they come from.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest JohnV

Get some sleep John,

The forums will be here when you get up.

There is a poetry forum and we have blogs as well.

I have posted some so dark that I got instant PMs and even a few phone calls over them - so we do read them and even appreciate where they come from.

Love ya,

Sally

Lol well I made a new blog for my poems and other writings. Thought I'd break the ice with one of my darkest poems...

Dx Wonder how many concerned comments imma get on this one...

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Oh well lol. I write dark stuff so thats just how I roll. Thanks for giving me the idea. :]

-John

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