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Guest Melanie Dawn

I don't know, but why go on hrt if you still want to be a "working" male? I guess I don't understand.

Melanie Dawn

ps AFTER hrt? it never ends.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Well Oogie,

You have posed a complex question, and I think the complexity is really for yourself.

HRT will result in you having little testosterone relative to estrogen. This means that your ability to achieve penile erections will eventually stop. If you still want to maintain penile erections, I would reconsider your pursuit of HRT.

You seem conflicted, and that is the very reason why you should see a gender therapist. These, and more issues can be sorted out with you.

Gender identity is complicated and how one expresses their sexuality is complicated.

HRT and Viagra is a mixed message.

Think about what you are doing.

Love

Brenda

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Guest oogie292

I meant after I start HRT. And just because I would like to maintain an erection does not make me any less of a transwoman.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Sexual functioning and sexual desire does not make anyone less of anything :)

This is territory that must be discussed personally with one's gender therapist.

Each one of us here have a completely different point of view as to why HRT is important and how we see ourselves sexually.

There is no judgement here, but I caution those who I feel seem unsure about things.

Transitioning is not a trivial thing. You must all be aware that transitiong means very profound changes to your body, and consequently, your sexuality. This is not to be confused with your sexual preference. No, I mean your sexuality in terms of function. This and and many more things need to be sorted out by talking to a gender therapist.

There does come a point in one's transitioning where there is no going back. You MUST be sure!!! Therapy will help you to be sure.

Love

Brenda

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Guest Esperanza Xochitl

I may be wrong and oogie can correct me if (I'm sorry I don't know your preferred pronoun, oogie, so I'm using gender neutral) ze meant something else. I think oogie wants one kind of equipment (and still functioning) down stairs, but upstairs having female parts on the next level up shining on high beam.

And no, I can't answer your question. I am just focused too much on how I want to turn my outy :blush: into an inny to think about errections. But good luck. :)

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, I'll have to jump in here....

When you're on HRT...most find that the "equipment" shrinks...

You become infertile over time...

And most lose their drive to have sex...

to take Viagra while on HRT is possible, I guess...I wouldn't even think of doing it without consulting a doctor, though!

Donna Jean

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Guest sarah f

Dee Jay said what I was going to say and that is consult a doctor first. It might not be safe for you take it after being on HRT for a while.

I am almost 4 months in and let me tell you there isn't much going on down there anymore.

I hope you get the answer you are looking for but I don't think there is much of a chance after being on HRT for a while.

Good Luck

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Guest Melanie Dawn

I meant after I start HRT. And just because I would like to maintain an erection does not make me any less of a transwoman.

I never said anything of the sort did i? nope.

Just seems unusual to me to want "both" working gear and secondary sex characteristics of a female. As other have said, definitely talk to your doctor and your therapist, I would think that you might not get hormones if you still want to be a functioning male. One might think you aren't sure what you want. I am just thinking out loud, and NOT putting words in your mouth.

Melanie Dawn

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Hi Oogie,

Asking that question around here is like dropping a sugar cube down a fireant hill. I think it is because most MTF do not want that equipment at all and dang that thing if it works. I am one of those that buck the system a bit. It is a personal thing and each of us needs to respect that. No harm in your asking the question and no one should be questioning your intents or motives as to why you want to stay active.

I have been married for 25 years in September. I love my wife dearly and she has decided to stay with me. She has asked me to stay active as she still enjoys having the use of it. I dont mind giving a little to get a little. Its all about us not just me.....

So not to sidetrack too much more, but I have been on HRT for 19 months now. Yes it does shrink, and yes it is more difficult to get and stay active. I have tried Cialis, and it adds to some of what I have lost in firmness, but the side effect of the intense banging headaches was kicking my butt. I have thought about Viagra, just not been back to the doc to talk to her. So in theory yes it will help retain some of what you will lose with HRT. Hope that answers your question and not attacks it!

Ok so I just dropped the 10lb sugar cube in the ant hole..... fire away.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Oogie,

Asking that question around here is like dropping a sugar cube down a fireant hill. I think it is because most MTF do not want that equipment at all and dang that thing if it works. I am one of those that buck the system a bit. It is a personal thing and each of us needs to respect that. No harm in your asking the question and no one should be questioning your intents or motives as to why you want to stay active.

I have been married for 25 years in September. I love my wife dearly and she has decided to stay with me. She has asked me to stay active as she still enjoys having the use of it. I dont mind giving a little to get a little. Its all about us not just me.....

