Fashion Advice?

[Guest MonikaC]

I know the types of things I like. I know what looks good on me (for the most part anyway). I'm having an issue though. Most of what I like are things that would draw attention to me. I like more fashionable clothes that tend to be a bit more flashy in style. Nothing revealing, or with lots of sequins, or anything like that but i still feel like if I went out in some of the things I want it would draw unwanted attention. I can't really pull off the t-shirt and jeans look as my body shape is still too masculine for anything form fitting. I can't wear anything that reveals too much chest as even after I shave, you can still see stubble. I'm sort of at a loss of things to look at that would look good on me. I know that it is hard to recommend things with out seeing me in person, but does anyone have some suggestions of what sort of thing to start looking at?

[Guest Emily Ray]

Monika,

I had the same problem with the chest hair in the early months as well. Shaving doesn't work that well as you have described. My solution was to pluck it all out and every few days I pluck again. It now grows very thin and there is now shadow even if I get lazy and shave it. depending on your body this may not work well for you. Moving on to suggestion two. It is winter and the time for turtlenecks is upon us. I have three, no four that I wear regularly. Some are sleeveless and other long sleeved. It gets rid of two problem areas the throat an chest. I have noticed that most of the close I get from thrift stores is a little short in the body. What to do? I solve that problem by wearing long camisole underneath. It also helps with plunging neck lines. I have a sweater set that the top sweater buttons at the top and that is it. You are tall if I remember and you will always be the center of attention in any room you walk into. as long as you aren't wearing provocative clothing go for it girl. You only have one life to live and you will only be young and beautiful for a little while before you are mature and beautiful. I am always getting compliments on my clothes and it makes me feel great when I do. I spend a lot of time putting together outfits and jewelery and shoes and tights and purses and make up together for a complete look. I feel better about myself and it shows. I have been stared down by some very pretty girls in San Diego and I stare right back. I am a special kind of woman and and I live like it.

Huggs

Em

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Honey.....

I'm 60 and full time...My experience growing up was the "peasant skirts" ...puffy blouses and tie-dye stuff for girls...

But I missed all of that...

Now I dress "age appropriate"...but, stylishly!

It all depends on your stage of transition,I suppose....you mention that the "jeans and T shirt" won't cut it right now...But, don't sell youselof short...half of the people in the world are women...all shapes and sizes...

to be able to make any suggestions...

There is always a way!

Huggggggs!

Donna Jean

[Guest NadineB]

Just from my personal experience, I tried the Jeans and t-shirt and actually look pretty good in it. I am overweight and when I wore my guys clothes it always has to be baggy and I felt horrible if my stomach showed or my moobs. I first bought woman's jeans years ago way before hrt. I started trying ladies t-shirt about 6 months ago and realized it was more comfortable being tighter and noticed it is cut differently in the body/waist area, even with broad shoulders and a bit of a belly the shirts make me feel slimmer and the make my breasts stand out more. They are also cut differently in the bottom part to fit the hips but the actually make hips look a bit wider. And just to top it off it is made of a much softer materiel than guys t shirt. (I love being a woman, my clothes are all softer) I must say that the JMS from walmart is very cheap and looks ok when you put them on but don't hold their shape at all, but it is a very inexpensive first t shirt to try.Hope this helps some.

Luv Nadine

[Guest MonikaC]

Thanks for all the suggestions! I'll be going out for the first time in years pretty soon, and really just want to blend in. Most of the things I like are from places like Banana Republic, Buckle, and Nordstrom. I just want to be able to go out and be me, not have to worry about people noticing me.

Emily, thanks for the turtleneck suggestion. I'll have to see what I can find.

DJ, thanks for the pep talk! I'll have to revisit the t-shirt and jeans thing. I'm just afraid of looking pregnant or something.

Nadine, I'll have to go and check out those t-shirts! Thanks for the suggestion.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Well, are the styles you like appropriate for the place you would be wearing them? Meaning do you see other women wearing similar styles or colors? If not then you may want to reconsider or at least tone down the colors. For me, I used to stick with earth-tone solid colors as they were drab and not eye-catching. Lately though I have found myself wearing prints more (at least for tops) and also wearing purple more. If you have a cute outfit on, it usually doesn't matter the color but more how you wear it and how good it looks on you.

I've also read in a lot of magazines that you don't have to splurge on latest styles and trends but incorporate one or two latest trend items into your regular wardrobe. The example they used was instead of buying an animal print blouse, buy an animal print belt or bracelet and work it into your outfit that way.

I personally have stopped wearing t-shirts with jeans. Jeans go well with cute regular tops as well, so find a cute one you like and pair it with jeans for a nice casual every day outfit.

[Guest Lacey Lynne]

Thanks for all the suggestions! I'll be going out for the first time in years pretty soon, and really just want to blend in. Most of the things I like are from places like Banana Republic, Buckle, and Nordstrom. I just want to be able to go out and be me, not have to worry about people noticing me.

Emily, thanks for the turtleneck suggestion. I'll have to see what I can find.

DJ, thanks for the pep talk! I'll have to revisit the t-shirt and jeans thing. I'm just afraid of looking pregnant or something.

Nadine, I'll have to go and check out those t-shirts! Thanks for the suggestion.

Everybody's advice to you on this thread is just great. Completely agree with everything everybody told you. These are smart, stylish gals here with real-world experience. Listen to them.

All I can possibly add is to go with your instincts, hon. The places you shop at are GREAT places in my book anyway. My tastes seem to run similarly to yours: Flashy but with color rather than garrishness, upscale casual look that pops according to your taste and instinct.

I'd dress to your tastes, your instinct and your whims. Strut your stuff and love it. Radiate, girl. How? By being yourself.

Try it and see!

Lacey