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Abuse?


Guest N. Jane

  

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  1. 1. Where you abused as a child?

    • No
    • Yes - physically
    • Yes - emotionally
    • Yes - sexually
    • Was it connected to being TS?


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Guest N. Jane

Abuse seems rampant in our society with statistics saying 2 of every 3 girls is abused and 3 of every 7 boys. I am curious if we are, on average, more or less likely to be abused.

Were you ever abused by your parents, relatives, or others in a position of authority when you were a child? Was it related to being TS?

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I was never intentionally abused, the emotional abuse was due to my parents and extended family wanting me to be a boy so much and praised anything male that I managed to do - it was pure torture to a young girl.

So yes it was all about being TS - they thought that they were building my self esteem while in fact they were crushing it completely, it has left me pretty much an emotional cripple.

Love ya,

Sally

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Because we are so often ore isolated more troubled we tend to be exactly the victims as children that predators are looking for. And I think our feelings of being out of place or somehow not right may make those who parent us more likely to abuse us because we are not always capable of conforming to their norms. I am ure the behaviors that got me labeled and beaten as a child would have been seen as all boy and tolerated in a boy while they were seen as "Bad child' in a girl.

Back then there was a stricter gender role definition or children, just as for adults.

So while I have never been abused for being trans I think much of the abuse resulted from it.

JohnJ

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Guest ~Brenda~

When I was a child, I was beaten with anything and everything available.

The best way to heal from all of this is to forgive.

Try to realize that those who abused you were in bad places in their lives.

Try to let go....

Your life does not have to be defined by your abuse.

Love

Brenda

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Guest justsomekid1

for me it defiantly was emotionally and sexually maybe physical but not extreamely. I was emotionally abused by my mom especially. She fought with her boyfriend and our household was very violent. I was a pretty shy scared quiet kid growing up. When I was 6 the police had a raid in the house drugs and they took us away. Then my mom got us back and she was terrible drunk all the time I had to grow up pretty quickly. She drank much of the money we were pretty well neglected. My life was mostly emotionally abusive in he first part of my life. I was 8 when life started to be ok. Mom sobered up and we were on the right track. It was like GOD gave mom another child and it sort of awakened her even though it was a hard time for as all letting her go. But I guess it was a wake up call and something that must happen for us to not live that way anymore. I still got picked on at school for being one of the special needs kids. I envied my younger sister who had been accepted as normal in our town and everyone liked her for who she was. I still feel that way. My own mother preffers her more. My father has never really liked me and preffered my half brother moreso. It was my best years yet I believe. Before my mother got with her bf I was sick in the nicu for 4 months. I honestly think that was the best time of my life. Our family was happy for once which was rare. Anyway, when I was 11, I caused it on myself. I pretty much invited a friend's brother to take advantage of me sexually. It ruined who I was in that town when they found out I had an std and that I lied about being with my bff just to cover up for my abuser. Then recently I guess I got into too much trouble with my mother and I guess you could say some physical abuse was involved that I got socked in the mouth tasted blood. But we're in therapy now. So yea I guess I did deal with all3 sorts of abuse I suppose.

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Guest AshleyRF

only by my own doings. I did things that were very dangerous and damaging to my body back then in hopes that I would die in the process. Things like drinking heavily or doing dangerous acts where one slip up meant certain death. To the outside world, I was just a daredevil. To me, it was a way of committing suicide.

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Guest digitalgremlin

I have been. But not because I am Trans.

I'd answer this if it wasn't public and people couldn't see my answers.

Your poll answers are anonymous. If you make a reply then it's not. Just wanted to let you know :)

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Guest miss kindheart

Yes I have been abused in many ways :(

This is a story about my sexual abuse, it was long ago, and I am over it now .

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=15854

All the way through school I was tormented and even during the rest or my life.

Allot of the time when people noticed that I was different , but they didn't know what or why. They did still seem to find away to hurt me though.

Anyway that 's life ,

:wub: vanna

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