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Guest Jinbotsu

I'm in the army reserves, i have now decided that i cant take being in the wrong body anymore. I have no medical insurance, im 21 and i just feel totally lost..I have a very low income. Is transitioning out of the question for me? my biggest challenge is money...i have little to none of it after bills and rent every month..I'm starting to feel anxious. I have this anxiety about being stuck like this for ever. I dont know if im entitled to va benefits as i have not deployed. I'm sorry that this message came out so frantically but im just so lost, so very lost. :(

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Guest Donna Jean

I'm in the army reserves, i have now decided that i cant take being in the wrong body anymore. I have no medical insurance, im 21 and i just feel totally lost..I have a very low income. Is transitioning out of the question for me? my biggest challenge is money...i have little to none of it after bills and rent every month..I'm starting to feel anxious. I have this anxiety about being stuck like this for ever. I dont know if im entitled to va benefits as i have not deployed. I'm sorry that this message came out so frantically but im just so lost, so very lost. :(

Hello, Jinbotsu...

Welcome to the Playground...I'm Donna Jean....

(And, NO! Transitioning is NOT out of the question for you!)

Gee, Honey, you don't seem very happy right now..

Let me tell you a couple of things first...ok?

You don't have to just post in the Veteran's forum...you can post anywhere...ok?

And, I want you to know that I'm a vet, too..I served in Vietnam quite a while back...

I had these feelings way back then...I flew with women's underwear under my flight suit...but I fought it for many years and am now transitioning at 60...I don't want you to have to do that...

So, let me ask you a couple of questions...

Did you know that you don't have to deploy anywhere to get VA benefits?..I have a friend in that was in the coast guard and served his entire time in Key West..Gets benefits...

Now, are you close to getting out?

What sort of job do you do in there?

What part of the country will you go back to?

Talk to me, Honey.....I wanna help....ok?

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Jinbotsu

Hello, Jinbotsu...

Welcome to the Playground...I'm Donna Jean....

(And, NO! Transitioning is NOT out of the question for you!)

Gee, Honey, you don't seem very happy right now..

Let me tell you a couple of things first...ok?

You don't have to just post in the Veteran's forum...you can post anywhere...ok?

And, I want you to know that I'm a vet, too..I served in Vietnam quite a while back...

I had these feelings way back then...I flew with women's underwear under my flight suit...but I fought it for many years and am now transitioning at 60...I don't want you to have to do that...

So, let me ask you a couple of questions...

Did you know that you don't have to deploy anywhere to get VA benefits?..I have a friend in that was in the coast guard and served his entire time in Key West..Gets benefits...

Now, are you close to getting out?

What sort of job do you do in there?

What part of the country will you go back to?

Talk to me, Honey.....I wanna help....ok?

Huggs

Donna Jean

I am really not happy being stuck with a body i feel that i have no business having..I have been raised to be a part of the male gender but..i just do not fit in..i mean i have friends and i am social, but it is hard..right now the costs of transitioning are just so over whelming..i do not even know how i can start..i would start living as the correct gender roll i feel i belong to, but my facial hair grows wickedly coarse(i can at least conceal the rest of the hair..), so when ever i shave i break out in terrible rash, i can only shave once every 4-5 days for it to not do that.

I am not close to getting out..hit my second year mark in march..there's 6 years of active status, which means i drill during this time, then irr, which is an inactive status where i can choose not to drill. Though i hear they deploy a lot of people who do not continue to drill the last two years..

I am a 92 alpha, i maintain a motor pool's work orders and parts/order parts.

And since i am in the reserves i am still at home, in Iowa..

Thanks for listening,

Bre

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Guest Donna Jean

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OHHhh...OK.

I see better now...

So you're reserve...

You have 4 to go...

You're home in Iowa...Uh, do you have a job right now?

You know ..there are things that you can do in the meantime...

You can:

Get electrolysis...maybe not a lot right away, but, an hour here and there..it all adds up.

Start getting some clothes...shop at Goodwill...you can get an outfit for cheap..

Look, I got this outfit for $12..top, skirt and shoes!

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?app=gallery&module=images&section=viewimage&img=2973

Work on your voice...that takes a long time so start as soon as you can..

Stay here on Lauras and you can learn a ton of stuff to help you out...

I know that you are limited to some degree, but, there is still a lot that you can do.....OK?

Hang in there, Honey!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Jinbotsu

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OHHhh...OK.

I see better now...

So you're reserve...

You have 4 to go...

You're home in Iowa...Uh, do you have a job right now?

You know ..there are things that you can do in the meantime...

You can:

Get electrolysis...maybe not a lot right away, but, an hour here and there..it all adds up.

Start getting some clothes...shop at Goodwill...you can get an outfit for cheap..

Look, I got this outfit for $12..top, skirt and shoes!

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?app=gallery&module=images&section=viewimage&img=2973

Work on your voice...that takes a long time so start as soon as you can..

Stay here on Lauras and you can learn a ton of stuff to help you out...

I know that you are litited to some degree, but, there is still a lot that you can do.....OK?

Hang in there, Honey!

Huggs

Donna Jean

Thank you so much:)

You have given me some ease of mind, and i already have been working on my voice since 2004:)

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Guest Jinbotsu

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OHHhh...OK.

I see better now...

So you're reserve...

You have 4 to go...

You're home in Iowa...Uh, do you have a job right now?

You know ..there are things that you can do in the meantime...

You can:

Get electrolysis...maybe not a lot right away, but, an hour here and there..it all adds up.

Start getting some clothes...shop at Goodwill...you can get an outfit for cheap..

Look, I got this outfit for $12..top, skirt and shoes!

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?app=gallery&module=images&section=viewimage&img=2973

Work on your voice...that takes a long time so start as soon as you can..

Stay here on Lauras and you can learn a ton of stuff to help you out...

I know that you are litited to some degree, but, there is still a lot that you can do.....OK?

Hang in there, Honey!

Huggs

Donna Jean

Sorry for the double post, i accidentally clicked reply!

I am currently working for a sub sandwich place, they have me on a fast track to management, But i am also pursuing a degree in network administrations, so after i get my degree i hope i can start working in this field right away!

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Hi Bre

Welcome to Laura's.

You have found a great place to ask questions and explore your feeling while being completely accepted for who you are. A place where you will be understood and unconditionally supported.

I'm not a veteran and can't help with your questions but we have all experienced the pain of being wrong bodied with everything that means and many, many of us also face financial challenges in transitioning.

I look forward to hearing more from you!

Nice to meet you!

JohnJ

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