So not to sidetrack too much more, but I have been on HRT for 19 months now. Yes it does shrink, and yes it is more difficult to get and stay active. I have tried Cialis, and it adds to some of what I have lost in firmness, but the side effect of the intense banging headaches was kicking my butt. I have thought about Viagra, just not been back to the doc to talk to her. So in theory yes it will help retain some of what you will lose with HRT. Hope that answers your question and not attacks it!

Ok so I just dropped the 10lb sugar cube in the ant hole..... fire away.

Very well said Cris :)

HUGS

Brenda

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Guest Melanie Dawn

It is a personal thing and each of us needs to respect that.

I hope noone thinks I was attacking anyone... I have never heard/met any mtf TG that wants their "gear" to work.

Melanie Dawn

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Guest ~Brenda~

This is clearly a sensitive subject. Many of us (myself included) are not comfortable with discussing erections because it is something that we avoid at all costs. Tucking requires the complete lack of erections. I take tucking very seriously.

With that said, each person's sense of self and sexuality is important and worth talking about.

I will say to you all, none of you said anything wrong, and all opinions are appreciated. Let us all remember that all we have are opinions (I know, I expressed mine).

The important thing here is that however you see yourself and how you express yourself, sexually or otherwise is OK :)

The human condition is very complex and sexuality is even more complex. No one is ever to feel ashamed about who they are, gender, or sexually.

All my love

Brenda

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I will say to you all, none of you said anything wrong, and all opinions are appreciated. Let us all remember that all we have are opinions (I know, I expressed mine).

The important thing here is that however you see yourself and how you express yourself, sexually or otherwise is OK smile.gif

The human condition is very complex and sexuality is even more complex. No one is ever to feel ashamed about who they are, gender, or sexually.

All my love

Brenda

Ok...so not to beat a dead horse too much longer but If we just express our opinion and question the reasons of another without answering their question, but affirming our reason as to why that is a bad idea, then I dont believe you have done anyone any justice. You end up with the opinion that you are the authorative response and why would you even ask that question. May not have been your intention, but when I read through the thread thats exactly what comes across to me. We all do have opinions. sometimes we dont need to express them as they only relate to ourselves. All of us are unique and individual.

Just because we identify a certain way doesnt mean we all are identical. kinda leads into your last point about humans being complex and we should not feel ashamed of who we believe we are.

Just my two cents.... but I think we should all think twice before responding to a post we have no authorative answer to reply with. Sometimes opinions are just not warrented.

Cris

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I have never heard/met any mtf TG that wants their "gear" to work.

Melanie Dawn

I have, so they do exist.

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Guest Melanie Dawn

I have, so they do exist.

I'm not doubting you, I'm just saying I haven't, and can't see why you'd want it to, but as said before, everyone is different.

Melanie Dawn

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Guest kelise

Well, one thing no one's mentioned here is that with the loss of Testosterone, also comes the loss of the intense need and desire to get off constantly. I remember my pre-E days where the thought of not being able to get it up was pretty scary.

I have now been on Estrogen and Spiro for 4 years, and Progesterone about 6 months. I think I read somewhere we're not supposed to talk about dosages on here, but compared to a lot of my MTF friends, I take a MASSIVE dose. Crazy thing is, while I've gotten all the amazing female parts HRT promised, I've experienced little shrinkage and still get erections every time. Downside is, I DON'T WANT THEM! I hate that thing for all it's worth, and would be quite capable of an enjoyable sex life if it didn't exist at all.

That said, I'm apparently a very rare case in the fact that it still works, so don't count on anything. My doctor is baffled by it.

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To answer your original questions in order - my sex life hasn't changed at all - still nonexistent and no I have never used viagra.

So, I have been no help at all.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest doodle

there are lots of trans women still using their stuff. I have been on HRT for over two years and mine still works. it takes a little longer but it works. I was in a support group where this subject came up and was shocked at how many women there were still using their stuff. I can say that your O 's are generally much better. Thats what everyone in the group had agreed on. I have no interest in men.

Kelly

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Guest KimberlyF

I have, so they do exist.

I know someone who went on HRT in her early teens, never living a day as an adult male, and still has and enjoys a fully functional one.

Personally on an emotional level, I can't stop getting erections soon enough. And shrinkage? I asked for extra George Costanza in my hormones.

