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Guest Lacey Lynne

It's a message that needs to be repeated. While people have become more accepting, there are still many closed-minded ones out there. My prediction is that it will be similar to how Martin Luther King fought against blacks being treated differently than whites. Eventually there will be one person who will stand up and say, "Hey, we're just like you guys; we don't deserve to be treated different,". We will have to bond together to have a greater impact, but I think we can do it. There may be a few casualties, but in the end maybe it will help put greater awareness to help stop hate crimes against LBGT people.

Thanks, Matt.

Here it is: Christmas Eve of 2010.

I'm reading this thread and weeping of loneliness, fear and loathing. How many of you are doing much the same thing to one degree or another. I dare say that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Funny thing is that I've often very much thought about being that type of Martin Luther King, Jr. person alluded to here in Matt's quote. Honestly, I really have ... not for fame ... not for glory ... not for gain ... but people like us of the LGBTQ Community.

Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Dalai Lama: These are the people I admire the most and have yearned, yearned, yearned to be just like them ... a person of conviction, determination and faith. Each of these people, in their own unique way, caused "masses of asses" to evolve both intellectually and spiritually.

Planet Earth has cancer: The worldwide economic system which sacrifices everybody and everything in the name of the accumulation of money, power and domain for the very, very few who are in charge. It's a system based on greed, stupidity and cruelty.

Yet!

A Martin Luther King, Jr, a Mahatma Gandhi, a Dalai Lama can make a HUGE difference and ingnite a protean spark of change that eventually becomes a conflagration that consumes the asinine ways of the past.

My Christmas Eve "prayer" is that somebody comes along who will be this kind of person for our LGBTQ Community and initiate this much-needed evolution of consciousness worldwide so that we never have to weep over threads like this again.

Peace Everybody & Merry Christmas! :) Lacey Lynne

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Even if its a bit depressing, it's still nice to be reminded of the harsh realities sometimes. Just to remember that while some things are getting better, there's still such a way to go. That's what I think, at least.

And now, I'm going to go find some videos of kittens playing with boxes or something.

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Guest TigerFoxMatt

Funny thing is that I've often very much thought about being that type of Martin Luther King, Jr. person alluded to here in Matt's quote. Honestly, I really have ... not for fame ... not for glory ... not for gain ... but people like us of the LGBTQ Community.

I agree, and I plan on doing it, too, it's just a matter of where and when... Right now I am nothing more than a 15-year-old kid bounded by my parents, so I don't know what I could do... but someday.

A Martin Luther King, Jr, a Mahatma Gandhi, a Dalai Lama can make a HUGE difference and ingnite a protean spark of change that eventually becomes a conflagration that consumes the asinine ways of the past.

A favourite quote of mine-

"Never doubt a small group of committed people can change the world,

Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has"

- Margaret Mead

My Christmas Eve "prayer" is that somebody comes along who will be this kind of person for our LGBTQ Community and initiate this much-needed evolution of consciousness worldwide so that we never have to weep over threads like this again.

It's coming, I assure you. As I said before, it's just a matter of when and where.

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Guest ametur_poet

I've seen that dozens of times; it's all over FF.net and other fandom based sites for some reason.

There's this artist on Deviantart who is drawing all the verses out; it's really nice.

It's still pretty sad though, but it doesn't hit me like it used to.

Those pictures were quite moving; you can't ignore suffering when it is given a face. This world is long overdue for being rid of homophobia.

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Guest PaintedWingss

I've seen this before, and it made me cry, since I have experienced, or am afraid that I'll experience, a few of these.

-Taylor

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This is all too much a reality, sad to say. However, we can rise above it. We have each other and we can look out for each other. We've always existed and we have the right to live our lives openly.

Gennee

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Guest Amethyst

I cried when I read this. I hope that someday we can all be accepted and that we and our children won't have to suffer for who we are, who we choose to be and who we choose to love. :(

Amethyst

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Guest X Lucy X

Wow so true those words they got a lots of meaning and they made you think about all the differnent problems we have to face in this world

makes you cry to read but so true in all cases

((((Hugs))))

X Lucy X

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Guest Landra

I can relate to several of these, and I am dreading the rest of them. Thank you for posting this.

