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Ok! I know it's redundant, but here it is!

So what would some people recommend I do to pass better? Pre-HRT, so hopefully that may help a bit too when I get there.

Myself, some things I notice is... hair (working on it!), broad shoulders (I keep hoping that losing a bit of muscle/fat will help the shoulders LOOK less broad), the CHIN! (URGGH I hate the dimple look and I hate that it's so, there. The chin I mean. Well, the dimple too) Not much I can do on the chin but hope HRT might help a little in hiding it, and worse case, there's always surgery. Ohh, and I could lose a bit of weight.

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Guest Donna Jean

Ok! I know it's redundant, but here it is!

So what would some people recommend I do to pass better? Pre-HRT, so hopefully that may help a bit too when I get there.

LOL....

Katie, Honey....HRT will do wonders for you!

you have so much good stuff to work with!

Your face is great and will feminize beautifully...

A little eyebrow plucking will help pre-HRT....

Feminine nose, good eyes...Girlfriend....you got it goin' on! For real...

Don't stress.....you're going to do just fine...and yes, you're passable..(with more hair!)

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest sarah f

Katie you will do just wonderfully after a while on HRT. It will work wonders on you. Don't worry too much about your chin. There are some women out there that have dimples too. If you still don't like it than FFS can fix it for you. Don't beat yourself up too much.

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You are going to be just lovely, Katie. I agree with the others. Just adding a wig and a little makeup and you could walk out the door

today.

Lets see a pic of you after you've done yourself up a bit.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest KatieT

Thanks everyone! I probably will get a wig if my therapist asks me to start presenting female. I'd really like to skip the whole 'awkward' phase if I could, but I know looks isn't the only thing to work on sooo.. it might be unavoidable.

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Katie,

Like everyone else said, you will have no trouble passing, you have great features, small nose, no brow ridge, your eyebrows look good, lips pretty good.

You need longer hair, if you have a beard shadow electrolysis can fix that, in the mean time a real close shave in the shower will get that nice smooth feeling for quite awhile, your chin can be fixed if you do not like it.

Thanks everyone! I probably will get a wig if my therapist asks me to start presenting female. I'd really like to skip the whole 'awkward' phase if I could, but I know looks isn't the only thing to work on sooo.. it might be unavoidable.

Instead of waiting for your therapist to ask you to present female at your sessions, how about surprising them by starting to go dressed on your own, it will show them you are committed to this change, that is what i did, if you are talking about your therapist wanting you to go full time, that should be entirely up to you when you feel comfortable doing so.

You are so right looks are not the only thing to work on, you can pass 100% but if when you speak a male voice comes out you are busted. Voice, mannerisms, confidence and of course wearing what others your age are wearing and makeup not overdone, less is more, will help you blend in and pass.

Paula

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Honestly, I think your hair looks fine. But maybe I'm biased because I love short hair on women. But seriously, I opened up the pic and went, "Oh, her hair is so cute! I love the clips and the little flip in the back!" :D

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I agree with Nelo, I thought you hair was cute! Kind of a bit flapper-ish (Ya'know... Jazz dance girl) But I thought it looked very cute.

Pass? Yes.

Movie Pass? Well what do you want to see?

Love, Hilda.

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