Comeing Out

[Guest Tay-Tay]

Ok so i came out to one of my cuzins and he was tottally kewl with it and now im thinking about telling my dad when he comes home to visit because my dad is the understanding one so im thinking about telling him but i dont know how?? so i am wondering how and when to tell him like before he leaves or right when he gets home because if he does react the way i hope he does he will get me a hole bunch of clothes and stuff that would be useful and maybe even help with starting T

[Guest Snow Angel]

Doing it in person is more personable and emotional, but if you just can't do it that way, write a well thought out letter.

[Guest Jack Solomon]

How long will he be visiting home for? When you tell your dad, try to start with saying "dad, I have something to talk to you about" (or something similiar). This starts the conversation and makes him realize that you have something important to tell him. I would probably reccomend telling him anytime while he's there at home and you can have some privacy. I would not reccomend telling him when he's close to leaving, because that gives him less time to process the information and talk with you before he goes.

When talking to him emphasize that you have always felt that you are a guy but you just have the wrong body. You always felt different or like something was out of place but didn't know what it was or what was wrong - now you do. Being a FTM is a medically recognized condition and you want to start transitioning to eventually live as a guy. Try to mention that you've been learning a lot about this condition recently and you are very serious about doing something about it and transitioning.

Other things to consider saying when talking to him: consider mentioning that being an FTM is a condition that a person is born with, and that transitioning is safe and you will be monitored throughout your transition by medical professionals. Parents and other relatives are sometimes very concerned if transitioning is safe and if you will be healthy on hormone therapy (because they won't know much about it at first).

Another thing you might want to do before talking to him is write down what you want to say to him in a letter. You don't have to show him the letter, but it might help prepare you for talking to him by writing down what you want to say.

Solomon