I fully intend to live to see that day, when we no longer need to hide who we are from anyone, when we will be treated fairly regardless of the lifestyle we choose. I will fight for that, and I give no quarter to those who oppose that dream.

can you be mtf and feel very aggresive and savage? i'm really waiting for someone to make openly fun of me or approach me..unfortunatly i'm like 1.88 meters and not really a pushover..so much anger in me.. if this goes on i will run into a fascist meeting and ******* ...does feeling feminine also means you have to feel peacefull? i have taken to much as a junkie..now that i'm clean i'm not taking anything anymore. and i'm acking for a good fight... i have fought alot as a kid..i got bullied alot..but all this fighting experience is pretty usefull. stupid homophobic world..don't blame me if i ever go on a rampage. sorry, just not approve this post if its unappropiate..i just felt the need to write down my frustartion against this intolerant world...and its making me aggresive, wich is normally not my nature.

Feeling strongly about your beliefs and being willing to defend them violently if necessary just means you're human, especially when you're the target of the intolerance. Wanting to fight may have a lot to do with hormones, but then again it might not. I am a follower of the goddess Artemis, one of the world's first feminists after the rise of patriarchal civilization, and I feel much as you do. I already carry a pocket knife, and I fully intend to start carrying a can of mace in the near future. While I won't go looking for trouble, if trouble finds me it'll wish it hadn't. I'd rather talk my way out of any problem, and I'll walk away from a conflict if I can, but I won't run. I can't run, I have serious joint problems, and I've actually found it easier to just incapacitate someone than it was to run from them.

Please don't go looking for trouble, starting a fight and getting yourself arrested just hurts your cause. Our detractors can turn a single incident into "transgenderism is a violent mental disease". It's been done before.

I didn't know domestic violence happened among lgbt people.

Domestic violence occurs everywhere. To my knowledge there is no correlation between any demographic (race, religion, sexuality etcetera) and occurrence of domestic violence.

May you find what you seek,

Landra

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Guest cassie51

Thank you for posting this. I have been on this earth a while and have lived in many different countries, exposed to many cultures. No matter where you go there always seems to be this "us against them" mentality It saddens me that us as human beings can rise to great heights of compassion and empathy during a disaster, but then always return to our cave mentalities when the crisis is past. I think about that a lot and it worries me if we as a species are really going to make it or go the way of the dinosaurs.

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It's a message that needs to be repeated. While people have become more accepting, there are still many closed-minded ones out there. My prediction is that it will be similar to how Martin Luther King fought against blacks being treated differently than whites. Eventually there will be one person who will stand up and say, "Hey, we're just like you guys; we don't deserve to be treated different,". We will have to bond together to have a greater impact, but I think we can do it. There may be a few casualties, but in the end maybe it will help put greater awareness to help stop hate crimes against LBGT people.

Thanks, Matt.

Here it is: Christmas Eve of 2010.

I'm reading this thread and weeping of loneliness, fear and loathing. How many of you are doing much the same thing to one degree or another. I dare say that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Funny thing is that I've often very much thought about being that type of Martin Luther King, Jr. person alluded to here in Matt's quote. Honestly, I really have ... not for fame ... not for glory ... not for gain ... but people like us of the LGBTQ Community.

Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Dalai Lama: These are the people I admire the most and have yearned, yearned, yearned to be just like them ... a person of conviction, determination and faith. Each of these people, in their own unique way, caused "masses of asses" to evolve both intellectually and spiritually.

Planet Earth has cancer: The worldwide economic system which sacrifices everybody and everything in the name of the accumulation of money, power and domain for the very, very few who are in charge. It's a system based on greed, stupidity and cruelty.

Yet!

A Martin Luther King, Jr, a Mahatma Gandhi, a Dalai Lama can make a HUGE difference and ingnite a protean spark of change that eventually becomes a conflagration that consumes the asinine ways of the past.

My Christmas Eve "prayer" is that somebody comes along who will be this kind of person for our LGBTQ Community and initiate this much-needed evolution of consciousness worldwide so that we never have to weep over threads like this again.

Peace Everybody & Merry Christmas! smile.gif Lacey Lynne

Lacey,

So, you were praying on this Christmas Eve, back in 2010? Me too!

In fact, it was on that very same day that I finally ingested my last dose of Xanax, ending a horrific 5 month self-taper off of a heavy-dose 6 year prescription addiction . It also began another horrible chapter, namely, a 2 month period of Acute Withdrawal Symptoms that I should have undertaken in an in-patient faciity. Seizures, heart attack, strokes were always a possibility as I detoxed, and literally dozens of other very serious complications were my constant companion.

