Family Problems

[Guest BlakeWolf]

im nto sure if this one goes here but i guess i can try to explain.

Well my mom give sme a lot of crap for being who i am. i came out as gay last year and my mom hated me beyond belief caused me so many problems and put me in depression and alot of my friends were scared for me. i then moved into my grandparents house my gf at the time would come over there and id go over to her house. they didnt care or possibly didnt know but im sure they did. at the time i didnt know that i should be a guy i just thought of myself as one and i knew i loved girls. my gf then dumped me and has made it very hard for me by playing with me and pretending to love me again for the sex. i then found out and accepted that i was a ftm and i talked to her about it cause we were still close even if she did use me for sex. i explained to her telling her i was a ftm but not liek a complete one. i had wanted to be a guy but i would like to keep my "plumbing" the same. she said she loved me and accepted me still. well i then found another girl and told her. then her mom found out and is trying to sue me for harrasment for talking to her daughter cause she came out as bi and liked me. she was the only one that really accepted me and would say he and him and call me blake. well her mom told my mom and again here comes the hell from her she has been bashing me and harrasing me for awhile now. and would send me emails harrasing me. my dad who lives in another city doesnt know but he knows im gay at the moment( cause i still come off as a girl) and hes a liberal doesnt care what i am he still loves me. im not sure what to do my grandparents see something in me but dont know what. and my grandma is making my mom spend more time with me which i do not want at all.

im not sure what to do anymore i jsut want her to leave me alone

Blake

[Carolyn Marie]

Geez, Blake, you've got yourself a bad situation here, no doubt about it.

I gather that you don't have that much, if any, face to face contact with your mother any more. I would change

your email address or block hers if possible, and tell her in no uncertain terms that you want nothing to do

with her until she can accept you. However she gets in touch with you now, you need to find a way to block

her contacts.

At least you still have your dad's support. Hopefully your mother can't influence him against you.

I'm not sure how someone's mother can sue you for harassment, when her daughter is perfectly fine with you.

But I guess anyone can sue anybody for anything these days.

I don't know what else to tell you, Blake. I wish you luck.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest sarah f]

Blake I am so sorry your mom is acting this way toward you.

Unfortunately with your age she still has parental rights. That doesn't make what she is doing right. I would just tell her how she is hurting you. Verbal abuse is still abuse and she needs to hear that from you.

Are you seeing a therapist? If not then suggest you see a gender therapist. They can help you figure out what you need and want. They can also help your mom understand hopefully that this is not a choice for you.

I wish you luck and hope things get better soon.

[Guest BlakeWolf]

i cant really keep out of contact with her, my grandma always makes me talk to her and stuff and ive told her before and my grandma even talked to her about it and so has my father but she doesnt get it.

and no im not seeing a therapist im not sure where one is in my area and i dont have the money for one :/