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So, I'm currently on a waiting list for a therapist, with any luck I'll have an aptment in about a month. But the thing is, in the past I've had a difficult time bringing up the subject of my gender. It seems every time I've attempted to talk about it, the councler just ends up trying to 'comfort' me or something, and tells me how feminine I am. Any tips on how to tell a therepist that I feel like a guy, not a girl? I'd like to be prepared this time and not just have it be a waste.

Punk

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Guest miss kindheart

Hi Punk,

<<< hug >>>

Ask them to call you by your choose male name.

I would start at the begging of your life and recount every important feeling, thought, and thing that has lead you to this point of being a man inside.

If there is ever a time in your life to Man-UP this is probably it.

You can do it :) just let the feelings from heart flow.

I wish you the best of everything with your journey :wub:

:wub: vanna

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Guest KimberlyF

I am amazingly shy but I always figured if I was going to a therapist theres no reason to lie or mislead or feel uncomfortable with. My current therapist I came right out and stated I was TS within the first 5 mins of the first meeting. It wasn't easy for me but I know that I cant get help for something if they don't know the root cause of my problems. If you have to write it down on a piece of paper with all your concerns and just hand it to them and say this is what I want to address but I'm a little shy and put off by the process so I think this will help me be more open and honest with you.

Kim

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I spent a year and a half avoiding talking about my gender issues, as I was never able to phrase things right in my head and always chickened out on the rare occasion I did know what to say. That was a waste of time. I've discovered how to get around that "block" though, for myself. Whether it works for anyone else I haven't the foggiest. :P

Anyhow, essentially I come up with a story - not fictional or anything, but I frame my thoughts in a sort of story format in the sense that I have a running script of how I say this and that. Generally I'll start with something relatively unrelated like asking if my therapist remembers a daydream I told her about like a year earlier, she says yes, then "I uhm... forgot to mention I was a girl in it" XD Horribly awkward and hard to say at first but in my experience its only hard to begin talking about it. Once I've brought the subject up I can very naturally just talk about it without much difficulty. :)

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Guest therisa

Punk, in my case, it was the first sentence out of my mouth, which is a rarity for me, but I needed to set the groundrules, for my sessions. Whichever method you use, I wish you, luck, Punk. :)

Hugs,

therisa

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Thanks for all the advise, I think I'll type up a letter about what I want to talk about.

And as for a name, I havent figured that out yet, unfortunatly. I just like it when people call me punk, but I think it might be ackward to tell my therapist to call me that rather than an actual name.

Punk

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I feel like a guy, not a girl?

Punk

I don;t mean to seem flippant, but why not just tell them that, and then tell them why you feel that way, and when you started to feel that way?

That's the most straightforward approach I can think of, and I doubt they can wiggle out of it with some inane comment.

Carolyn Marie

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That seems like it'd be the best way to go about it, but I get worried. My last therapist was horrible, at one point I was talking about some really bad panic attacks I was having, and trying to get some advise on how to deal with them and she inerupted me to start lecturing me about something that didnt effect me at all. And for the last 20 minutes of the session wouldnt let me get a word in. So i'm concernd that the same thing will end up happening.

Punk

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If the same thing does end up happening again, it would be better to have it happen sooner rather than later as you would then know to ditch that therapist and look for a more suitable one I think. :)

~Ev.

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Any therapist who goes into lecture mode and won't let you talk is a poor therapist-you'd be extremely unlucky to end up with 2 that bad!

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