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Me and the wife took the kids to a trunk or treat at her school and afterwards took the kids to Cicis for pizza. The wife took the girls to find a table and I payed for the dinner. When in line paying the lady kept saying ma'am to me. Come on I even pulled my wallet out to pay for everything and she still called me ma'am. I posted my picture from yesterday in my gallery. I labeled it 7 months. I can't see why I passed yesterday twice in male mode.

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Guest JaniceW

Sarah,

It is really quite simple actually, you are a woman and the world sees you that way. Your picture is very telling, in it I see a woman. No questions, no doubts, it is simply the photograph of a woman.

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Guest KimberlyF

Your cheeks and neck and no beard do it for me for one thing. If you had fem mannerisims that would put it over the top. You even look like a girl wearing a ballcap.

Kim

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Oh Sarah!

You see yourself every day, and the changes are gradual, but they are there! I guess to get technical, in the new photo verses the photo prior to HRT, your cheeks are more rounded, and your neck has really slimmed up. Plus you have nice curly hair with some bounce in it.

I believe you are finding yourself in a similar situation to what Lizzy, Dee Jay, and others have gone through. Still more or less being seen as male by those who have been conditioned over time to see you that way, yet being seen as female by others who see both the internal and external femininity you truly are.

Sarah, it is a new world for you Girl!

Huggs,

Opal

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You are seeing yourself with eyes conditioned by the past. i can't find a man anywhere i that picture. The people are seeing you as a woman because you are one inside and out now!

Hugs

John

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Are you sure that's male mode because seriously sweety you look like any number of butch lesbian friends of mine who just came from their kids softball game.

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Sarah, you might as well get used to it, hon.

You can run, but you can't hide. :lol:

Carolyn Marie

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Guest silentlysearching

oh geez Sarah, I don't see how you could pass for a guy! I haven't known you long, but from what I see, you are just a girl dressed as a guy!

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Guest sarah f

Thanks to each of you for your replies. I still don't see how I passed but thanks anyway.

Kairi I had to laugh at your response. That was one that I would not have thought of before. Being thought of gay yeah sure but butch lesbian. :lol:

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Guest Robin Winter

I know it's been said already, but really it's only because you're accustomed to seeing your face as a male face. I completely understand why you got ma'am.

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Guest Elizabeth K

We just met in person (you are delightful, by the way). Seriously - and I think I told you then, you make a pretty girl. I think you are feeling that in yourself, and your attitude may be projecting it. You are simply female to most people now.

It's what you want - its happening.

You will soon be 100% female by default no matter how hard you try to present male. Now you have to convince yourself you are finally there - and that takes some work. - we have been wanting it so long.

Lizzy

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Guest ChloëC

Sarah,

Your latest picture reminds me of a woman I see about once a year at a get together. You could easily be taken for her sister as you appear. I wouldn't put it quite as Kairi did, to me you look like a woman with just a few mannish features. Like any number of women I see regularly.

Hugs

Chloë

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