(below not directed at quote)

We're all on a very personal journey. And if we're true to ourselves, we don't purposefully try to hurt someone else, and we come out the other side happy, more that likely I will try to support your decision and not judge.

Kim

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Well Oogie,

You have posed a complex question, and I think the complexity is really for yourself.

HRT will result in you having little testosterone relative to estrogen. This means that your ability to achieve penile erections will eventually stop. If you still want to maintain penile erections, I would reconsider your pursuit of HRT.

You seem conflicted, and that is the very reason why you should see a gender therapist. These, and more issues can be sorted out with you.

Gender identity is complicated and how one expresses their sexuality is complicated.

HRT and Viagra is a mixed message.

Think about what you are doing.

Love

Brenda

Bernii, I am nearly a year into HRT and although things have shrunk, I can still get an erection though its a bit too small to do much with and there are days when it actually hurts to have one. One thing I have found is that the glans responds more like a clitoris durring sex and OMG has it given some wonderful O's. Viagra and HRT, an odd combo amd probly not a good one;

YMMV: As you progress in HRT and start thinking of yourself as a woman rather than a transwoman its amazing the rewiring tricks the brain can pull.

J

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i have not taken viagra , but know some what how it works , to achieve erections there must be healthy blood flow to the penis, blood flows into it, but dosnt come back out as easy , and that's what viagra does , it blocks a chemical that allows blood to leave the penis ,thus being able to maintain a firmer longer lasting erection .

the problem i see for you though is it will prolly kill your desire for sex long before it kills your ability to become construct. HRT is a long drawn out process . but the first thing it will impact and hard will be your mind and those effects come relatively fast and happen long be for any physical changes happen. the first thing it hits is your sex drive . the male sex drive is most dependant on testosterone and visual stimulation . mostly testosterone. after that's gone and months turn into years. your opinions of sex change your feelings about it and the reason why you want it switch from being how a man thinks about sex to how a woman thinks about sex .

i have been on HRT for 11 years. i started when i was a young teen. my equipment hasn't worked correctly in i don't know how long . i enjoy sex but being 11 years removed from a substantial source of testosteron. i don't have the need to get off. or more correctly its not about getting off . i desire closeness intimacy, and it starts long before im even touched . i have to work up to being turned on . it doesn't just happen, well sometimes it does but its on rare occasion . normally my bf has to do almost everything right all day long to even have a chance at getting what hes after later. my biggest and most important sex organ is between my ears not between my legs .

eh i'm starting to ramble and get off topic . you should ask your doctor and make it perfectly clear to him/her that you plan to start HRT

for the main reason most all T blockers . directly affect your blood pressure by lowering it and viagra affects it by raising it. could be all kinds of drug interactions that could be dangerouse. and also ask your endocrinologist that is prescribing has he/she will prolly have a better idea of what will happen over the average GP

Sakura

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I'm surprised at how many people attacked this person.

I mean, I've been on hormones for three years. I'm 20 now. While I would be rather devastated if I had one of those spontaneous erections; I have no problem using my "thing" during sex. I feel comfortable enough with both my identity and body that if I were to react in a male way during intercourse, I wouldn't mind much. Now, with that said, I'm not going to go out of my way to top a guy (that wouldn't happen anyway though, since I only date straight men). But, if a guy is comfortable enough with my body, and wants to touch, rub, or do other things to this stupid dangling appendage, it would simply not bother me.

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Guest moonrise

Ok...so not to beat a dead horse too much longer but If we just express our opinion and question the reasons of another without answering their question, but affirming our reason as to why that is a bad idea, then I dont believe you have done anyone any justice. You end up with the opinion that you are the authorative response and why would you even ask that question. May not have been your intention, but when I read through the thread thats exactly what comes across to me. We all do have opinions. sometimes we dont need to express them as they only relate to ourselves. All of us are unique and individual.

Just because we identify a certain way doesnt mean we all are identical. kinda leads into your last point about humans being complex and we should not feel ashamed of who we believe we are.

Just my two cents.... but I think we should all think twice before responding to a post we have no authorative answer to reply with. Sometimes opinions are just not warrented.

Cris

Thank you Cris. This was very well stated and something that needed said. We all have the same problem (trans) and there isn't one solution. I am in the same boat as you and was actually very interested how some others here might have made this work. I too am trying to keep my marriage and that is something that my wife happens to like. I have used viagra pre anti-androgen and could manage the headache somewhat by taking it with food.

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