Happy Life.. But?

[Guest imaftm]

Hello. Let me introduce my self. I'm an FTM, has been running T for 9months now. I'm a chinese person who live in jakarta which is the capital city of Indonesia. My life here is very happy at all. I was a bachelor degree of art. I have a beautiful girlfriend, and our relationship has run more than 5 years. She is a bachelor degree of art too (classical pianist). My plan is to open a music school (in progress, but because of this problem, I still consider it). I am very grateful for what I have.

But..

2 things :

1. My parents still can't accept my situation dress like men. They still expect me to dress up like women. They did not know I had run HRT. I understand they need time to accept my confessions. My mother still can speak well, although it seems so difficult to her to accept my situations but my father was unable to accept my circumstances. He always say, you are a woman be a woman, even though I've explained a lot. He said, I never can accept it.

2. Many people who meet me for the first time called me as Sir, Mr, but my identity card is still listed me as a female. In my country, it's very difficult to change gender identity. There are about 5 people who successed to change his/her gender identity card but they became media spotlights. It's not really safe here to be media spotlights. We can be criticized by certain groups. They strongly opposed. Well, One of my hobby is weight lifting in a gym, and I still go into women's locker room, I really feel uncomfortable, because I feel as a man who entered the women's locker room.

Honestly, I want to be recognized as men with a male identity card.

And if you live in countries that accept transgender status and have a job to me, I'll be interested. I think this is good for my future life as a transgender. Me and my girlfriend are diligent, don't drink alcohol, don't smoke, very responsible, very discipline, and loyal to the job.

Thank you to read this

If you have oppinion or suggestion, I'll be glad.

Regards,

V

[Carolyn Marie]

Hello, honey, and welcome to the Playground. I'm so sorry your post didn't get answered right away, but it was early morning in the U.S.

and it happens sometimes.

It sounds like you are doing well in your transition, and you are lucky indeed to have an understanding and supportive girlfriend. But I am

sorry to hear about your struggles with your family. If you read through the forums, you will see that you're certainly not alone in those

struggles.

There are many places in the world that are relatively easy to transition in, particularly if you have the financial means. America is one

such place.

Please post in the forums, V, and you will receive answers to your questions, support and friendship.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[JJ]

Hi V

Welcome to Laura's!

I am happy your life is going well for the most part but am sorry to hear about your problems with acceptance from your parents and being unable to change your identity card.

You'll find people from all over the world here who can relate to the problems you face with changing yor identity card and many wo understand about rejection by family. I look forward to hearing more from you.

JohnJ

[Guest imaftm]

#carolyn : Hi Carolyn, thank you for your attention and I'm sorry it took so long to reply. I'm pretty busy today. I agree, America is a appropriate choice. Where do you live? How do people respond to you?

#jj : Hi jj. I know for sure that many cases like mine. Where do you live? Do you like living at there? Thanks jj

[Carolyn Marie]

#carolyn : Hi Carolyn, thank you for your attention and I'm sorry it took so long to reply. I'm pretty busy today. I agree, America is a appropriate choice. Where do you live? How do people respond to you?

I live in California, in the Los Angeles area.

People have responded very well to me so far, V. I am not full time yet, but I have about 10-12 co-workers who know and who have been very supportive, and my encounters with random people I meet, including sales staff and waiters and such have been great. I have had no problems, but perhaps I am just lucky. What's that old saying, "Its better to be lucky than smart."

Carolyn Marie

[Guest imaftm]

Very nice carolyn. Its good to know that you feel happy with your life Take care

Big hugs,

V

[JJ]

I live in Arkansas and while I love the mountains and climate it is not friendly to trans people. Or any other diversity.

And it is the poorest state in the US so I couldn't recommend it.to anyone coming in to the US.

JJ

[Guest imaftm]

I'm sorry to hear that JJ. But as we all know, we have so many friends from so many country in the world here. Glad to find this forums. Takecare JJ

Hugs,

V