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Repeal Of Dadt Will Have No Effect On How Tg/ts


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Guest Emily Ray

Hi everyone,

I just heard on fox news that the military will still treat TG's and TS's just as they always have! While this is disappointing I am not surprised. Yet again the LGB organizers have thrown us under the bus so they could get what they wanted! I have had enough of the LGB movement and I think aligning our need for rights with them is going to continue to be a hindrance to further efforts to gain equality with others.

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Emily

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Guest ChloëC

I just read an internet piece on all this located here.

Basically what it is saying is that DADT (Don't Ask Don't Tell) only applied by law to the LGB community but was also used for the T community if the military saw fit. But since the DADT only referred to LGB despite how the military interpreted it, that after repeal of DADT, that the T community still has exactly the same risks and prohibitions it did before.

Second, that article made it very clear that any fear mongering by the fanatical right wing regarding T's in the military and how it would lead to the destruction of our military might, was just simply that - fear mongering, since DADT only applies to the LGB community and NO ONE ELSE. So they should just shut up because they would not have to worry about anything like that.

What I take from this, is that to my understanding this means that the LGB community is sacrificing the T community so that DADT can finally be repealed (which it has) and that in all probability, since they have what they want, they will wash their hands of this whole business (oh, they will cry great big crocodile tears for the T's, and maybe issue a statement or two now and again, but there certainly won't be any concerted push by political action committees or lobbyists) but they won't actively push for any more concessions.

That is unless anyone can show me some well publicized article of demands by any LGBT group stating quite publically that they will do for the T community exactly what they did for the LGB community regarding honorable military service, backed up by a well thought out plan of action. Lacking either, will tell volumes about real commitment.

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Chloë

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The following was written by Kelli Busey on her blog. I am in total agreement with her on this one!

PETITION FOR DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE:

This Petition is for dissolution of marriage and it is alleged on oath as follows:

1. Petitioner resides at Any street, Every Town, Every State and has resided there since at least 1706 and (90) days immediately prior to the filing of this Petition.

2. Petitioner and Respondent were shotgunned married during the 1990's resulting in the T being assimilated into the gay acronym GLB in the USA with the marriage being recognized worldwide.

3. The parties were separated on or before September 27, 2007 .

4. There are six identities born to or adopted by the Parties. The names and dates of birth are: Questioning, Bisexual, Intersex ,Asexual, Gender gifted, Gender Queer. All were born ? years BC. The trans complainant is now pregnant with multiple identities and expressions.

5. Petitioner and Respondent are enter into an Agreement resolving all issues of the marriage, which is recorded in their Identity Settlement Agreement and Child Care Plan, a true and correct copy of which is attached to this Complaint as Exhibit �A�.

6. Petitioner is mainly unemployed and underemployed, being discriminated against during and after transition. Respondent is usually employed not directly affected by sexual affinity in the work place and now in the armed forces service of his/her country.

7. There is no reasonable likelihood that the marriage between Petitioner and Respondent can be preserved, and therefore, the marriage is irretrievably broken.

WHEREFORE, Petitioner prays for its orders:

a. dissolving the marriage between the Petitioner and Respondent;

b. dividing the marital properly between Petitioner and Respondent according to law and settling all marital and non-marital identity and expression issues of the parties and resolving child issues as specified in the attached Property Settlement Agreement and Child Care Plan;

c. and granting such other and further relief as to this Court seems just and proper in the circumstances.

Petitioner wishes to retain the umbrella identity of Transgender and not be associated with the name of "gay" or "gay agenda" upon the date of the divorce.

Transsexual Community, USA___________________________________

Signature of Petitioner

EXIBIT A:

Gay people agree not to use transgender/transsexual peoples name or identity in organization names which do not have transgender people in membership or advocate for transgender corcerns. Drag performers will now be recognized with a "gay" name if the performer identifies themselves as cisgender.

Further more, gay people commit to discontinue using 'crossdresser' a slanderous pejorative for revenue and commercial purposes. Gay people also promise not to use pejoratives defaming trans people in cisgender media for the purposes of creating sensationalist extrinsic controversy intended to exacerbate discord within the divorced parties.

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Many in trans community, already up in arms after Congressman Barney Franks offered his latest deceptions regarding 2010 ENDA's debacle blaming gender issues. Meaning if, transgender people had not been written (Married to gay people) in in the first place ENDA would have succeeded. Many are now calling for this Divorce so I thought I would write this petition.

And now we get left out of theDAD* repeal!

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Guest Billijo49504

I agree on the national level, this sucks. But on the local level, we are being treated very well by the local LGBT orginization. We have a very nice meeting room to use, actually it their board room. All they ask, is if you have it, throw in a buck or two to help with costs. That's for every group that meets there. They are a non profit, so with their help, we are getting a small grant, to help our group grow. I have a key and alarm codes, so we don't have to have someone open and close the building. Nationally it not so good. But here in Grand Rapids, Michigan, the Network has done everything they could to help us grow. Maybe we should write the President to complain. We are a large group, If everyone wrote, they might get the idea. We do vote...Billijo

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