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Guest StrandedOutThere

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Guest StrandedOutThere

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I'm so excited that my manhood is threatened. There is a transguy group IN MY CITY! My town is really conservative, so I totally didn't expect to find anyone. Still, there they were...I linked to the group through FTMInternational. They had a livejournal page and everything! OMG!

What's even more awesome is that they posted on their page that they were meeting at this pizza place at 7. On one hand, I so want to go over there and scope them out. On the other, I'm afraid they won't like me or might get sketched out if I just show up somewhere. I'm kinda shy when I'm out here in the real world. I'm also kinda scared that one of them will know someone who knows me...or know someone who knows someone who knows me...something like that. I'm am the sort of person who tends to stick out a little, so I don't blend so well. For whatever reason, people tend to remember me. Also, this is a smallish town and I'm not at all out to anyone that I know. Still, I really, really, really want to meet other FTMs (and MTFs and whoever else).

I'm excited, but scared. What to do?

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you should go. generally, people from trans-support groups won't out you to family or friends, they have experience with it and have probably been in your position. i'm pretty shy in the real world too, but sometimes you just need to suck it up and go for it...even if it's obvious how awkward you are, people tend to be nice about it...especially at support groups.

good luck

Drew

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Guest JayJaye

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There's a group near me as well that I'm going to scope out too. Less than 5 miles from my house, and that is nothing where I live. Too bad we're not in the same place. I'd go with you!

Jay

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Guest Draik

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You should definitely go. If they had that kinda group where I lived I would go. You are really luck and once you get there you will probably be glad you went.

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Wow, that awesome :D I remember looking online for trans support groups and the closest thing I found was about hours away. I would definately go if I had one close to me. Just remember that all these guys are in the same boat that you are. I think you should just go and meet some new friends^^

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Guest CharliTo

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That's what I felt when I first went to a real life support group. I went and I'm glad I did =) I'm pretty friendly with all of them, convinced one to join the forum and all that :P There's a lot of good chance that it'll be fun :)

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Guest Snow Angel

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Just go and do not be afraid. Remember, they are as welcoming and open as yourself. They would be glad to see a new face in the group.

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As they say Get Er Done....at least I think that's how they spell it...lol not sure....anyways GO!!!

What do you have to lose? Someone recognizing you from a small town? I can understand that...

Fine wear a hat....there you go....problem solved.

Nick~

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Guest raydub

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:mad: Stranded! This is your mirror image talking... GO TO MEET THE GROUP!!!

dont make me come down there!!!

:) Seriously.. itll be cooler than you think.

Ray

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Thanks for the encouragement guys! I'm totally going to go. I think I'll be able to work up the courage. Hopefully someone will email be back soon. There are about 10 people in the group, so it isn't huge. They seem like really cool guys.

Fine wear a hat....there you go....problem solved.

I'm often wearing a hat anyway...so that'll work!

Ha ha! Ray...you don't have to come down here. I'll go. If you are ever in the neighborhood, we can both go hang out!

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Dudes! A member of the group just emailed me. He was nice and I think they are going to have a "meet the new members meeting". I'm stoked. Still scared a little because this means that I am confronting my trans identity in real live, not just on the internet...but mostly I'm stoked.

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SWEEEET! Grab hold of those "stoked" feelings and RUN WITH THEM!!!

And be sure to let us know how that goes.

Ray

Will do! Awesome!

Sorry...I'm from a beach town. I talk a little like a 1990's surfer dude. Far out, man.

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Will do! Awesome!

Sorry...I'm from a beach town. I talk a little like a 1990's surfer dude. Far out, man.

:lol: sadly dude? i think i do too.. guess that's what happens when you live in LA for six years. :huh:

totally

Ray

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Guest JayJaye

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Dudes! A member of the group just emailed me. He was nice and I think they are going to have a "meet the new members meeting". I'm stoked. Still scared a little because this means that I am confronting my trans identity in real live, not just on the internet...but mostly I'm stoked.

Trust me dude, this will be the best thing you did for yourself. When I first talked on the phone then met a local guy it was amazing. My daughter met him and his wife today. It's huge to have local support. There is a group near me that meets tonight but i don't have the time or place thing yet.

Jay

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