How Do You Tell People That You Know Will Not Except You.

[Guest Tay-Tay]

ok so i have told my sister (who is bi) and my friend Amanda (who is in the GSA and has a bi sister) that i am trans and that im supposed to have guy parts but how do i tell a family who when ever they see someone who is bi lesbien gay trans or crossdresser say omg that is so sick i cant belive there r people like that in this world. my sister told my mom and they fought about it for a week and my mom still wont talk to my sister. i want to tell them so they stop buying me these girly clothes and let me dress in the clothing im supposed to wear if i was in the right body. and not only do i have this issue but i want to be a father. of kids with the same dna as me but that is not possible y is that i dont understand i mean i want to adopt a few kids because i was adopted myself but i want kids that have my dna and i want to get married and have a wife. and not be wife and wife but husband and wife. i wish that i could have guy parts and look like a guy

i sort of look like a guy i have wide set shoulders im tall and i kinda look like a guy but i dont have the right parts i have female parts and i dont really want sergury but i want to have the right parts and at the same time have them work and i get more and more depressed everyday about it and my mom asks whats wrong but if i told her she would freak. and i want to go out in public as a guy but i only have 2 people to do that with and well i dont want to go with my sister and my friend amanda is friends with my sister so my sister would end up going so i want to know how to tell more people and know i can trust them. and i found this website and i was so happy that i did because now i can tell people ya i dont know you but i can say it with out being judged im a guy not a girl i check out girls in the mall and i have urges like a guy it is just im imprisened in this body and i cant get out

[Guest brandt]

hey taylor.

sounds like me when i first and finally found out about myself and that i wasn't alone on all of this. i could tell you this. it takes time. i wasnt patient once and i couldn't wait any longer so i told my mom in a way hoping she would accept me. appearently she didn't. i knew that from the start. but i needed her to know that. i started coming out before i turned 15, which was like last year. before i came out to my mom, i came out to the people i trusted, like my sister and such. at least she accepted me. and my friends were in support of me.

well i know i how you feel because i feel the same exact way as you do. currently i go out as a guy and present myself as i guy and i pass very well as a guy, more as of a pre pubescent 12 year old boy. but eh its better than not passing at all right? i go out publically as a guy and i check out girls. i'm a straight guy and i never came out as a lesbian. never have and never will because i am a guy. the thing is i don't have the right kind of parts that i want. and it gets me depressed to. i envy those guys that have the functions and everything. everyday i couldn't stop but think how i would be so happy if i was a male instead of female. before i found out about myself and what the term was i tried being a girl. and well guess what? that didn't work at all. i was being fake and i realized it. now its been a 2 years since i've actually found out that i was transgendered and that i was just as normal as any body else. and look where patience has gotten me. step by step i started going on my own and wearing boy clothes. going out and cutting my hair... ( without permission) and all that other good stuff to help me. and i've come out to so many people in my school that it feels great. i'm glad most people know now and treat me the way i want. sure there are times when the mess up the name or the pronoun but at least many try. my mom will always be the problem of this though. she will always stop it in some point or time. but i'll just keep doing what i'm doing. i present myself as a boy, people call me gentleman, sir, all kinds of male things. and it feels so good.

so what i'm saying is its going to take time and patience. take time to actually do your research and prove that your not insane or anything. and when your ready present what you have got and tell them its not going to change. my mistake was trying to go fast but when i waited things put was put into place. well you know soemtimes these things don't happen the same way for different people. so my advice to you would be total trash to you if this didn't work. but i say i know that it is hard and depressing but this is reality and you should be proud in a way. i know i am because this has made me who i am. and if i was really born male, i know i would be a total jerk.

and think of this. your girl crazy right? cuz i know i love girls too lol. if you have girls that are friends try to find out what they want or what they like. since they know you are a girl physically they will be comfortable and tell you everything there is to know about what they like in a boy. trust me. it works. and use that knowledge and lets see what kind a girl would like you.

as for when you grow up. and wanting to have a wife and kids of your own. well be very realistic. adopting is all you can do. i really wanted to have a kid of my own. but knowing i cant have one with a girl just sucks. and i don't want to have a husband either so yeah your not the only one. i wanna be happily married as a male with a wife and kids. thats my dream.

good luck with everything tay.

[Guest Seth]

Tay;

If you want the male parts that work, extensive research is key. I know from experience.

When I started out identifying as trans, I didn't really want bottom surgery, only top. But now I can't wait till I can get everything done and I already have some good doctors in mind.

Just talk to them (family, friends, etc.) about it. Their initial reaction will probably be shock, but that happens with everyone. If they really love you, they'll accept you.

Good luck, bro.