Hi Guys

[Guest scott]

Ive been wondering around these boards for a while now;

But im still very confused whether im trans or not.

just wondered if you guys could help me a bit on what you think by what i tell you;

Ive always been boyish, my twin sister used to buy dresses when we were little and i would buy jeans and shirts, i used to play with cars and hated dresses etc. When i was little i used to wear my pj shorts under my jeans coz i thought they were like boxers. I used to try and stand up to pee coz thats what i thought i was ment to do.

I brought a binder a while ago coz i just hate the mounds on my chest. I always have felt like i was in the wrong body, like im trapped in the wrong body and should be in a different one.

basically do you guys think that i could be trans. I know its not a broad picture of me but just things i thought were important, I belive there is definately something not 100% right about me. But how can i be sure if i am trans that i am?

cheers guys

[Guest StrandedOutThere]

That's a hard question and one that I am dealing with myself right now. I'm not sure how you can be 100% certain you are trans. A good start is to try and find a therapist who is knowledgeable about gender issues. That's what I'm doing now.

I know what you mean about the chest mounds. I hate mine too.

[Guest Drew]

you sound trans to me. although, only you can be the judge of that. i'm here to talk if you need to. welcome to the forums

Drew

[Guest Snow Angel]

Nobody can tell you if you are trans or not but you. (And qualified gender therapists.) Non-qualified people like us don't like to give advice on if you should transition or not. That part is up to you. If a non-qualified person tells you that you're trans, and you believe it based on their idea, what if you transition and regret it? It makes the person who diagnosed you responsible for your misery and irreversible changes.

That being said, I do think you're possibly trans. Cisgender girls don't normally buy binders. (Unless they're cosplaying or dressing as a male character for halloween.) Your body self loathing issues and daily binding sound like very strong gender dysphoria issues. Your childhood issues are also extremely strong signs.

Take your time, examine your innermost feelings, and watch/read every trans resource you can get your hands on. It's a journey, not a race. If you find that transition is really the only way you'll be able to function and be happy with life, then find a gender therapist and work from there. Transition because it's what YOU want to do; not because of what someone else told you that you are.

[Guest brandt]

well no one except a gender therapist or some sort could diagnose you and tell you if you are trans or not. but to me in my opinion, you could possibly be one, because i feel the same way you have everyday of my life and i consider myself trans. i don't like labels much. but i know that i'm proud to be trans and be in support for other trans people as well. i say with your clues you are one but i could be wrong. maybe its a phase but i highly doubt it. again its my opinion.

[Guest Mr. Fox]

Those behaviors seem to be indicative of transsexuality, the ones unrelated to stereotypes drawing my attention the most. However, only you can decide can figure this out. Not us. Not even a gender therapist. You.

[Guest JayJaye]

Sounds like being transgendered is a possibility, based on what you've said. But a good therapist will be invaluable in sorting out your feelings and helping you make an accurate diagnosis of gender identity disorder or not.

Good luck! And we're here if you need us.

Jay

[Guest scott]

cheers guys for your replys,

i just dont want to label myself as something that i might later regret, and i know how i feel isnt a phase because i have always felt like this?

to try and sort how i feel out what do i do?

[Guest Drew]

you should probably go and see a gender therapist, they would be able to properly diagnose you.

[Guest raydub]

talking to us helps...or it helped me. a lot.

read around the forums and try to figure out if some of your own feelings mirror those you read.

check a couple of books out of the library.

start journaling, or if you have past journals, read them and see whats been going on in your head that you may have forgotten about.

loads of stuff you can do to try to figure yourself out.

counselors and therapists are masterminds at getting you to think about things in a different way - so see one (like so many have said) will help too...if you can.

if you cant get a counselor/therapist then talking to close friends (even if its not EXACTLY about the transgender issue) can help.

just a few ideas...

and like the guys have been sayin - we're here for you.

Ray

[Guest Cal]

I don't understand the need to label yourself as anything. Why do you have to be called trans at all? You can be whatever you want.