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Guest Donna Jean

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Are you serious?

You look amazing!

You remind me of someone...dang, I can't think of his name right now...a male actor...

But, OH MY!

Look great!

And, I've been meaning to ask you...is that you in the AV with the guitar?

Looking good!

Donna Jean

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Hey Calvin-you look really great!

It is always a relief when someone asks how they pass to see someone who passes as well as you do. All good.

I like the pics too.

John

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Guest Donna Jean

Aww, shucks, that's a relief. Thanks guys and gal. And yes, that's me in the avatar.

Way cool!

You look so 50's......

I LOVE IT!

Donna Jean

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Guest Lady.Violette

You look fantastic!

If I'd see you on the streets I'd think that you're a 15~16 y/old teenage kid. (I image you are around that age too, right?) :P

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Guest abbxrdy

Nervous about this, but here goes...

Appearance wise, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I had to do a double take and re-read your post. Consider yourself one lucky dog.

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Guest OneSmallStep

I don't know how good your voice is - but visually? Natal male, not a TMan - a real male.

Lizzy

Okay, I might get some slack for this, and I'm not attacking you Lizzy and I am willing to bet you didn't mean this the way it sounded. But am I the only one who gets offended when someone says something like this? Like being a trans-guy is not a "real male" ? :-/ I've seen comments like this on more than one occasion and it just irks me when I do. I see being trans as having a birth defect, so to me it's similar to telling a guy who was born without a leg that he "looks like a real male" when he has a prosthetic leg attached, etc. As if missing that leg somehow makes him less of a man. :-/

Don't mean to thread hijack, 'n yes Calvin you definitely do look good in your pics, the hairstyle you've got seems to match you and you look masculine (I believe you had asked about haircuts previously too right?) ... You remind me of Liev Schrieber I believe the actor's name is...

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Guest abbxrdy

Okay, I might get some slack for this, and I'm not attacking you Lizzy and I am willing to bet you didn't mean this the way it sounded. But am I the only one who gets offended when someone says something like this? Like being a trans-guy is not a "real male" ? :-/ I've seen comments like this on more than one occasion and it just irks me when I do. I see being trans as having a birth defect, so to me it's similar to telling a guy who was born without a leg that he "looks like a real male" when he has a prosthetic leg attached, etc. As if missing that leg somehow makes him less of a man. :-/

Don't mean to thread hijack, 'n yes Calvin you definitely do look good in your pics, the hairstyle you've got seems to match you and you look masculine (I believe you had asked about haircuts previously too right?) ... You remind me of Liev Schrieber I believe the actor's name is...

Appearances are maybe 20% of the desired goal. 80% is straight up socialization. Comparisons to natal whatever is expected and understandable. It doesn't matter what you look like or how you feel and think when society judges you based on what comes out of your mouth and how you present your self. I'd guess that most of us realize that the best that can ever be achieved will simply come off as an emulation, an ever present fear and source of distress.

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Appearances are maybe 20% of the desired goal. 80% is straight up socialization. Comparisons to natal whatever is expected and understandable. It doesn't matter what you look like or how you feel and think when society judges you based on what comes out of your mouth and how you present your self. I'd guess that most of us realize that the best that can ever be achieved will simply come off as an emulation, an ever present fear and source of distress.

I dunno about that... I've showed pics of transmen to my mom and she was like WOW, you'd never know they were ever born in female bodies!!" Cases in point: Loren Cameron, the dude from Coyote Grace, Jamison Green, Billy Tipton (lived his whole life as male with no T and even his ex-wives didn't know he was trans), and many others. Just look at Transbucket sometime and you'll see plenty of good-looking guys who don't look like an "emulation" of anything.

I don't plan to become an "emulation" of a man. I plan to make my body match my male self, and therefore everything I do, say, or wear will be what a man does, says, or wears.