But it didn't end there! Another 18 months of debilitating Protracted Withdrawal Syndrome followed. The list of hugely painful and debilitating symptoms that wracked my mind and body continued to haunt me until very recently. I feel MUCH better now, though I am still contending with some tenacious leftover issues 22 months after my last dose and 27 months after I first started the 'weaning off' process...

So, what is my point?

That whatever the obstacles in between, we both prayed on that very same day for a better world and the means to help bring such a world into existence. And here we both are, almost two years later, you now on HRT, me now off of all prescription poison, still intending to keep our promises to try to improve the world we inhabit...

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not implying that I/you/we are the next MLK or Gandhi, but I am ASSERTING that if we can overcome such obstacles well enough to be healthy and effective, against such difficult odds, then we can potentially affect even more change to the world around us than even we may realize. By 'looking at the man in the mirror' we are empowering ourselves to be effective tools for improving the conditions around us...

So, Rock ON, Lacey Lynne!

Ask and you shall receive, knock and you shall enter...

My psychiatrists had given up on me and relegated me to the 'medicate until dead' population. I was clearly NOT ready to call it a day and surrender to death, even the slow comfortably numb death that Central Nervous System suppressants like Xanax brings on...

Stupid, stupid Psychiatrists!!!

I've seen some pretty cool things happen on this planet so far. I am hopeful to see many more things that lift my spirit before I am done here on planet Earth...

Glad you are still kickin' it, too...

Christmas Eve, 2010, that was a VERY big day for me!

Love and longevity, Svenna

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Guest Jessica_Mowry

Homophobia like this describes made me feel like I had to be colder and more distant when I tried to present as male and while becoming the woman I need to be makes me feel like we need our own civil defense unit and I should help if not lead even though while I have the strength and knowledge and the ability to react without fleeing I know that the depression and PTSD I have already bad enough and the self guilt I have for the 2300 animals (conservative estimate) I had to help put down and things I should have done to have made a bigger difference for my mothers health that I didn't know at the time and not sending her probilly sped up her death makes me know that I don't want to go down that path eventhough our community needs those type of services that alot of times police and EMTs don't provide. Really I want to just have a nice wife and a place I can have my dogs and have and work on my old cars and not have to worry about neighbor or police harassment and if I could afford to make it a theodish commune to give people from my communities and dogs in need shelter and teach them skills, safety and the frith with only being judged by their deeds so much better. I also want to start up a car club thought about doing it for transpeople and allies mainly because it sounded like a good idea when I was ripping on myself for being so naive that I only new of the terms trannys and trans in relation to transmissions and for people it sounded more like a car club than an insult or a label for people. I guess I have rambled for one post hope I didn't confuse anyone too much or seem to nuts.

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Guest erinanita

This is an excellent post. It really makes me think about how bad it can get for some of us. I haven't thought a lot about the intolerance in my area. I guess I just haven't noticed. Last August I was removed from the presidency in the housing co-op that I live in. I thought at first that it was because of some controversial issues that the board had been working on but when I paid attention to the fact that I was the only board member asked to give up the position, it made me realize that it was because I had changed my name and my gender and asked the board to pass a resolution recognizing that. It was okay with the board members but the "christian" membership had issues with it. Funny thing was that when the membership got together (without me, of course) nobody wanted to be the president. The member who did accept the position by default got a rude awakening when he joked about it to me.

It's always been there. It always will be there, whether we have the willingness to see and feel it or not

Thtufus

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Guest Jaques

im not sure if anyone has seen this or if its the right thread, but it says "something for everyone" - i read this today.........

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Guest amanda_s

Deejay thanks for posting this ,the part about high school hit me hard because to survive i some how forgot everything that happened in school when i was 19 only now do i remember some of it. don't want to say more it was bad.

Amanda

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Guest LizMarie

I don't know about in Canada, Toni, but in the US GLBT persons are victims of assault and violence at higher rates than the general population. A state representative in Tennessee wants a law to make it "protected speech" for people to religiously bully GLBT persons. Another state representative threatened to "stomp a mudhole" into any TG woman who he might catch using a woman's restroom. These are the political leaders of various communities and regions in the United States. Homophobia and transphobia are very real topics.

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

Ah yes, its the land of the brave and the home of the free....

Where the less you know, the better off you'll be.

With respects to Warren Zevon.

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Yeah, I guess Canada is more accepting. as far as I know, we accept gay marriage. I knew that Tenesee was really bad about it. Watched a documentary on youtube...that's real harsh...

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