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when i found this place, literally.. I'd been getting so very frustrated at where I 'placed' and was thinking very strongly that I was ftm, but it just didn't sit right. I'm very 'fem' for a male, but I don't feel like a female either. I was breaking down in tears after going and reading all these things to try and better understand things and I just didn't 'fit' and was terrified I would be seen as 'valid' since, I didn't feel /male/ but was far from female....

then I stumbled on here and the sense of relief was almost immediate. And I instantly understood where I was, or at least had a much better idea of it.

I have to say, to everyone who's posted before me. (and after) thank you, I feel as if a very heavy burden has been lifted off my back and I finally have somewhere I can go for questions, and answers.

-Sam

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Welcome to Laura's Sam. I am happy that you found this place and found some of the answers you were looking for. If there are any questions you have yet had answered just ask and we will try to help.

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^.^ Thank you for the welcomes~

I think my only one 'pressing' question is about binding ^.^ but I'd been hunting around for those answers on google and even youtube(has some very good video's~)... I'm a goodly amount overweight and I have a horrible time with my ace bandages(sadly I can't get my paws on anything wider so I have to use two) rolling up and ending quite painful after abut 2 hours of wear. And i'd hate to sacrifice the confidence boost I get from binding so I'm thinking i just have to break down and buy one of those nifty shirts I've been seeing.

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I just didn't 'fit' and was terrified I would be seen as 'valid' since, I didn't feel /male/ but was far from female....

Uggh...the above bothers me when people say things like that when they first get here...anyway.

Hi Sam!

I'm glad you are finding answers here. The world is not two boxes on a questionnaire and knowing that you're not alone does lift a weight off of your shoulders.

Trust me on this one, I doubt anyone on this site would ever question if you are valid. That's not how it works here. And we've all had thoughts like that and regardless of how we self-describe that is a terrible thing to think about oneself. You are you and you are worth as much as anyone else.

Kim

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thank you,

I know my reasonings be hide the very crappy wording. I have quite strong anxieties over how I'm perceived socially, and I get stuck in the mindset of 'they wont accept be because I'm not good enough' even though I know it's utter rubbish, I've never had problems being accepted in any social group I've attempted. (of course there are plenty I utterly didn't mesh with but didn't /want/ to.)

heh, it's actually those anxieties that are trying to work at making me explain myself. >.>''

But I think I digressed quite well from the thought I had in mind about it and now I've completely forgotten ^.^

but all in all it's a poorly worded format for feeling I don't fit in much of anywhere since with /anything/ in my life I don't have strong emotions to tilt me to one way of the other... I'm a very good fence sitter.

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when i found this place, literally.. I'd been getting so very frustrated at where I 'placed' and was thinking very strongly that I was ftm, but it just didn't sit right. I'm very 'fem' for a male, but I don't feel like a female either. I was breaking down in tears after going and reading all these things to try and better understand things and I just didn't 'fit' and was terrified I would be seen as 'valid' since, I didn't feel /male/ but was far from female....

then I stumbled on here and the sense of relief was almost immediate. And I instantly understood where I was, or at least had a much better idea of it.

I have to say, to everyone who's posted before me. (and after) thank you, I feel as if a very heavy burden has been lifted off my back and I finally have somewhere I can go for questions, and answers.

-Sam

I cried too, typing my first post here. When I read the replies, I cried even more. God it felt so good. I'm glad you had the same relief! ^_^

I can relate to your social anxieties too. I think it's actually a disorder of some sort? I dunno, but people just make me uncomfortable at first, whether I'm intimidated or just shy, and it's annoying.

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