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Okay, I might get some slack for this, and I'm not attacking you Lizzy and I am willing to bet you didn't mean this the way it sounded. But am I the only one who gets offended when someone says something like this? Like being a trans-guy is not a "real male" ? :-/ I've seen comments like this on more than one occasion and it just irks me when I do. I see being trans as having a birth defect, so to me it's similar to telling a guy who was born without a leg that he "looks like a real male" when he has a prosthetic leg attached, etc. As if missing that leg somehow makes him less of a man. :-/

Don't mean to thread hijack, 'n yes Calvin you definitely do look good in your pics, the hairstyle you've got seems to match you and you look masculine (I believe you had asked about haircuts previously too right?) ... You remind me of Liev Schrieber I believe the actor's name is...

Yes. Yes I do.

...but comparisons ARE inevitable.

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Guest abbxrdy

I dunno about that... I've showed pics of transmen to my mom and she was like WOW, you'd never know they were ever born in female bodies!!" Cases in point: Loren Cameron, the dude from Coyote Grace, Jamison Green, Billy Tipton (lived his whole life as male with no T and even his ex-wives didn't know he was trans), and many others. Just look at Transbucket sometime and you'll see plenty of good-looking guys who don't look like an "emulation" of anything.

I don't plan to become an "emulation" of a man. I plan to make my body match my male self, and therefore everything I do, say, or wear will be what a man does, says, or wears.

Prepare for the beat down of your life, especially if you are young. Take the role models and stuff 'em in the trash. Don't delude your self, we see so much of that with the MTFs. I don't want to discourage you, but you've a rough, rocky road to plow though. Any feminine trait you have will be picked apart and you will be humiliated for it. A social boost for the other males looking to increase their stature. Yea some folks transitioned into manhood, i guarantee you it was hell in the process. I'm 30 years in and I look forward to death.

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Guest CalvinFTM

Prepare for the beat down of your life, especially if you are young. Take the role models and stuff 'em in the trash. Don't delude your self, we see so much of that with the MTFs. I don't want to discourage you, but you've a rough, rocky road to plow though. Any feminine trait you have will be picked apart and you will be humiliated for it. A social boost for the other males looking to increase their stature. Yea some folks transitioned into manhood, i guarantee you it was hell in the process. I'm 30 years in and I look forward to death.

Whoah... that one hit me like a punch in the gut. That's a pretty negative take on the whole thing.

I'm actually much older than I look (early thirties). I know a bunch of transguys who are happy and love their new lives. I know it's not easy, but neither is my current life (been getting threatened, harassed, thrown out of women's bathrooms since I was 10 years old). I refuse to concede myself to a life of hell and torture. I know dudes can be rough on each other, but I have a HUGE support network including my family and friends and my best friend of 16 years who is a happy, healthy, successful transman with a top-notch career ahead of him, a wife, and two lovely daughters. I'm prepared for the "hey shorty" comments and other such male harassment; in a way, I've been dealing with it my whole life since I've been passing as male for maybe 75% of my life, at least in public. I spent 7 years in successful practice as an attorney - never once got harassed about my appearance.

I know there will be trials and tribulations, but I refuse to accept that the road to transition is ALWAYS the road to misery and death. Sorry.

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Guest CalvinFTM

Also - I just have to add this - you have no idea what kinds of "beat-downs" I've had in my life. I kind of resent the implication that transitioning will be the biggest beat-down. I've survived regular beat-downs as a child; beat-downs at the hands of addiction; beat-downs from the ghosts of PTSD that still haunt me. I refuse to give up, I strive towards health every day, and I am as happy as I've ever been.

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Guest Lillet Coll

You look more like a man than I ever did, and I was only called ma'am when I had really long hair. If this is you pre-T, you're going to look quite ruggedly handsome after you start.

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Guest abbxrdy

You want what I wish I never had to deal with. Straight cis-gendered guys go through the socialization process scarred for life... You didn't grow up socialized this. I empathize with your past experiences, you're going for another round. Sucks doesn;t it? Trans dudes have a ton of latitude when it comes to expression. My girlfriend can wear my stuff, no problems, inverse, problems.

I don;t know why I write this. You know what the deal is. It's so screwed up, just look at all these hyper feminine MTF types. Talk about shooting over the moon... I've had to suffer the male socialization process, I don't even know who I am. I've had the core of my personality systematically stripped from me.

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